Freaking out over this...

DMB2STEP

Ok, I know I tend to overreact but I can't stop getting this worry out of my mind. My three year old was at her little friend's tonight with us and both were extremely over tired.. they were laying on the floor rolling in blankets..

Anyhow, the little boy was stepping over her but accidentally stepped ON her lower belly with one of his feet. You could tell it her my daughter cause she made a horrible face and then cried --just a minute or so and went right  back on to playing.. am I freaking over nothing as usual or is this a legitamite worry. I worry so much about every little thing that I actually have no idea when I should really worry.. MH said its no big deal. SHe is so small though and I can't help worrying about her little organs.. help! I am not sure what to think.. anyone else ever have this happen to their kid????
I am sure not.. only strange things like this happen in my life

summerbrideDC

::backing slowly out of post::

breezee_bean

The amount you worry and OBSESS over things isn't heathly.  For your sake and the sake of your DD you need you need professional help. 

breezee_bean

p.s. this isn't "strange" stuff.  This is 100% normal stuff kids go through. 

DMB2STEP

OK, so in other words, I AM overreacting.. I am not kidding when I say I am not sure when I have a legitimate worry and when I don't. I hate this illness. I just don't want to assume I am overreacting again and God forbid I neglect something. does that make sense?

breezee_bean

you are most def. overreacting.  And, since you said it youself, you NEED and owe it to yourself and your DD to get treatment for this illlness.  You are going to spend your days stressed out of your mind. 

DMB2STEP

OK, thanks, I just needed to hear this is not a big thing from another parent. MH is so tired of my worrying.. The sad thing is I am getting treatment..it just really is not helping. I am not sure what to do:(

breezee_bean

Are you in specialized therapy?  Taking meds? 

DMB2STEP

Yes, paxil and Ativan when needed.. I also see someone. I have surprisingly gotten a little better but still struggling with constant worries.. They say it is OCD

breezee_bean

Hypochondriasis is a form of OCD.  If you don't already, you need to see a Psychiatrist who deals with extreme forms of OCD. 

I have heard good things about this book:

https://www.amazon.com/Brain-Lock-Yourself-Obsessive-Compulsive-Behavior/dp/0060987111

It also has a section for families who have an over compulsive family member, that might be helpful for your DH to read. 

DMB2STEP

Thank you. I will check it out.. I used to have an eating disorder when I was younger, and it seems like all of my obsessions/ worries have now turned into worries about my health and the health of my daughter.. also constant thinking about germs, etc. it is horrible.

breezee_bean

no problem=)

OCD tendencies manifest themselves in many different ways.  This is why I think that if you don't already, you need to see someone who deals specifically with OCD.  And go through all your medical history with the eating disorder and your current health worries. 

DMB2STEP

Thanks a lot.. I will do that. I am not getting much out of the person I am seeing now.. she understands and listens but really doesn't offer me any strategies to change my thinking/behaviors.

Thx for listening, it helped:)

breezee_bean

for sure.  I hope it did! 

So many times you have to be your own advocate. I really, really hope that you find someone else who can give you those strategies.  It will be the only way you can beat this. 

MelandJeff

Thanks Breezee for treating her like she is a human with valid issues rather than jumping all over her calling her crazy and making things potentially worse.

 

StarryNight39

MelandJeff:

Thanks Breezee for treating her like she is a human with valid issues rather than jumping all over her calling her crazy and making things potentially worse.

 

 

Halo79RN

hey... just want you to know you're not alone. dh has ocd.  he used to worry that he'd hit someone with his car everytime he drove... got so bad he'd only drive to work and back .  then there are worries over the kids.  If they are out in the sun for 10 minutes and had no sunscreen he gets upset.... they're gonna get skin cancer, after ds was circumcised , he worried for MONTHS over it... he gets over stuff, when he displaces the obsession to a new thing.  he's been through treatment and meds.. he's at his best now  and on no meds.  It's just a lifelong thing.  Not going away.  He'll probably need some form of treatment all of his life.  I'd also recommend therapy for your dh too. it's definitely a hard thing for a spouse to live with too. and don't forget to take care of yourself... work out , eat right, sleep right. etc. 

 

good luck! 

femmegem

MelandJeff:

Thanks Breezee for treating her like she is a human with valid issues rather than jumping all over her calling her crazy and making things potentially worse.

Ditto this. DMB, I really hope you get the help you need. (((hugs)))

jorie

Maybe I missed some other posts about obsessing and freaking out, but I don't think this one post warrants ::slowly backing out::.  WTF is that about? 

FWIW, I probably wouldn't worry if my 3yo got stepped on (it happens daily around here), but I really freaked when my 3-month old got stepped on about a month ago.  My older girls always walk over each other and DD2 though the baby should join in the fun.  She just stepped right on her belly. I was worried too, but kept a close eye on her and she was fine.  

Ditto to beeeze's suggestions too:)

belle204

I can understand being worried to an extent but I'm sure she's ok.

Now, excuse me while I go pat myself on the back for playing nice.

belle204

jorie:

Maybe I missed some other posts about obsessing and freaking out, but I don't think this one post warrants ::slowly backing out::.  WTF is that about? 

 

One word: Disney

Bellisimo

MelandJeff:

Thanks Breezee for treating her like she is a human with valid issues rather than jumping all over her calling her crazy and making things potentially worse.

Agreed!  Mean people suck!

jorie

belle204:

jorie:

Maybe I missed some other posts about obsessing and freaking out, but I don't think this one post warrants ::slowly backing out::.  WTF is that about? 

 

One word: Disney

 

See now I must've missed all that drama b/c I don't know what that's all about!

eclaires

Disney is the one who has been convinced time and time again she is going to die or her daughter is or whatever.

At one time she *thought* she was bit by a bat [was unsure, got rabies treatment] and posted non stop about it [even though she wasn't even sure she was bit by a bat] and how she was so sad she wouldn't see her daughter grow up.

FWIW, I don't even think she's real.  I think she's a troll who makes up off the wall fears just for attention and posts it on multiple boards.  Therefore, I refuse to give her real advice or be nice to her.

Temp108743750006959

if you are real and you are indeed finally getting help, that's great news. it's going to be a long journey but its better than doing nothing.

ps - I am sure your daughter is fine

momma2alex

Disney is definitely not a troll...I remember her from the Chicago board from the Knot, when I was wedding planning (long time ago). Breezee gave some good advice, I would also recommend Brain Lock, it is a good book and has some strategies you can use on your own to help manage your symptoms. And actually in a lot of ways Disney you are doing some reality testing, by coming here and posting your worries, to get feedback on whether they were rational or not and that is actually a good thing for you to do...however, since the people on here don't really know you or understand the illness, they can't all be very compassionate in their responses...I'm glad to hear you got some helpful feedback, and that you were open to the feedback you received.

RileyMarie

Disney and the OP (DMB2STEP) is the same person.  She admitted to that a few months back. 

breezee_bean

eclaires:

Disney is the one who has been convinced time and time again she is going to die or her daughter is or whatever.

At one time she *thought* she was bit by a bat [was unsure, got rabies treatment] and posted non stop about it [even though she wasn't even sure she was bit by a bat] and how she was so sad she wouldn't see her daughter grow up.

FWIW, I don't even think she's real.  I think she's a troll who makes up off the wall fears just for attention and posts it on multiple boards.  Therefore, I refuse to give her real advice or be nice to her.

I recently have come across/heard of a couple of people with severe hypochondria.  It gave me a whole new outlook on it.  I really, really feel for people who suffer with it.  I know that alot of people think that she's ridiculous (I used to be doubtful myself) but from the couple of things that I have been aware of lately, the things that disney/DMB posts about is just the tip of the iceberg for some people.  It's truly an illness and an inward battle.  Like one of the PPs mentioned, by her coming on here, she is trying to reality test.  I know of some women diagnosed with postpartum obsessive-compulsive disorder that goes untreated and are now in DMB's shoes years later. 

DMB2STEP

Thank you all.. It is only recently that I have realized that I have severe OCD. I used think I was just a worry wart, had some anxiety, etc. but it is so much more than that. I am constantly in fear of something. I just want this to go away or at least find a better way to cope with it.

I will check out Brain Lock-- anything that might help! Thanks again!

mikeandmonica

I'm so glad that you were given some helpful advice here, and I hope that the therapy/treatment/books help you out.  HUGS.