NBR: am i wrong to be upset?

DianeN9

My ex FI and i are trying desperately to work things out. We still have feelings for each other and we want to see if things work out for the best. Well, last night he made me promise up and down that i would come to his house and spend the whole day with him tomorrow. He messaged me this morning saying we can't spend the day together because he forgot that he had plans with his ex of 7 years who broke us up in the first place. I am extremely hurt and offended. I feel like i will NEVER add up to her even though he and i have a bond she could never imagine. We got in a huge fight over it. I told him its very important that we spend time together and work things out and i cherish every moment that we do get along since he missed half of this pregnancy so far. Am i wrong to be completely upset that he cancelled on me for her? Maybe im just being an emotional wreck.

nikkirenee81

I think that it is a little weird that he wants to hang out with his ex, especially if he wants to try to work things out with you. I bet he wouldn't be too happy if you were going to hang out with one of your exes.

nlvaden

I would be upset, but I can thelp but think there must be someone out there better for you.  I would focus on the little man in my tummy instead of this man that doesnt know what the word family means.  You dont need the added stress.  I am sorry you are going through this.

Sawyerplus1

My opinion, if he REALLY wants to work things out with you, then he would STOP ALL communication with the ex that broke you up in the first place. Yes, you should be upset.

LovinTim912

nlvaden:

I would focus on the little man in my tummy instead of this man that doesnt know what the word family means.

Agreed.

And I just feel like you are setting yourself up for disappointment. ?You had plans to spend the whole day with this guy, and he just blew you off for the ex. ?How many times is this going to happen in the future, ya know??

Tonya_G

Don't take this as being harsh... but if he really wanted to make things work with you, and YOU were his one and only priority, which, in this case, you should be, he would cancel with her and spend the time he promised with you. End of story. The honest truth, not to be cliche, is that he's just not that into you. Dump his @ss, permanently, because you and your child are going to be better off without his constant making promises that he can't keep- it's not fair to you, and it certainly isn't fair to your LO.

LilyGrad09

Tonya_G:

Don't take this as being harsh... but if he really wanted to make things work with you, and YOU were his one and only priority, which, in this case, you should be, he would cancel with her and spend the time he promised with you. End of story. The honest truth, not to be cliche, is that he's just not that into you. Dump his @ss, permanently, because you and your child are going to be better off without his constant making promises that he can't keep- it's not fair to you, and it certainly isn't fair to your LO.

This!

duchessII81

LilyGrad09:

Tonya_G:

Don't take this as being harsh... but if he really wanted to make things work with you, and YOU were his one and only priority, which, in this case, you should be, he would cancel with her and spend the time he promised with you. End of story. The honest truth, not to be cliche, is that he's just not that into you. Dump his @ss, permanently, because you and your child are going to be better off without his constant making promises that he can't keep- it's not fair to you, and it certainly isn't fair to your LO.

This!

Double this.

green bean

hes a jerk, no matter how hard it seems like it will be , you and will be better off with out him, if  it was me I would always be woundering if he really wanted to hang out with her instead, untill he makes the commitment to you, dont go out of your way to make him happy , you should go have a girls day tommarow.

whit022109

ive been reading your posts about the situation between the two of you, and he sounds like a jerk. be strong and dont settle for that! surround yourself with positive people and focus on enjoying your pregnancy and getting ready for baby.