i'm told i've lost my mind, BUT I CAN DO THIS!

missmags3 · August 2009

just a vent....

i'm told i've officially lost my mind. i am 27 weeks pregnant and i am taking on quite a bit. FI is in alaska working at sea until nov. 1st, baby is due nov. 27th, and i am doing all of the preparation on my own, as well as starting a new business. i have already done the majority of fixer-upper stuff to the house, baby's room is DONE, and i only have 2 rooms to paint, which can wait if i want them too. i have been unemployed for 6 months (everyone discriminates against the pregnant chick) and have gotten a little stir crazy. i've decided to open my own retail store, and have everything in order for that. in fact, i am headed to the bank monday to apply for a small business loan (keep your fingers crossed, but i have a good chance of getting approved i think). so is everyone else right, have i lost my mind and am i completely crazy??!?!!?

i can't help but feel like these are all things that i need to do for not only myself, but the future well being of my child and my family. sure, FI makes plenty of money to support us, but he has to be 4500 miles away to do that. i'm ready to start the process of a profitable business, with future plans of providing for my family so FI can stay home with baby. he will be a SAHD for the first 4 months while i work at the store, and stella can be at work with me and it would be totally appropriate (its a baby store). i just cant get over everyone else telling me what they think is best, and that i should put off my goals. if i want to do this, then i shouldnt feel like im getting looked down upon by people that barely know me. my family and friends are supportive, and i guess thats all i need - but some positivity from others would be nice.

whats your opinion?? too much and i'm nuts or i should just go for it and do that da*n thing... the worst that could happen is i fail, and i have a plan for if that were to happen, but I WILL SUCCEED.

robbie3982 · August 2009

I think you can do anything you put your mind to, however, I think you should wait until after Stella's here to decide if you still want to open the store. Nothing can prepare you for how you'll feel once she's here and it's different for everyone.

cubits · August 2009

You can totally do this.

I received a grant and was accepted into a small bussiness start up program the same week I found out I was expecting. Its been an exciting year, but things are going well and here I am with a three week old and still plugging away at it.

Good luck!

camarotempress · August 2009

I think you should go for it, you can't stop your ambitions because you're having a child. I've been told by being in school and working fulltime is dumb by many. I'm still doing it, cause no one else is gonna do it for me. Good Luck! You can do it!

cateye · August 2009

Go for it! It sounds like a great oppertunity and you've got childcare all worked out. . .

Brooke208 · August 2009

Yes, you can do it! You sound a lot like me.

I'm starting my own photography business... I actually started it right when I found out I was pregnant. I do everything myself, and it's been tough, but I LOVE it. I've been averaging at least 3-4 sessions a week lately and doing a lot of processing of pictures, too. I also take care of DS all day long while DH works, am completely doing DD's nursery all on my own (I made bedding, decor, you name it!) and sort of re-doing DS's room too. And of course doing the usual stuff to take care of our home, make dinner, and things like that. And I am also looking into taking online classes, too. I love being busy, and even more so I love feeling accomplished.

Good luck! I think you'll be just fine