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My cousin is getting married in Key West Florida. She asked me to be a bridesmaid before I found out I was prego so of course I said yeah. Well I didn't know how EXPENSIVE this trip is! $1000 plane ticket, hotel, car, bachelorette party (I pitched in for shirts and a booze cruise before I knew I wouldn't be able to drink or fit in the shirts!). Now she wants us to pay $115 for an updo and $75 for makeup. And I just ordered my dress which was another $200 in a size that I know (I hope) I'll NEVER be able to wear again considering 'll be 6 mo at the time. I know this is her day but its just that's a LOT of diapers and I wish I could be saving this $2000 for LO. *sigh*
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Re: $$- Vent
Definitely am doing my own hair and make up! And I wasn't going to bail on her. 3 outta 6 of her bridesmaids are pregnant. Some raging bachelorette party it will be!
That's stinkin funny, I bet her fiance is cringing hoping she doesn't get bit by the baby bug
hahaha, you'll all be downing bottles of sparkling grape juice and passing out around 10pm
I will never understand brides that think it's okay to demand that you pay so much money for hair, makeup and dresses. I told my MOH to pick out her own dress and that I'd take care of her hair. She picked a pretty cocktail dress that she would be stoked to wear again.
It was my day; she didn't need to pick up the tab for the things I wanted. Don't be afraid to tell her that this is getting to be too much.
I had this same problem but it was for my best friend, her wedding is in october and I was supposed to be the "secret" maid of honor. She has a lot of friend who are prissy and bitchy so she couldnt reveal the real maid of honor and ended up tossing the entire idea, but for christmas she bought me my bridesmaid dress and shoes. Figuring we were going to stay in the 48 states, I never really thought much of the travel expense, 300 dollars didnt sound like much.
Then we got orders to hawaii (travel cost +300-400 dollars)
Then I found out I was pregnant.
She is a bit of a princess herself and we had a bit arguement over it. She said I should have know the military moves you around alot(both of us being military brats) but I told her you never know where you are going until about a month or so before you go. But in the end, she accepted that my plans had to change and I wasn't going to be able to be there and now things are just as they were before the entire fiasco. Now she sends me stuff for baby and I send her things for wedding(when I can spare the $$$)
Hawaii adds more like 4-500$! Atleast the outer islands. Oh well. It's too late for everything now. I'm going to eat my weight in the buffet though!
Wow that's crazy!
I didn't even ask my BMs to buy their own dresses - we just factored it into our wedding budget. I paid for their hair too and we did our own makeup. The only things they had to pay for was the bachelorette party and a wedding gift. And I guess something to wear to the rehearsal dinner.
I thought it was customary, in destination weddings and weddings that are really far out of town for people, for the bride/groom to pay for the bridal party members' airfare and hotel at least. But, that aside...
Why is an up-do costing that much and same with make-up. I'd tell the bride that there are things I'm not willing to drop that much money for and go find your own place to get hair/make-up done. I guess it's her day but it's your money... might be worth talking to her about how much people are putting out for her wedding and ask her to scale back.
I'm of the opinion that if a bride wants to insist on a particular hairdresser/make up artist then it is on the bride to pay for it.
I would epxlain that these things are outside your budget but that you'll happily do your own hair/make-up.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Ugh... I loathe bridezillas... truly loathe bridezillas. I wasn't even going to do matching dresses, but the girls didn't want to have to pick their own dress. The bach party was optional (Mardi Gras in New Orleans). All of my girls did their own hair & makeup (I didn't care how they did their hair), and wore shoes & jewelry that they wanted to wear. I love girls looking different in weddings. Let the BMs be the unique women that you love... this is actually one of my fave pics from the wedding: