those that do CIO

gisellems

what do you do when your dc wakes crying after already being sleep.. last night ds woke up crying but not the fussy cry but it sounded like he had a nightmare or something like that.. we went in his room and i held him and he just held so thight to me i wanted to cry! anyways he seemed scared and eventually calmed down, i tried to sit on the rocking chair and rock him to sleep (i havent done this in months!) but he wouldnt let me and then he tried to grab a toy that was on top of the book shelf.. it was almost 11pm so it was bed time.. and since he was already calmed i put him again to CIO but he filpped!! we let him be, but i felt so bad.. i dont know if i did the right thing.. how do you handle this situations? and please no flames, if you dont CIO dont answer, i dont wanna hear any "you are horrible mom for letting your baby cry" stuff.. thanks!

aandaw012707

No flames here! We did CIO too and she usuallly sleeps great. She does have a night like the one you describe every once in awhile. She'll wake up and have a kind of whiney cry. We'll go in, hold her, rock her, then lay her back down. Sometimes it takes a couple tries but eventually she does go back to sleep. HTH!

brittneycc1982

Aww!  That's tough.  I have had to do this a few times recently.  It's hard because she is in a toddler bed now so she gets out of bed.  I don't think there's anything wrong with letting them cry themselves to sleep, especially when you know they are ok (not hurt, sick, teething).

brightning

When DD does that, I usually restart our bedtime routine (reading books, snuggle, and putting her back to bed). I figure she's used to giong to sleep with that routine, so we should just start over as if I hadn't put her to bed a few hours earlier.

Dani123

Well we did CIO just before 4 mos with Madison and shes been great ever since but every now and then Ill hear a cry after shes been down a while, sometimes she just whines when shes changing positions but if its a CRY then I go in to see if anything is wrong, I might just rub her a bit to soothe her and then leave...If shes crying crying then I grab her, and hold her a bit, she always lays her head on me (HONESTLY I LOVE IT!!!! WHO GETS TO HOLD A TODDLER LIKE THAT, KWIM? LOL)

If I feel like it then I rock her a bit if not I just lay her back down, tell her Mama loves her and then leave the room just like her bedtime routine, THE SECOND she thinks its play time, its back to bed!  Rarely she'll cry a bit but usually she knows what time it is!!

So Long Astoria

We've done modified "CIO" for a long time, and probably started before most people would be comfortable with so no flames from me.

My daughter sometimes does this...and when she does I'll go in to make sure she's not hurt, give her kisses and cuddles, lie her back down and continue to let her CIO. If she's not hurt or honestly scared, I continue with the CIO as normal.

momofolivia

DD has been waking up in the middle of the night for teething this week.  I nurse, then I tell her that I will sit in the chair while she falls asleep in her bed.  I sit in the chair until I think she is asleep, then sneak out.

Honestly, we really only do CIO when we know nothing is wrong with her.  She is only crying because she is mad at the change in routine.  If she had a nightmare, I would probably stay with her longer to soothe her.  I don't like CIO in that case.  I know she is already upset.

ecoppins

We did CIO, and god bless it. I should have done it earlier with dd. No flames here!

Anyway, she rarely wakes now, or has problems going down. I'll give you what we do in both occasions and our routine as both solutions involve the routine.

At bed time we do our routine (bath, lotion, teeth, books with sippy of milk, stand and sway with sung lullaby, put in bed, fuzzy blanky then big blanket while singing, rub head as song ends, good night mommy/daddy loves you.) If she seems somewhat resistant, we crank the lullby music box as who ever puts her down heads out the door.

?Alright, ?resisting going down...

(This is typically only happens when dh puts her down. She will lie there going "Mama, mama, mama..." Over and over and over progressively getting more distraught. I go in before she is all out?hysterical, hug her without taking her out of the crib, singing the night night song and ask if she wants to lay down again. Typically it is yep. If not, she can hug me till the song is over and then I put her down and repeat blanket covering, mommy loves you good night.

If she wakes in the middle of the night, it depends on how upset she is. If it is clear she is freaked out, then I pick her up and soothe her. Swaying and telling her everything is fine and mommy and daddy are here. When she settles down, I start the night night song, redo blankets and put her down again while singing and walk away before the song is over.?If she is really upset or not feeling well, we do rocking and a cup of milk in the dark, then song, blankets etc. (But that doesn't happen often and typically only if she isn't feeling well at that)

If she isn't freaked out sounding, I don't pick her up but do the hug and repeat the resisting bedtime mode. I always rub her head/belly/back/feet to make sure she is fine when she wakes up in the middle of the night however I don't ever turn on the lights, we do everything in the dark. If she tries to play, get down out of my arms, motions to the door etc I tell her it is night night time and everybody is sleeping and put her back in bed.?

With this system, we have completely stopped cio. We did it initially, and now we just don't need to do it. However, we don't go in until it is clear she is really crying. If it is?whinnying?crying (like I'm unhappy to be going to sleep or overdo on sleep) we let her cry. Like right now...

Nap time, similar shorter routine, super tired baby just whine/crying. Oh wait no, no she's asleep.Btw, as soon as the night night song is over it is Good night love bug mommy loves and out the door. I found that my dd doesn't fall asleep we me there. ?

So that was the longest response I could possibly have given you. But we had so many problems with getting dd to sleep at night and bed time, this is what worked for us.

Josie22

If it's a cry for attention, or he's barerly awake, we let him stay in bed.

If he's in pain, or it lasts over 2 minutes, go in & check on him. If he's fine he gets a sippy of water, and some snuggles.