the parents pick the name, right *vent*

Brittany Nasn

we just found out what we are having,  a boy. we are so excited and now are starting to find some names that we like.  but the family  on both sides are putting in their thoughts.  and its pissing me off.  and its his family V.S. mine. and their writing all this stuff on my facebook page(about each other). how we cant use the name that my DH likes cuz they dont like it. then his mom gets on their and says how they like the name and on and on and on...

and then they say we are the ones who are having a fit about the name and they are just happy he is healthy.

GURRRRRRRRRRRRR..........................

amy5162

We are keeping the name a secret because we don't want to hear what everyone thinks about it.  We like it and that's all that matters.  Go with what you like...it's your baby!

ScissorTailedFlycatcher

I would not share until the birth. But that's just me. We are not even sharing our ideas because of reasons like this. Good luck!

Brandi-104

I'm sorry!  That's not much fun and makes me that much happier with our decision of not telling anyone the names we have picked for our LO.  Good luck and I hope they start acting like adults soon!

kttbirdd

That is no good. So sorry for your prediciment.

I vote you and DH pick a name and then keep it a secret. Go with the idea that since you found out the sex, you want the name to be a suprise to the world! Then after you name him, the family can' treally grumble too much. Or if they do...too late!

But those are just my two cents.

km014a

Feel your pain! My mom, grandma, and aunt will not leave me alone! My grandma is very southern and all names she comes up with are like Darlene and Loretta....... And on top of it all they are sooo livid that im not continuing my middle name that my mom n i share.... want to scream

mlf625

A great reason not to discuss names with your family and wait to share until the birth day. ?That's what we did with DS and it worked really well. ?We're doing the same this time.

Alyssajoy87

I agree with the previous posts... we aren't telling anyone the name we decided on (although some of our family members know the names we were considering). NO ONE (not even the ladies on here) know which name we picked. Yes, it is killing me to keep that secret, but I think it's completely worthwhile.

Don't let your families get to you- just be happy your LO is healthy, pick out his name, and let your families go nuts trying to figure out what you've decided. Once they meet him in-person, they'll love whatever name you've chosen!

kimilane

I'd just delete their comments from my FB and drop the subject. If the ask why you won't discuss the name possibilities, simply tell them flat out they're putting y'all in the middle and it's taking the enjoyment out of it. Parents should be spoken to like they're intelligent adults, no matter how they're acting at the time.

XOXOJami

The idea of hiding it is a great one.  If you do share, stand your ground. They will get over it and use to it. They won't even notice the name by the time LO is here.

You can always do what I did to every person in my family who has already had babies I said "You had your chance" lol It was funnier when I said it to my grandma. lol

CKLee1107

Alyssajoy87:

I agree with the previous posts... we aren't telling anyone the name we decided on (although some of our family members know the names we were considering). NO ONE (not even the ladies on here) know which name we picked. Yes, it is killing me to keep that secret, but I think it's completely worthwhile.

This....I can't guarentee that family or friends are not on here so I can't be posting our name choices here either.  Our families know the middle and last name but we won't talk about 1st name choices with family.

That said, they don't/won't stop hoping and 'offering' names....My dad still wants Hoyt (baby is a GIRL and he still plans on calling her Hoyt regardless of her name...)!  He has been trying to name something Hoyt for about 10yrs now beginning with a puppy who ended up being named Ty.  He has lost every battle and I'm seriously considering buying him a boy dog to name Hoyt to spare my baby....I love that it is a family name but I am dreading having my little girl being nicknamed Hoyt just cause dad thinks its fun...

GL

Luv-a-Bug

Luckily my parents don't get pushy about that kind of stuff.  They instead made a list of silly names that we shouldn't name our kid if it's a boy in order to make us laugh.. like Adolf... Ichabod (Icky for short..).... Buford.. etc.

fiftysixty

Disable your wall. Tell them that while you like hearing their input (BIGFATLIE) that in the end, the baby's name will be something you and your DH get to choose, not something to be discussed or debated on your facebook wall.

 

Then don't tell them. because they will complain. It's killing me not to tell anyone what name we picked, but I know very well that there will be idiots who can't say something nice. So it's just our (mine, DH's and baby's) little secret. Heck, even baby has a secret- it wouldn't let us see the gender!

ablou

We decided on names before the big u/s, girl and boy, because we wanted to have a name when we found out the sex.  I discussed our name debate with some friends on FB chat, but not on our wall.  When we found out the sex, we announced the name at the same time.  There has been no debate whatsoever!  If people don't like our little man's name, nobody has said anything to me about it!

noangel293

I feel you... except with me, it's everyone at work. They won't stop. I'm like dude, you are here to make money not think of names for my unborn child. It just annoys me! My mom and Aunt picked out a name but they at least said "I know you don't have to use it!" lol so at least they understood!!

CRM724

Just stand your ground. Either choose a name and surprise everyone with it on the birth day, or choose it now and just be firm that it was chosen by you and DH based on what you guys like, and that's the firm and final answer.

FWIW, my family loves our name (Charlie Jon) but his family despises it. I think it's hilarious! His mom and aunt are always trying to make rude little comments about it like "It would sound much better if Jonathan (DH's first name and what is being shortened to Jon in LO's mn) were the first name," or "Where does Charlie come from, anyway?" I just kinda *** my hip and tell them that Charlie is my great-grandfather and that HE is excited that his first great-great-grandson is being named after him- they shut up pretty quickly!

CRM724

CRM724:

Just stand your ground. Either choose a name and surprise everyone with it on the birth day, or choose it now and just be firm that it was chosen by you and DH based on what you guys like, and that's the firm and final answer.

FWIW, my family loves our name (Charlie Jon) but his family despises it. I think it's hilarious! His mom and aunt are always trying to make rude little comments about it like "It would sound much better if Jonathan (DH's first name and what is being shortened to Jon in LO's mn) were the first name," or "Where does Charlie come from, anyway?" I just kinda *** my hip and tell them that Charlie is my great-grandfather and that HE is excited that his first great-great-grandson is being named after him- they shut up pretty quickly!

There was nothing wrong with the word I wrote here... At least I don't think so... I wrote *** meaning like I would *** my hip, like something is ***-eyed, or like you'd *** a gun... Nothing vulgar or obscene in that, is there?? Okay, I'll fix it. "I just kinda put my hand on my hip and jut it out in one direction." LOL

CRM724

CRM724:

CRM724:

There was nothing wrong with the word I wrote here... At least I don't think so... I wrote *** meaning like I would *** my hip, like something is ***-eyed, or like you'd *** a gun... Nothing vulgar or obscene in that, is there?? Okay, I'll fix it. "I just kinda put my hand on my hip and jut it out in one direction." LOL

OH lord, never mind... It's even taking it out when I misspell it purposely...

kimberleigh30

Just don't tell people the names until after your LO is here.  No one will say a bad thing about it then.  TRUST ME.