second baby????

teakum

do you take toddler to ultrasounds to "see" the baby? Just wondering we are TTC in April and really want Kateley involved with it all. We are already talking about what changes may take place just so she will be ready.

brittneycc1982

M went to all of mine, but mostly because I didn't have anyone to watch her.. since they were all wanting to see the ultrasounds too! : )

punkfiction

aidan went with me for some. she will probably go with me to some late ones the next time im preg. but not sawyer - she'd be too young to understand.

moroccojade

I've heard it's best not to tell right away.  It's better to wait till you're 5 or 6 months or so.  By then, they can see your belly so it's more 'real', and also 9 months is an eternity for a little one.  The novelty will have worn off by birth time.  It's just the last few months that are really visibly exciting -- mom's growing, things are being bought, a room is being prepared...  They can be excited with you rather than  bored or even resentful that this has been going on 'forever' and nothing great has happened.

Seemed logical to me.  

Perhaps introduce the idea before the 'big' U/S and let her come to that?  That's what I'd probably do.

teakum

moroccojade:

I've heard it's best not to tell right away.  It's better to wait till you're 5 or 6 months or so.  By then, they can see your belly so it's more 'real', and also 9 months is an eternity for a little one.  The novelty will have worn off by birth time.  It's just the last few months that are really visibly exciting -- mom's growing, things are being bought, a room is being prepared...  They can be excited with you rather than  bored or even resentful that this has been going on 'forever' and nothing great has happened.

Seemed logical to me.  

Perhaps introduce the idea before the 'big' U/S and let her come to that?  That's what I'd probably do.

teakum

moroccojade:

I've heard it's best not to tell right away.  It's better to wait till you're 5 or 6 months or so.  By then, they can see your belly so it's more 'real', and also 9 months is an eternity for a little one.  The novelty will have worn off by birth time.  It's just the last few months that are really visibly exciting -- mom's growing, things are being bought, a room is being prepared...  They can be excited with you rather than  bored or even resentful that this has been going on 'forever' and nothing great has happened.

Seemed logical to me.  

Perhaps introduce the idea before the 'big' U/S and let her come to that?  That's what I'd probably do.

teakum

moroccojade:

I've heard it's best not to tell right away.  It's better to wait till you're 5 or 6 months or so.  By then, they can see your belly so it's more 'real', and also 9 months is an eternity for a little one.  The novelty will have worn off by birth time.  It's just the last few months that are really visibly exciting -- mom's growing, things are being bought, a room is being prepared...  They can be excited with you rather than  bored or even resentful that this has been going on 'forever' and nothing great has happened.

Seemed logical to me.  

Perhaps introduce the idea before the 'big' U/S and let her come to that?  That's what I'd probably do.

teakum

Sorry I don t know what happened to my computer. But thanks thats great advice and makes total since. I have friend who told me they were pregnant as soon as P hit the stick and the lines changed. ANd Gosh It seems like they have been pregnnat for years so I can see how a little one would feel that wa. THANKS>

Pesky

I didn't.  Mainly because it would have been disruptive to her schedule and it was just way easier not to have to worry about her running about.  I took her to one appt towards the very end and she was honestly more interested in getting the heck out of there than anything.  I don't know that she really understood the whole HB thing and quite frankly, didn't seem to care. 

j_hope

We didn't take DD to any appointments either unless I had no one to watch her.  Like the previous poster mentioned..DD doesn't like hospitals or anything to do with doctors so sitting for an ultrasound (while they are taking measurements) or trying to get her to understand the baby's heartbeat...she would have simply freaked out.  I did take her to one of my appointments one time..and she freaked during the 10 min. she was there.  We did show her the ultrasound pics of the baby once I was further along and started showing.  Then, I would show her the pics and say "That's your baby sister in mommy's tummy."  Honestly, until I hit this last month of pregnancy...DD hasn't been that interested.  Now, she's finally starting to understand that her little sister will be arriving sometime "soon."

mrshutch

DD occasionally pats my belly after DH tells her to, and she's just starting to talk about the baby a little, but I really don't think she gets that much. I'm taking her to my next appt., but it's actually mainly b/c I think it'll be fun for my OB to meet her (she wasn't my dr. for DD). It won't even be the big u/s, which will be the next day at the hospital- I don't want to drag her into the hospital. She still wouldn't get it all even if she saw an u/s.

jlw2505

Sorry but its seem way to early to be talking to your child about a new sibling when you are not even pregnant.  As someone else, 9 months is long enough for a little one.  Also, you never what will happen once you are pregnant so I would never tell my child right away.  My DD was just over a year when we our BFP and while we told her she was going to be a big sister, she was too young to have a clue what that meant.  We gave her a big sis t-shirt to take one pic and then put it away and didn't talk about until I was 3 months.  We wanted the pic of her in the shirt to tll our parents but we never talked about it other than that one day and she 13 months old.  I think I was 3-4 months before we really started to talk about the whole thing with my DD.  I never took her to doctors appointments with me as I honestly don't feel like it is the place for her to be.  My mom was at one of my u/s simple because my DH could not get out of work and I didn't want to go alone and my mom happened to be in town.  Otherwise, it was only my DH and I.  We showed my DD u/s pictures and she didn't get it.  We talked about the baby and kept her involved in the getting ready for baby stuff and all that but that was it.  She came to the hospital the day after her sister was born.

monksmama

My brother's GF made it a big deal to J right after we told the family, I wasn't planning on making it a big deal with him until I started to show, but what's done is done. : )

I'm 6 months now and he is really involved. He likes to feel the baby kick. (and is annoyed when he won't do it on demand) I have taken him to every u/s we have had and for the most part he is pretty unimpressed, but he loves to hear the hb. My MWs are great and let him move the doppler. Now he even randomly kisses my belly. : )

I'm sure it will be a whole new game when the baby is acctually here - but for now I'll take it.