Crying at my Desk

LCB34

So, I got a meeting notice from a good friend "S" about having lunch next week with one of our other friends that is leaving the downtown area for a new job assignment.  I thought oh how nice, a fun lunch with friends.....yeah right. 

The friend that is leaving sent me an e-mail letting me know that "S" is pregnant and is planning to announce her pregnancy to me at this lunch.  Both of these women know the nitty gritty details of my IF struggle.  I am sort of OK with that b/c I knew they were TTC.  But here's the kicker - she is freaking 18 weeks pregnant (I haven't seen her in about 8 or so weeks b/c I have been out of town for work and busy) and got pregnant on the first try.  And has been lying to me about not being pregnant ever since she got pregnant.

I have seriously lost it and am a huge mess.

 

kristin_marie

I am so sorry!  I totally know how you feel.  A friend of mine just told me and she is 4 and half months.  I don't know what hurts worse the announcement or the knowledge that people keep it from you.

IF SUCKS!

hillaree

I am so, so sorry. I am fairly emotional today myself so reading your post made my heart break for you and I started crying too. Friend pregnancies are so tough ((hugs))

erica2573

I am sorry-try to hang in there!

MDBeachbride

I guess she couldn't figure out a way of breaking the news to you, but that stinks she has been lying.  ((hugs))

smilee

I am sorry honey.

Huge hugs to you.  

cheekyali

Do you have to go? I try to avoid these situations at all costs.

2becomes3

Thatreally sucks.  I'm sorry

I'm sure she kept it from you because she didn't want to hurt you...if it's any consolation.

krissyh21

A friend of mine did this to me as well. Everyone knew about it except me. It made me hurt, upset and angry, especially since I genuinely was happy for her - just a little jealous.

I am sorry people are asshats some times (((hugs))) Now go to dinner and enjoy the biggest martini/margarita or whatever favorite alcoholic beverage of HER liking and make it be when harry met sally good! 

*jenjen*

Ah, I'm so sorry...that's the worst   I know exactly how you feel because that happened to me the other day too.  It sucks.  It's like we're stuck in this nightmare that nobody else understands what we're going through or how to even act around us, pertaining to pregnancy.  I'm sure she just didnt want to hurt your feelings, but i agree that this is worse.  At least your other friend gave you a heads up so you weren't blindsided.  I'm sorry you even have to deal with this.

lovemymonkey

ouch. I would be hurt too if a good friend of mine lied about and hid her pregnancy from me for 18 weeks! I'd wait and see what she says though, maybe she just didn't know how to tell you.

Reading your post makes me wonder if I should just tell my friends that are TTC or open to TTC right now that they should just email me their news when they find out. That way they don't stress out about telling me and I can deal with their news privately.

I don't know. I wish things could be easier for all of us. ((((((hugs))))))

 

taraandkyle06

oh boy, i'm really sorry to hear you're dealing with this! i had a similar situation - a friend lying about being pregnant until she told me at 14 weeks.  we're not longer friends for reasons other than this, but this definitely contributed to my decision. that really sucks and i'm sorry!

Tarahville

Ugh! I hate it when people feel they need to lie to us. Lying about it just makes the situation more painful.

I'm so sorry honey. ((hugs))

yodasmistress

EIGHTEEN WEEKS?!? 

 Who hides a pregnancy for 18 weeks?  That's just wrong.  I'm so sorry.

Kiki11

Oh that's terrible!!! (((huge hugs)))

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Oh, I'm so sorry!! I can totally relate to what you are going through right now and it's so hurtful when people hide the truth thinking they are trying not to hurt you, when really it almost hurts worse!  ((HUGS))

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I'm sorry! Be strong! 

ladychicago

i am so sorry!!!!     that just sucks...     i don't think fertiles understand that it is easier for us to find out right away when they are pregnant, rather than feel like we've been lied to...    UGH.    just makes it THAT much worse.    (((HUGS)))

TiffanyA83

I'm sorry that you have to go through this....{hugs}

caden

I'm SO sorry you're dealing with this. I completely know how you feel. I got lied to by a friend too, but it wasn't one I had to see every day. I can't imagine how hard that is for you. I know they think it's super hard to tell us when they get pg, but seriously. Lying? C'mon.