Somewhat BR: Visiting someone in the hospital

sweetkakes419

My mom had her hip replaced this morning.  She's only 55 but had severe osteoarthritis.  I talked to her and she's doing great.  She's in a hospital that's on my way home from work, and will be there til probably Friday, but does not want me to visit her at all.

She thinks that because I'm pg I'll catch something while I'm there and she doesn't want me to risk my health or the baby's.  Would you listen to her?  I want to ignore that and go visit her anyway, but I think she might really get upset if I just showed up.  I can always talk to her but I feel bad not seeing her if she'll be there all week.

kiki_1218

I work in a hospital, so far so good. I'd just make sure and wash your hands once your done visiting.

BooBahs

My cousin was in the hospital and I visited him three times and nothing horrible to report. I did take purell to sanitize with as I left the facility.

DollyPants

You'll be fine. ?Go see your momma!

MarthaP18

My dad was in the hospital for 2 weeks and just released like 5 days ago.
I visited almost every day and just made sure to sanitize my hands every once in awhile while I was there, and always before leaving. They usually have sanitizer in hospitals all over the place.

epphd

I would go visit - she's your mom!  As pp said, just wash your hands and exercise good hygeine.

 

getnmarried910

Find out if that's the real reason behind her not wanting visitors if you can.  When I was in the hospital overnight during my first pregnancy, I didn't want visitors.  I just don't like all the attention.  I don't even like when people come to see the baby at the hospital because some of them stay longer than I'd prefer (we still let people, I just don't enjoy it).  For example, when DD (my first) was born, DH's grandma and aunt came.  Fine, great, DD was the first baby born in 20 years.  But when DH asked them to leave so I could nurse, they didn't want to leave.  One of them said, "That's ok, we don't mind watching.'  He said told them we did mind and they still had to leave.  I'm just a private person though.  If I don't want visitors, I don't want visitors.  I'd honor your moms wishes, but that's because I'd want someone to respect me if I asked for no visitors.

DrDPM

Chrissy-n-Tim:

I work in a hospital, so far so good. I'd just make sure and wash your hands once your done visiting.

 Ditto. I'm a doctor and spent all day long in the hospital; you're more a risk to the patients then they are to you. Go visit - I'm sure it would make her feel better

PurpleK26

I think you'd be fine. Baby is living off your immune system, so all should be ok there too!

swimrbride

I also work in a hospital and I haven't gotten sick since working there. And at out hospital the patients that are sick are usually on a different floor than those that are ortho or other surgical things. I would go.

TwoBecomeOne2007

if she really does not want you there and it will stress her out if you come-stay home. o/w the hopsital is FULL of germs just take care to wash hands, the only caveat is not to bring a newborn infant to a hospital if not necessary.

sweetkakes419

Thanks everyone for responding!  She's fine with visitors in general, just not me lol, so I think I'll talk to her about it later and try to convince her that I'll be fine if I come.  Maybe she would be reassured if she asked one of her nurses what they thought of her pg daughter visiting.  Plus she just told me she scored a private room so there's no one else there for me to be exposed to.  Thanks again!