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OK, we decided to name our son Lawson Everett (MN after DH's great-grandpa). So I get an email from my step MIL stating that she isn't too thrilled we are using it because Dh's step-brother (or whatever he is called - he's adopted so not sure, but he would be Lawson's step uncle I guess) MN is Everett. She says that I wouldn't be thrilled if my sister used our daughter's first or middle name in naming her child and that she thought I was trying to be original in my name selection and not copying what was already done. What a BIT*H! She goes on to say she thought Lawson was being named for her son b/c of the MN we chose - who is a 21 year old college student we never see, so I think she got mad when I told her we didn't even know his MN was Everett.
So now I want to change his MN. I want to email her back and go off but I know I need to step back and think about what and how I should say things. Problem is we already have initials above his crib with the middle initial "E". My dad's MN is Emerson, so we could change it to Lawson Emerson, but I don't really like that both the first and middle name end in "son". What would you do....thoughts, recommendations? DH says I'm blowing it out of proportion and that we should just change it to Emerson. But I like Everett better, so do I let it go and keep Everett, choose Emerson, or go with a totally different middle name? THANKS!
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that woman sounds like a whackjob.... who cares if you have the same mn as your uncle?!? i have the same middle name as all of my girl cousins and i could care less. she sounds like a gem. i wouldn't change the mn, but i'd also let her know that you chose everett b/c you like it and not b/c of her.
i also don't love lawSON emerSON. my cousin's first and middle name both end with the lin (lynn) and i've always thought it sounded weird.
Your step MIL sounds like a moron. ?If you like Everett, disregard her entirely. ?The name has meaning to your DH- it's his great grandpa!
If you do decide to change it, I think LawSON EmerSON sounds bad. ?I wouldn't limit yourself to the letter "E"- can't you just go buy a new letter or paint over the middle initial?
But I say you leave it alone.?
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I would leave it alone, but I would make it clear that you chose that name because you guys like it - not because of her son.
If it really bothers you (which I wouldn't blame you - it would probably bother me too), then I'd check into a lot of different "E" names. I don't think Emerson sounds good with Lawson unfortunately. What about Edward? Do you have any Edward affiliations in your family?
I woudln't change it. SHE can think "they named the baby after him", but you know you didn't. If she tells people that, you just gently say "Oh- well, she's mistaken. It was actually by chance that we picked the same name. We had no idea his middle name was also Everett".
To change it- you're giving her a LOT of power in your life. A LOT.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
So, was this adopted brother named after the great-grandfather? What is so awful about them having the same MN? How does she know you would not be thrilled if your sister used your child's MN? She presumes an awful lot.
She has tainted the name and that annoys me and I don't even know the woman!
Think how honored your dad would be to have his GS with his MN and for that reason alone the -son thing wouldn't bother me. I'd do this before picking some random E name. Sorry she rained on your name.
Don't change it ... it's perfect.
I think I've seen your posts before, and its obvious you put a lot of thought into the name. I think if you change it, you'll regret it.
Exactly. The reasons that you chose the name have not changed. Like pps have said, I would ensure she knows why you picked that name, and stick with it.
That's a thought....I like that better than Emerson. But I think we're going to say screw you and stick with Everett. Who is she to tell me what we should/shouldn't name our child. We know her son has nothing to do with our decision and I'm working on an email now to tastefully relay that. I'm so frickin' mad though, I should probably wait until tomorrow. And who just assumes someone is naming their child after their son and has the nerve to ask if he is going to be a godparent b/c of it...come on. Are you serious? I could also always point out the fact that his MN comes from a great-grandpa that he isn't even biologically related to. I shouldn't have to explain our reasoning to her, but I want to make it clear that choosing Everett as the MN has nothing to do with it being her son's MN. Thanks for the advice and support. It just amazes me how rude people can be. I can't imagine sending an email like the one she sent me after knowing we had already decided on the name. You'd think they would be happy we are using a family name.
I definitely agree that you should keep the name as is, and let her know that it had nothing to do with her son and everything to do with your dh's great grandfather. I think every man in my family has the same middle name, all named after their dad/uncle/grandpa but all the same name! Big deal, it's a middle name and it's a family name! She sounds crazy!
One thing I would say though, is that it seems insensitive that so many posters keep bringing up that her son isn't "biologically" related to the man he's named after...if I understood the situation right, then your dh's dad also adopted this kid (not just your dh's step mom, right?) so then your dh's ggrandpa is also his ggrandpa. If he was only your step mom's son, then I understand the point, but if your fil also adopted him, then he is a part of the family and shouldn't be singled out as "different" because he was adopted.