Hello, don't usually post here but...

Cyrbia

DH took on a part time job about a month ago and I'm sure this is why our son has become a little resistant to him lately. It started with him not wanting his Dad to bathe him. (We get Dad to do it anyways though) and now it's when DH get's back from work or after he's been down stairs for a bit to watch TV or make a phone call or check his e-mail. When he comes back up DS seems to be mad at him. He doesn't want his Dad to hug or play feed him or anything. I'm starting to wonder if it's my fault. Maybe I'm doing something during my "alone" time with DS that's causing this?

My Husband is a SAHD and when I leave in the morning our son seems fine with him. But by the time I get home he wants nothing to do with his father.

We really don't know how to cope with this. Any ideas?

Oh, and fwiw, DH LOVES being a Dad and I would never think he's done anything wrong.

MrsAmers

Your husband took a part time job, you're 6-8 weeks away from having a baby and your son is in the notoriously difficult 18-21 month age bracket.  I don't think anyone has done anything "wrong" (you or your husband).  I think there is a lot going on in your son's life (both inside his head and in his family) and he's trying to cope. 

My daughter has gone through phases of preferring one of us over the other, and she's been in a loooong mommy phase since the end of my pregnancy.  We basically give her mommy time when we can, but when she needs to do something with daddy we don't give in.  It has definitely gotten better, but it can be a struggle.

I would just keep reminding yourself of how much his little brain is trying to deal with.  Set boundaries where they need to be set (example - Dad gives baths) and give him some leeway where you can.  It will get better!  Hugs!

theoilmanswife

I have to agree with pp, I don't think anyone has done anything wrong.  It sounds like there are a lot of changes going on in your household plus a child who will go thru stages of preferring one parent to another from time to time.  Hang in there, I'm sure it will get better and good luck to your hubby.  Remind him he is doing a great job and we all go through some tough times.

Cyrbia

Thank you. Reading your posts made me feel better.