Hi-New & Naming Question

alisonc36

Hi everyone!

I am 20 weeks 4 days with my first baby (after 1 loss and two years of trying), and will turn 37 three months after I give birth. We just found out 3 days ago we are having a beautiful baby girl. So excited and nervous. For anyone who already has a child, how did you go about deciding names? We have an initial list of about 25 names, but I'm not sure how DH and I will ever agree on one. He has 3 that he loves: Kate, Madeline, and Pixie. The funny thing is, one of my closest friends has 2 daughters, named Katie & Madeline, and he doesn't understand why I wouldn't want to name our daughter the same name. I think Pixie is cute, but I'm not sure if it sound too much like a crazy celebrity's baby name. Sigh. Not sure how I'll stay sane while we try to find the right name!

ShannonLK

Here's a suggestion.  Each of you should narrow your list of 25 down to 10. Once you each have 10 cross off 5 names from the other person's list which will narrow each to 5.  When both of you have 5 names see if there are any names on each list that are the same.  If there are then narrow it down to only those names.  If not each have 5 different names then continue to mark off names from each other's list until you have 1 each.  Then flip a coin? lol.

Not sure beyong that point.  With DH and I it's just about compromise.  We both want each of us to love the name we pick.  If not it comes off the list.

HTH!

Julia-Henry

Hi and congrats on your daughter.

When we were naming DS, we eventually came upwith one name that we both thought was perfect. It took about 6 months, but we found one we both loved and neither of us had to compromise.

With this pregnancy, we've found a girl name we can agree on, and are completely stuck for a boy choice. We're each looking for 3 names we would be happy with that the other will not veto, and once we get that list, we'll go through it together and see what we prefer. I hope it works!

You mentioned that several of his names are the same as your close friend's dds. If it's really common (like Katie), I think that can be ok - especially if you make it a little different. How about spelling it Cate? or naming her Katherine and calling her Kat?

I'm sure you'll find the perfect name. Good Luck!

Julia-Henry

Oh,and the baby names board here is very helpful!

coquina

Congrats on a baby girl!

As for names my DH & I agreed pretty quick on our DD's name.

As for you BFF having children named the same I would feel strange as well, but my mom named my sister after her best freind and I share a name with her BFF's daughter.  Maybe it was the 70's and it wasn't as strange to name your daughters the same but I still have shied away from names that my friends daughters have.

Katiedid1806

I would save "Pixie" for a nickname. Seriously. It is cute and a little too much so, if you know what I mean.

DH and I looked at family names. We prefer to head the traditional route, so our daughter was named for both of our maternal grandmothers: Kathryn Novia.

For this one, if it is a girl, we are using 2 other family names as middle names and a somewhat traditional first name. If it is a boy, we are going for another set of traditional-sounding family names. I am over having every third child named the same b/c it is the fashion, or having kids named as though they were TinkerBell. That stuff is fine for nicknames (and our DD does actually turn her head when we call her "Bunny").

You have plenty of time, so just come up with names and ask each other about it. That's all it takes. No huge lists and round-table discussions. And it does not matter what the other family members say - I don't care how much they rant and rave, they are not giving birth or did not provide the sperm, then they don't get to pick a name.

pahokie

This website lets you see a name in various fonts, as might be used on a business card or other application.  It might help show that Pixie might seem less cute when your daughter is applying for jobs.

https://www.parenting.com/Pregnancy/BabyNames/buildaName.jsp?genID=2&typeID=810

There is another one that shows the name on a marquee, on a business card, and in a couple other scenarios, but I can't find it so far.  If I do I will pass it along.

alisonc36

Thanks! I think we have moved on from Pixie, but I think there will still be some back and forth on the name before we find one we both like. The site you mentioned is fun, because it does help to see the name written different ways!