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Pregnant after 35
Rude relative
My mom was talking to my 40-something male cousin on the phone yesterday, and shared the news of our long-awaited pregnancy. My cousin's response was that I am "TOO OLD to be popping out babies." (!!!!!)
He lives out of state, and I've seen him only a few times in my life. I have no idea why he would make such a rude, hurtful and utterly inappropriate comment. I am still fuming (as is DH) and having a hard time letting this go.
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Re: Rude relative
He's ignorant....that's all...don't let it get to you. My grandmother (who is 95) got all nervous when she heard I was pregnant (I'm 38). He obviously doesn't know you that well (as you said you've only seen him a few times) so the only frame of reference he is going on is probably outdated info.
FWIW - it would probably irritate me too, but then I'd end up laughing for his ignorance.
When I got engaged (at the ripe old age of 28), my grandmother said, "I thought you weren't going to be doing that at your age." I said, "Grandma, I'm not that old!" And she said, "Well, aren't you, though?"
I decided to let my mom tell her about the pregnancy because I'm sure I'm WAY too old for this (I'm 35) and I don't really want to hear it.
seriously, you need to let this go. It's not like you're 52! If he says something again (which it sounds like he won't since you two never see each other anyway)
say, "really, b/c I would think at 40 something, you would have learned to keep your fvcking mouth shut unless you were going to say something nice"
Let me guess, he's a confirmed bachelor,too? If that's the case, he really has no room to talk. And if he's married, his wife needs to smack him upside the head for saying such a thing.
My one female cousin who is barely a year younger than me has made similar comments. Well, the fact that we didn't have kids yet and that I wasn't getting any younger. Well, Gee... thanks for the update on the obvious. Funny, she's pg not too and due about the same time as me
Don't let that foolish comment bother you!
Hey, my stepmother was the 14th child in her family. Her mother gave birth to her at 52. Yep, 52!!
(I am sorry about your previous losses. I, too, have had 3 losses and take Lovenox. I'm glad you're here!)
Wow, he sounds like a real winner!
Don't let it bother you. Just remember all of the reasons why this baby is the right baby at the right time for you. And all of the advantages of having kids when you're ready and prepared and able to be the best mom possible.
What a dumbass!
My grandmother had 8 kids - including my dad when she was 40 and my uncle when she was 46 - so nobody in my family would dare say anything like that to me.
Let it go and be glad you don't hae to see him that often.
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He's ignorant and obviously planning to remain so, and you are hormonal. Go have a hot fudge sundae and let it pass. He is irrelevant in to grand scheme of things.
Really, though, you have hit that point in pg where you have just enough hormones to mean that watching Steel Magnolias is a bad idea right now. You are probably a bit sensitive when you normally would not be.
Oh, and I am going to be 39 when this one comes out, and DH and I plan on having a third (so likely 41 or so). I would be happy to tell your short-end-of-the-gene-pool cousin what for if you want me to.
Thanks, ladies! The hormones have died down today, and I'm no longer letting my ill-mannered cousin bother me. I kind of feel sorry for his wife though!