I understand that it's hard for people that have been trying...

hopeful:)

CathyMD:

This does also beg the observation......if you yourself have spent any time here you probably would not have posed  this question.

 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

heathercara

I could not have said it better than Cathy or Joyous...so I won't try.

AJflowers

I completely agree w/Cathy.  That said, yes this is just a message board, but also a "community."  Just because you have been lurking doesn't mean that you should announce here.  "lurkers" and "newbs" anounce all the time on first tri and no one cares.  This is certainly not a board where it makes sense to DB.

williaw

OP, why pose such a question and not even stick around to respond?

AJflowers

piecesofflare:

If I've never seen someone before than I don't give a flying_fuuck that they're pregnant.

Just like the drive-bys don't care about the fact that women here are struggling. 

I love how you put this.

ams8099

It's really all about how you announce your BFP. If you are lucky enough to get pregnant in the first few months, saying finally after anything less than 8 months to a year is in bad taste. Many girls here have been TTC for much longer than a year.

Drive-by's are annoying. It's like walking into a room full of women you do not know and announcing you are pregnant. Sure, they might say congrats, but at the same time they are thinking who the hell are you? If you are a lurker and you get a BFP, don't post here. GO directly to 1st tri. 

k-mart

hopeful:):

CathyMD:

This does also beg the observation......if you yourself have spent any time here you probably would not have posed  this question.

 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Exactly! You should know by now.

LOVEDBYD

Although I am happy for anyone who is trying and gets a BFP, if you are not a regular poster and mostly lurk (the poster below only had 5 posts) then posting a BFP here doesn't feel very good for the one's who have been here a while. They should post it on the first tri board! IT seems more appropiate there....don't you think?

LOVEDBYD

justinlovesme:

She obviously hadn't lurked at all.  Most of our siggys have info about length of time ttc.  Anyone should be able to put two and two together and not say "finally" after 3 months. 

Reasons She is a Douche:

1.)  She did not lurk, therefore not knowing three months is NOT a long time.

2.)  She told us to chart to get pg. 

3.)  She said prego.

 

ams8099

piecesofflare:

If I've never seen someone before than I don't give a flying_fuuck that they're pregnant.

This is true. In fact, when I see a pregnant woman at the store, I am insanely jealous. Why do I need to be happy for somebody I don't know? Just the same, my once SIL was TTC and got pregnant. I was happy for her. My other SIL got pregnant on accident, not so happy about it.

craftlady07

I didn't read the rest of the comments - but here is my $0.02....I am honestly truly nothing but happy for every single woman who has gotten pregnant without having to struggle with waiting (either, waiting for their body to cooperate, have IF or were TTA or whatever the case may be).

 

But when someone comes on to this board and says "finally I got pg after 3 months", well ya know, that's just great, but it stings too, I'm not gonna lie. There is a more tactful way to put it and it never hurts for people to realize that it does take many couples longer then that. I'll admit it's nice to hear "I know I was lucky, or I can't believe it happened so fast".

 Now I realize that not all woman know enough about their bodies/cycles to understand that it's completely normal to take a while to get pg....but if we don't point out on posts like the one earlier today that it can/does/will take longer then 3 months and it's totally okay....then how will people ever learn, the girls that do lurk and do try to learn from us, how will they know if it's not pointed out.

 People need to think before they post, think about their audience, who will be reading this. Yes of course we're happy that someone got pg and it only took them 3 months - but seriously, if she hasn't been involved in the board and has no relationship here, then I'm no happier for her then I would be for the woman behind me in the grocery store line.

Mrs. BZ

flgirl79:

williaw:

OP, why pose such a question and not even stick around to respond?

That is what I was wondering.

You say that you're not trying to start shiznit but yet you don't stick around to contribute to your own post. That said, no one should feel guilty about posting their BFP. However, if she "claimed" to have lurked, she would've known how to word her BFP post. To come on here and say that "finally" and that "hey, if you don't chart, you should cause it worked for me on my 1st cycle of charting." I'm pretty sure that most of us are well schooled in the charting arena.

Mrs.KMid

shanmoyer:

*trots in with a plate of GP cupcakes to watch the fur fly on this one* Today we have Red Velvet with Vanilla Buttercream, Vanilla with Chocolate Buttercream, and Carrott with Cream Cheese frosting

 yummy Red Velvet!

high_hopes

If you're a lurker, please don't post your BFP & "brag" about it not taking very long. Some gals have been here a LONG time. It only took me 4 cycles to get pregnant, however, I had been posting on the board & my BFP was well-received because I was a known GP'er. I agree with pp, it is all about the approach to posting. If you're a lurker, move on to 1st tri.

jdeats12

kb75:

DaniSev:

I think that they should just be more careful of how they word their BFP announcements. I, for one, don't get annoyed at someone who does a drive-by. I'm happy to see others get pregnant. However, when you say you've "finally" gotten pregnant after 3 months of trying when there are girls on here that have been trying for a lot longer, it comes across as insensitive.

This. Plus, throwing out advice to people who've been doing this for many months or even years is just ignorant.

This. Exactly.

Stephanie2167

hopeful:):

CathyMD:

This does also beg the observation......if you yourself have spent any time here you probably would not have posed  this question.

 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Actually I have been on this board for quite some time. I just had a question about how eveyone feels about people getting pregnant their first cycle. I got KU my first cycle and was sure not to tell everyone that was the case because it doesn't really matter.

I really wasn't starting anything and there is no reason for anyone to jump down my throat for asking a simple question. I understand how you all feel about the poster who gave advice and used "finally" after 3 months.