Does your family stay with you when visiting?

C.squared

Oi - my IL's just assume that they're staying with us and never consider a hotel (money's not the issue, it's just not what they do).  There are TEN of them coming for DD's birthday and they've all "told" me that they're staying here!!!  We have a 4 BR house, but one room is ours, one is DD's and we have one guest room and an office (so only one extra bed).  DH doesn't want to be rude and ask them to stay in a hotel because when they've visited in the past (individually), they have stayed with us.  This is  not what I wanted to deal with the weekend of DD's party!  My family just comes for the day and will go home, but it will no doubt turn in to some drama that the IL's get to spend more time, blah blah blah.  My / DH's family just stress me out!!!  Just curious if I'm the crazy one for thinking they should stay in a hotel...  would you just suck it up and put on a happy face?  I get along just fine with my IL's (usually), that's just a lot of people to prepare for and keep up after.

BetsinAustin

You are definitely not the crazy one.  Not only is it reasonable to expect some of them to stay at a hotel, it sounds like unless they are sleeping on the floor, it's not really physically possible for them ALL to stay with you.  Maybe you could start from that fact, and see who will volunteer to stay somewhere else?  At least then not all of them would be there?  My mom always stays with us too, even if my sister and niece are already staying she assumes she will too.  There is no room since we have only one guest room.  She finally got it the last time and stayed at a hotel.  

AFC921

If it were a couple people staying that is one thing, but 10 people?  I think it should be common sense on their part to get a hotel.  They should not expect you to accommodate 10 people.  My MIL, BIL and SIL are coming in a couple of weeks and are staying for 10 days.  I want to shoot myself just thinking about MIL being here for that long.

Shellyburger

Not crazy at all!  Maybe look into suites in hotels for them, the rooms with a bedroom and pull out couch, make it cheaper for a family.

Then get DH to do the dirty work of suggesting the hotel.

Its a touchy situation, good luck! 

lzbflogrl

Maybe your DH should politely say there isnt enough room for all of them during the visit.  Your right, you dont need the added stress.  They should have asked!

 I told my ILs that there wasnt any room in my house, my MIL said, thats okay I can sleep on the couch!  Needless to say, she has never come to visit and I think my DH and I have made it clear, there is literally no room, we dont have an extra bed.

Just_Jess

Ugh yes! They all came for the Christening and stayed with us.  We live in a 3 bedroom townhouse - they were everywhere!  And to top it of they didn't help us get ready for the party at all.

TexasLadyBug

10 is a lot of people, do they know that there will be others staying at your house? Where are they going to sleep?

Yes, family stays with us, but only one or two at a time. Some of whom I rather not even come, lol, but that is another story.?

ammc

I think I would stay in a hotel if 10 people were planning to stay with me.  My MIL stays with us but she is only one person and very helpful plus she rents a car so she is out and about.  GL

EastCoastBride

They may not all realize they've all stayed w/ you and that they are ALL expecting to stay w/ you this time too.  Time to get a backbone and tell each and every one of them "We'd love to have you stay w/ us as you normally do. However, so many people are coming into town, we simply don't have the room to put everyone up.  As much as we hate to do it, we're going to have to ask you to get a hotel for this visit."

Make it easy on yourselves and just do this for everyone. 

RoxBride

Normally they stay with us, but we have a lot of room.

When 22 people came from out of town for a funeral, MIL and FIL stayed with us, but everyone else agreed to stay at a hotel. I did provide meals, that was enough, but helped them with food expenses.