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How am I suppose to love 2 children??

StylishMomStylishMom
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I can't imagen loving both children the same. I love my DD...and My DH. To me it's overwhelming that i have another one coming and sometimes I feel like "do i have enough to give"

Is it just me? I am going to be a bad mother? I just dont know sometimes....

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Re: How am I suppose to love 2 children??

  • ash2ash2 member

    I feel this way too. I'm assured by everyone else that you just somehow do. I guess they know what they're talking about! Smile

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  • DeeandBradDeeandBrad
    I know exactly what you mean but just think back before you had your DD I bet you could never have imagined you would love as much as you do.  I think our hearts just keep growing.  I think a lot of my fear is how I am going to provide enough attention to both of them?  There are lots of fears of bring another child into this world especially when they are so close in age, but everything will work out.  You are not a bad mom for having fear you just love your children.
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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    Your heart will grow.

    It really is that simple. Just like you never imagined how much you could love your first, you'll love your second too.

    But you will love them in different ways, and that is totally OK and normal.  They are different people, you'll have a different 'relationship' with each child, and different ways of interacting. So don't stress!

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  • lrrblrrb
    Trust me...theres PLENTY of love to go around! =) 

    "I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine

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  • akgramakgram
    I tell ya everyone said to me, "oh your heart just grows bigger"  and as cheesy as that sounds it's so true.  I also felt the same way!!
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  • KGskyKGsky member
    I know I can love 2, I'm just not sure if I will love #2 as much as I love #1.  Is that horrible?  I just remember that #1 and I did not bond right away, and I will probably have less time to bond with #2 than I had with #1. Eh, it's all theoretical for me right now.  I think #1 hung the moon and stars and before she was born I was just kind of like, OK...baby. Cool.  Cool
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  • lynnbeezlynnbeez

    I haven't done it yet but I do believe your heart grows.  I think it's normal for all moms to think about loving the next child as much.  I also think this is why you have the surge of hormones post birth, it's natures way of ensuring a bond between mother and child.

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  • KKMMexKKMMex
    Honestly, this part should be the least of your worries.  You'll love your next child just as much as the first.  That's just the way nature sets it up.  The logistics of caring for both of them simultaneously is the tricky part!

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  • FINALLYAMommy2007FINALLYAMommy2007

    As soon as you see that beautiful baby you will fall in love all over again!  I'm sure you will be an even better mother the 2nd time around with your experience :).

    Chin up you'll be great!

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