Uhh... We are just going in circles and nothing is working. As a teacher I figured I know what to do.... research it. Figured I would start here with some recommendations of good books.
1-2-3 Magic, which I hear pairs well with Love & Logic. I think that 1-2-3 works a bit better once kiddos are a *bit* older (ie. 3 & 4) but it is written for kids ages 2-12. I modify it a bit for my 2yo. Mostly it has helped ME calm down & not get so frustrated & up in arms when they are acting up.
Re: Recommend your discipline books....
Love and Logic