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Stay at home moms
Do u ever have days where u just feel completely overwhelmed and defeated. My girls are almost 10 months and I still have those days. They usually come after a bad sleep night (we've had a lot of those lately). I feel like I have no idea what I"m doing, that I'm not paying enough attention to each one, that I dont know how to keep them busy all day. I really wish I could afford a mother's helper or 1 day of daycare but its not in my budget at the moment. Most of the time, I enjoy being with them but I'm with them 24/7. Does anyone else have these days?
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Re: Stay at home moms
Yes, especially when my girls were around your girls age. It will get easier as they get older, but i remember many days stretched out in front of me wondering how am i going to get through this day, what am i going to do with them all day.... how do i get out of here??? I still have those days. I too am with my girls pretty much nonstop and much of that time alone.
I'll tell you it does get better as they become more and more little people. Hang in there. Do you have a mom's group or play group or something? That helps so much, to have other moms and babies to get out with, even just go to someone's house.
Mine are 10 weeks today, I'm home with them for another 6 weeks and I'm wondering the same thing.
I think its amazing that you are home with them all the time.
Ugh, that's one of the hardest parts of staying home! You're just not allowed to be sick : ) Or tired, or hungry, or needing to go to the bathroom...
Thanks guys...I feel better reading these. We usually stay somewhat busy but its a long day!
I'm dreading the winter when someone here is always sick!
YES
I am having one of those days today I feel defeated and overwhelmed.
I seriously joined a gym just to use their childcare. Granted I can go work out and that feels good but I can also hang out by the pool by myself and get a break.
It is hard, but watching them grow everyday is amazing. I try to remember that when I am crying because they are whining at me and I havent showered and etcetcetc. Just try to remember that this too shall pass and once they are a bit older, they are more fun to be around.
Mine aren't as old as yours Laurie but I have those days. I feel like I am a bad mommy because I didn't get a chance to work on sitting or something like that during the day. And some days, especially now that it is ridiculously hot, I don't bother attempting to get them out of the house because it's just not worth the effort and I don't wanna mess up nap time.
My husband had just suggested doing 1 day of daycare next year when they are a little older because he sees that I need some kind of break or help and he can't do it because he is gone for 14 - 15 hours of the day with work and commuting but I don't know if that will be in the budget next year.
Aubrey & Anthony
I make sure to get out of the house at least once a day, it really helps break up the day. It's also nice that since they have a pretty solid routine now broken up by a lot of bottles, naps, and solid food meals that there's never THAT long of a stretch of time where nothing's planned.
The one thing that really saves my sanity that I started early was encouraging independent play time. Yes, I do have time where I sit on the floor and read and play and sing with them, but I don't make myself feel like I have to be their 24/7 entertainment. We made their playroom a safe space for them to explore and my computer is just on the other side of a baby gate from them (one big room, my office is just a small section of the same room) so I can see and hear them and they can see and hear me. I do quite a bit of work (I work from home) while they play each day. They love to play together on their own and it gives me a bit of a break.