Please tell me it will be ok... :(

LovelyJules

Hi Ladies.  I don't typically post too often, but I am going through a tough time.  I feel like I am crazy.  I go back to work next week, and my DD is going to daycare.  My husband works at the facility that the daycare is in, and he can pop in at anytime, so I should be happy.  It's not that I don't trust the daycare. I know the teachers very well, and my little girl is a happy baby who I think will love to be around everyone.  I guess what I am feeling is jealousy.  I don't want them bonding with her.  I don't want my husband to be the one to "pop" in and check on her I want to do that.  I feel like I just to know her in these last three months and finally know her schedule just in time so others can reinforce it.  I will miss her terribly.  I have been crying all day knowing that she will be in daycare next week.  Is this normal?  Does it get better?  Did you have these feelings?  Thanks.

LuLu78

It will definitely get better and its totally normal to have those feelings. I have times where I'm jealous of SAHM's, or my daycare for getting to spend more time w/ DS. But I do know that he's getting so much from being at daycare. He's a social, thriving little boy so I can't have too many complaints.  But there are days when I question it all! Then there are other days that I'm glad to have some time to myself, even if it is at work! Just try and stay positive and realize it is ok to feel sad sometimes. But overall, your DD will probably love daycare and do well there. But she will still need you!

sohappyforthem369

It does get better and it its normal to feel that way. I had and still have those feelings and my DS is 25 months. I struggle with being happy that he likes daycare and they love him vs being jealous that I can't be there with him everyday all day.

katydid2007

The anticipation of returning to work is much worse than actually returning to work, imo.  We have a nanny and my husband gets to work at home frequently. Sometimes I feel jealous that he gets to see more of DS during the day, but mostly I just feel relieved that he gets to check up on how DS is doing. The situation you have is a good one and once you are working and into your new groove, you will see that clearly!  Don't worry -- you will be totally fine and your LO will benefit greatly from the great daycare facility you've chosen. 

stfne

First of all, your daughter is adorable.

And it is hard, but it does get better.  She will form an attachment with the daycare providers, which is a good thing.  But she will always know that you are her mommy and she'll be even more excited to see you at the end of the day.  Seeing that excitement in my DD's eyes when I walk in the door is part of what makes it all worth it. 

smiles4ya

I had those...  then there are days when she is being a really nasty and moody 2 year old who tells me no all the time... I'm glad to take her to daycare.  She turns into an angel when she gets there. 

worleygirl

I was making myself sick with worry/jealousy before I went back to work.  One month later - I'm doing fine!  It will be ok.  Hang in there and GL.

azuremama

The anticipation is definitely worse than the actuality.  I like coming to work and ds enjoys daycare.  The fact is that your LO will bond with her teachers and that's a good thing.  But no one will ever replace you in her eyes!  It's a totally different relationship and they always know who Mama is.