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We've been matched!!!

BeachJennBeachJenn
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I'm in shock. Little boy due Oct. 17th. Meeting EM on Monday - she's half my age! Any suggestions on questions, topics to discuss with her would be greatly appreciated.

Also, meeting EF separately. Was planning on bringing small toke to EM - what about EF?

I'm in shock in a good way. That's all I can express about how I'm feeling. OMG!!!

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Re: We've been matched!!!

  • crystalpopcorncrystalpopcorn member
    How exciting!  Congratulations Mom!
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  • *Erin&Mike**Erin&Mike*
    CONGRATS!!! I know the feeling of shocked! :) Enjoy the ride!!! It's a wild and crazy one!! :)
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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    First, congratulations on being matched!!!

    The EM who picked us is younger, too.  We went with a bunch of ideas of what to talk about but really didn't get to ask everything.  We just kind of went with the flow of the conversation.

    You could ask her about how she is feeling/doing.  If the EF is there, maybe you could ask her how they met.  You could ask about school, favorite things in school, hobbies, music, etc. You could talk to them about if they want a semi-open or open adoption and what that means to them.  You could ask other questions about them - where they grew up, what they want to do in the future, etc.

    We brought cookies.  We also brought a photo album of pictures to give to her.  (I also brought a few small art supplies because she likes art.)

    Good luck - I'm so excited for you!

     

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  • FinallyMrs.GFinallyMrs.G
    Exciting!! Congratulations. After your shock stage has cooled off write some questions down. I'm excited for you. Can't wait until I can post this.
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    Congratulations!  What great news!  Best of luck as you get to know each other.  Here's hoping you all have a nice, smooth ride!
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  • fenwaygirl5fenwaygirl5
    Congratulations!
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  • LadyRed7LadyRed7
    congrats! I can't wait to be in your shoes!!
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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    Congrats!!! I don't think shock wears off for awhile! How exciting.

    As other said - go with the flow of conversation and if there is a dead moment then you might ask a question about her and her life. She'll most likely be just as nervous.

    Try to remember everything and write it down afterwards (everything from your impressions of the BM - any thing that stands out (her scent, what kind of smile she has, etc) as well as any information she shares with you). I think this information will be highly important to your son later.

    I would just give something small and home made. I don't know if you are a baker but I saw a recipe today on Giada with heart shaped scones: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/giada-de-laurentiis/strawberry-and-rosemary-scones-recipe/index.html

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  • Alicia_22Alicia_22
    congrats! 
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  • pinkwedding05pinkwedding05
    Congrats!!  How exciting!
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    Congrats!!!! Amazing feeling!!!!
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • M&MBride0506M&MBride0506
    Congratulations!!!  So exciting, I know you guys must be over the moon!!!
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  • so1966so1966
    very very VERY exciting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hurrah!!!!  keep us posted!...
    After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
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  • Amy720Amy720
    Wow!  Amazing!  I can't wait to hear more!  Congrats!
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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    Congratulations!!
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  • jewele803jewele803
    Super exciting for you, can't wait to hear how your meeting goes!  We are in the same situation w/ BM and her age, no worries, it'll work out just fine!
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  • -Stephanie--Stephanie-
    Congratulations! So very exciting!!
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  • 517butterfly517butterfly
    Congratulations!!!!  Yay!!
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  • GLynn2009GLynn2009
    Yeah.......tell us all the news.
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