What's "Attachment Parenting?"

foundmylazybum

Is that board new? I don't ?travel around thebump that much...but I could swear that board hasn't been here the entire time I've been visiting Adoption..has it??

Is it just wearing your baby and co-sleeping? ?What does this AP involve!? ?

Dr.Loretta

It's new.

Attachment Parenting is a parenting style/technique that has either 6 or 8 basic principles. Co-sleeping and baby wearing are (I think) optional parts of it, but it's a little more in-depth than that. If you google it, you should get a list of the basic principles and the reasoning behind it.

foundmylazybum

Thanks Dr. L, I will do some googlin if I get the chance!

All these styles and theories...I'm not sure I could fit into just one! ?

jacksjerseygirl

foundmylazybum:

All these styles and theories...I'm not sure I could fit into just one!  

Yep. It is amazing all the parenting theories out there. I can't pigeon-hole myself into someone else's parenting beliefs. Over the generations these theories come and go - only for the next generation to perform studies to show how bad the popular theories of yester-year screwed everyone up LOL This parenting philosophy along with all the other current-day popular ones will be mocked by our kids ha!

It's great to be educated about them all and then take what works for you, your family and child. Who needs labels.

 

noonecarewhoiam

Jacks, I totally agree with you! Lets face it--there's no perfect way to raise a child and a million ways to mess them up. The best you can do is make sure you have mental health coverage that includes therapy!

In a way, I find the whole "attachment parenting" label a bit patronizing/insulting. Maybe it's because attachment is such a big issue in adoption, especially with older children, but I find insulting the suggestion that I can't form a strong bond with my child if I don't breastfeed and cosleep (neither of which worked for us).

candm

noonecarewhoiam:

In a way, I find the whole "attachment parenting" label a bit patronizing/insulting. Maybe it's because attachment is such a big issue in adoption, especially with older children, but I find insulting the suggestion that I can't form a strong bond with my child if I don't breastfeed and cosleep (neither of which worked for us).

You don't have to BF or co-sleep to practice AP. The principles of AP are based on the attachment cycle which is discussed in almost every adoption book I've read. I think the two go hand in hand. Whether or not they call it that, most adoption books are in synch with AP techniques.

Though I will add co-sleeping is an excellent way of bonding with adopted babies/children. I think a person has to consider it seriously with a baby b/c it is not safe for everyone. But with older children, in most cases co-sleeping is hugely beneficial.

Also, re: BF'ing.  There are ways to bottle feed that mimic BF'ing so as to maximize the bonding. It's as much about technique and nurture as it is about getting baby the actual breast milk. I will use similar techniques when feeding our older children once they come home.

TiffanyBlue927

jacksjerseygirl:

foundmylazybum:

All these styles and theories...I'm not sure I could fit into just one!  

Yep. It is amazing all the parenting theories out there. I can't pigeon-hole myself into someone else's parenting beliefs. Over the generations these theories come and go - only for the next generation to perform studies to show how bad the popular theories of yester-year screwed everyone up LOL This parenting philosophy along with all the other current-day popular ones will be mocked by our kids ha!

It's great to be educated about them all and then take what works for you, your family and child. Who needs labels.

 

This...Amen Jacks!