Not happy that I'm having a boy

daisydana

Sorry you are feeling this way.  I hope it passes when you get used to the idea of a little girl.

We aren't finding out the sex until birth and it makes me nervous.  I have always said that I wanted boys.  I still do.  I think this baby is a girl.  Don't know why.  Maybe it's to prepare myself for the disappointment if it is.

Having said all that.  If it's a girl, of course I will love her.  I already love him or her and wouldn't change a thing about my pregnancy.

 

just_peachy

JESUS was a boy and look how fantastic He turned out to be!

Smile!

Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they just are.  You'll get used to the idea in a week or so.  We glamorize baby girls with girly clothes and accessories but all in all, they are just babies with different plumbing.

Boys are fun and sweet just like little girls.  You'll love your baby no matter what - give yourself time and know that it's normal to have a little gender letdown.

 

BakerMommy

I was really sure that I was having a boy and it's a girl.  I was sad and realized I needed some time to "mourn" the boy I thought I was having.  I'm thrilled my little girl is healthy and now I can't wait to meet her!

megs68

I am late here, but I felt the same way you did when I found out I was having a boy. I cried several times and like poster above me said, I had to mourn the dreams of a girl that I'd had my entire life.  I was convinced I would be having a girl and the news that I was quite a blow. It took me about 2 really hard days and a few better days and eventually it did go away and I'm used to the idea. I am now feeling him kick and tumble and I feel a closer bond to him now than that day I found out.  It does get better and you'll soon bond with him and feel a lot better, I promise!

taminica80

It feels like I lost my baby girl since I became pregnant I have had dreams that I was having a girl and it does feel like I'm mourning her or at least the idea of her.  In the dreams I seen her face and she's looked just like me so it's like she was real to me

farrellashleigh

You do know that the baby picks up on your emotion and lack of bonding with it right?? Could you imagine telling a child that you didn't want it.... because that's the message you're sending by thinking this. That's really sad. My advice would be to let this be the last time that this thought even crosses your mind and be grateful that you're being blessed with a child at all.

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farrellashleigh:

You do know that the baby picks up on your emotion and lack of bonding with it right?? Could you imagine telling a child that you didn't want it.... because that's the message you're sending by thinking this. That's really sad. My advice would be to let this be the last time that this thought even crosses your mind and be grateful that you're being blessed with a child at all.

Oh for crying out loud. Where are you getting this from?

The OP is not even remotely alone in her feelings and as long as she doesn't go into some kind of major, gender disappointment induced, depression that lasts long past the arrival of her child, I think she's fine. Your attempted guilt trip is just silly. 

t1nkerbell83

 I understand! I kinda went through the same thing when they told me at 12 weeks that it was a boy! but now I LOVE this little man of mine ! He is everything that I have even wanted! I feel now that if God only blessed me with boys, that would be the BEST BLESSING!!!! 

ToledoDeux

farrellashleigh:

You do know that the baby picks up on your emotion and lack of bonding with it right?? Could you imagine telling a child that you didn't want it.... because that's the message you're sending by thinking this. That's really sad. My advice would be to let this be the last time that this thought even crosses your mind and be grateful that you're being blessed with a child at all.

You're a misinformed jerk.

LittleMamaB

farrellashleigh:

You do know that the baby picks up on your emotion and lack of bonding with it right?? Could you imagine telling a child that you didn't want it.... because that's the message you're sending by thinking this. That's really sad. My advice would be to let this be the last time that this thought even crosses your mind and be grateful that you're being blessed with a child at all.

PLEASE tell me that you really believe this!

LOL. Funniest stuff I've seen on the nest all week. 

taminica80

Writing this post and all of the positive and negative advice that all of you gave me helped me a lot and I want to thank all of you for that. I have realized how blessed I am to have this child especially with a man that loves me and wants to be with me and those feeling that I had before are gone after me and my husband started thinking of names I feel a lot better with having a boy and I do feel kind of stupid feeling like that but I'm better now because of all of you so again thank you.