MIL is being sord of PUSHY!

freemand_23

Yesterday was my first day back from my maternity leave.  My SIL (she lives with MIL) voluteered to keep DD for us until she finds a job.  So I get a phone call yesterday from my MIL complaining about a phone call she received from my DH..DH told her that once his sister finds a job that he will stay home with DD since business is slow (he works in a salon owned by his father) he works strictly off of commission, and it wouldn't make since for him to be at work and not make anything while the baby is at the nanny. He figures that we could potentially loose money if he didn't make anything from his commission.  It made sense to me however his mom didn't feel the same way about it! My MIL said absolutly NOT...She said that it will look bad if DH stays home with baby, and that as a man he should be at work....and that perception is everything....she said what would people think if they find out DH is staying at home with DD...I told her that some men stay home with their kids...she said that she didn't know of any...I told her that DH wouldn't be staying home permantly with her, it would only be temporary until he finds a more stable job that is sord of consistant with pay. I mean we have to do what is best for our family...I really could care less what other people think...DH and I really aren't the type to try to impress, and we really don't want to cause friction in our household trying to add an extra expense that we can't really afford right now.

What are your thoughts??

futuremnm

If DH is willing/wants to stay home with DD, he should! It sounds like that is what's best for you right now financially, and for what MIL says about perception - I think people would see it as a positive thing that he is staying home with her rather than dropping her off at daycare.

EmilyBowes

baby is best with one of its two parents. if it can't be you then obviously the next best thing is daddy if he's available. MILs only know what's best some of the time. they're biased by their own old-fashioned ideas or outdated childcare techniques. don't listen to her.

KelliLynee

I think she sounds very closed minded and I hope you guys stick to your guns and do what you think is best for your family, not what SHE perceives as best.

And not to pick but the term is "sort of" (not sord of). Sorry I am a spelling freak.

niecy

Let DH stay home, eff the MIL

KelliLynee

niecy:

Let DH stay home, eff the MIL

haha 

cathy_and_matt

Well, I guess she's entitled to her opinion (as outdated as it is), but you're also entitled to do what's best for your family. And it sounds as if DH staying home with LO is it! There's obviously nothing wrong with the father being the primary childcare provider.

kklickka

I think some people are way too concerned with how things "look". My grandmother is like this...DH and I moved in together before we got married and she was all concerned with what people would think.  I say, if it makes financial sense and your DH can be with your child rather than a nanny, go for it!

wifeypooh

I vaguely remember you talking about a lot of MIL issues when I was on third tri, no?

I think its none of her business what you and DH decided is best for your family. Also, I think it will be wonderful for your DH to get to spend all that quality time with your baby.

MiaVonT

Im in the salon business so I totally know what you're talking about!!!!

 

Screw her and her old fashioned views!!! DH and I htought the same thing ... why should I be at work with the potential to make no money and pay out more to a nanny than what I'd bring home! And besides .... I'm sure most ... if given the option ... would prefer a parent to stay at home vs. daycare