Update

Mom's Getting Married

Just wanted to give an update for those of you that saw my post about our concern that our BM was scamming us.

We spoke with our case worker today. She had spoken with our BM. In short, things are alright. First, all the messages that we had been leaving for her with her parents were never delivered. The same mom that is holding the August rent money also did not deliver any of our messages. Our caseworker actually overheard the conversation between BM and her mom, in which her mom denied that we had ever called or left any messages. BM's mom actually told BM that case worker was lying about the calls....so apparently her parents aren't such nice people.  So...we now know where that confusion started.

As far as the rent, that is related to her parents as well. The apartment that she was going to move into was actually rented out to her mom, and then her mom was sub-leasing to her sister. BM was going to move in with sister, so that would make her mom the landlord. The way our agency works is that they don't distribute funds to BM; they write checks to the "vendor." So, in the instance of rent, that would be her mom. Well, now her mom is refusing to refund the money to her, even though she ended up not moving into the apartment. However, mom is letting her stay at her house....so, good news is she didn't kick her out. Bad news is that she won't refund the money. BM is just going to stick it out until end of month. I don't think it was a good idea to set up a scenario where an unsupportive family member was a landlord or involved with money....but I didn't get asked.

BM is really, really stressed and the doc actually put her on bed rest because of the stress. BM was really upset and worried that we'd had problems with her mom and begged caseworker to make sure we knew that she was "totally committed" to the adoption. She was afraid we had backed out. She told case worker that the more difficult her parents make things, the more she is reminded that she doesn't want her child to grow up in that environment like she did. Her parents are supportive of her giving the child up for adoption and are aware of the adoption plan; they are just not supportive of US specifically (due to religious reasons, on their part).

So, we are just trying to take it one day at a time and praying that things smooth out for her. Obviously, her family is not making things easy. If only we could take them out of the equation....We did ask the case worker to hold off on any further funds dispersements (except food, which is standard weekly expense) that aren't run by us first. We just want to make sure we see everything before it is sent for a while.

October can't get here soon enough. Thanks for all the prayers and support. I appreciate it.

Erica

 

MayDayGirl

Wow, but glad things are ok.

Honeydew1894

Wow...that is a crazy situation. I am glad it is resolved. I can imagine it must be pretty stressful. Here's to smooth sailing from here on out!

jewele803

I'm glad things are def on trac and yes, for your sake, October please hurry up!

Art Teacher

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with all that -- I'm glad that you have more information about it now.

I hope the rest of the waiting goes smoother. 

(hugs)

pinkwedding05

Sounds like a sticky situation.  I'm sorry the emom's parents aren't more supportive and are making things so much more difficult than they already are.  I hope your emom does well on bedrest.  I think you are making a wise choice about further expenses.  Hugs.  Keep us posted.