I am SO over...

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

people judging me as a working mom.  I was in the beauty supply today picking up some things for a client I still take care of (I work in a bank full time) and myself and the lady working there got to talking about my son.  She then said, "Oh, you work part time?" I responded by saying full time.  She then asked me if I had someone come to my house to take care of ds.  I said no, that he goes to a daycare.  Then she responds with, "Oh, well it was just different when I was raising MY kids. More people stayed home."  Ugh, it was just all very condecending in general and really made me mad.  Really, it was probably more to do with the way she said it.  Its enough that at work every day I have at least one person say they can't believe I am back to work already.  For petes sake, my son is almost 6 months! 

AlisaS

Dude, let it go. She is a lady with grown kids and is working as a clerk at a beauty supply store. Life didn't turn out the way she planned.

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

I know it is stupid to get worked up over.  It just gets old hearing things like that when I thought that at least our society had grown more accepting in the past however many years.

devansic

I SO agree.  I get so tired of Dr. Laura telling women that they just have to make it work in order to stay home with their kids.  My DD learns so much from being with other kids in school and day care.  

She plays games that aren't that much fun with Mommy, and she has multiple influences in her life.  Yes, sometimes I don't like those influences (like whoever taught her to say "I can't") but she's learning more there than she would, sheltered in my house with me 24/7.  

Goodness, she's been home for three weeks for summer vacation, and she's going stir crazy!  I can't wait until school starts back up again next week and she can go back to kindergarten and interact with all these other kids, and then spend the rest of the day in daycare, playing games and making friends.

If it's your choice to stay home, FINE, but it's my choice to work, and that works best for my family.  I don't think that I know best how to interact with a 5 year old, and I'm so excited to see how much she learns when she isn't under my sphere of influence.

Sorry for the rant, but you tripped me off, and I agree with you wholeheartedly.  Thanks for the opportunity to vent! 

AlisaS

EveryNameIWantIsTaken:

I know it is stupid to get worked up over.  It just gets old hearing things like that when I thought that at least our society had grown more accepting in the past however many years.

I know and agree - it is still annoying. If I had a dime for every woman who told me they would have gone to med school but wanted to "be there for their kids" I could retire early.

 

firsttogo

I lurk here and at SAHM board because I currently stay home, knowing that if our financial situation doesn't improve soon, I will be working outside of the home. I feel that a lot of working moms that I know are very secure in their decision, and should be.

I stay home now because it is what I am chosing to do. It is not a value judgment on other parents. It actually has nothing to do with what other moms do! You are a great mom whether you work at your house, or outside of your home. You can not let other comments get to you. I hear all of the time about moms telling me that they work so they can "provide" a certain lifestyle that we will never aford. That can be tough to think about sometimes too. Just remember that you are doing what is best for you, your child, and your family as a whole. Who gives a ratsass about what others do or say!

yellowcar

Seriously.  I think when people say these asinine things to me I am going to start answering with things like, "Yes, and women used to be considered property, and people who were different colors used to have to sit at the back of the bus...isn't it great how we've evolved?"

The receptionist at my job said something like this when DD was a baby.  It was along the lines of , "MY husband provided for me..." when her kids were young...I was so worked up about it, until I considered the source.  Yeah--what she neglected to mention was that said husband divorced her, left her to take care of those kids, and here she is almost 70 still working and will never retire because she frankly can't afford to.  No thanks, I'll keep working.

abpdjs

i would have said, "YUP! well times have changed, haven't they?!"

texaspch7

yellowcar:

Seriously.  I think when people say these asinine things to me I am going to start answering with things like, "Yes, and women used to be considered property, and people who were different colors used to have to sit at the back of the bus...isn't it great how we've evolved?"

The receptionist at my job said something like this when DD was a baby.  It was along the lines of , "MY husband provided for me..." when her kids were young...I was so worked up about it, until I considered the source.  Yeah--what she neglected to mention was that said husband divorced her, left her to take care of those kids, and here she is almost 70 still working and will never retire because she frankly can't afford to.  No thanks, I'll keep working.

 

 

And it's so funny they don't think about this for themselves!  lol