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hersheykiss

Someone this past weekend asked me if the adoptive parents celebrate K's bday as the day she was physically born, the day they took her home from the hospital (4 days later), the day my rights were terminated (2 weeks after she was born) or the day she was offically theirs.

I told them the day she was physically born and I am sure they did something for the finalization day but I don't know for certain. It got me wondering, what do you or will you celebrate DC's bday as?

mom2one

um...on their birthday. Adopted kids get at least two special days (birthday and adoption day...and many also celebrate"Gotcha day"...the day the child was placed with his parents).

Art Teacher

We'll celebrate DC's birthday on their actual birthday.  We'll celebrate their finalization day, too, and maybe the day they came home with us as well. 

 I agree with the last post - we wouldn't celebrate the day the birthmother's rights were terminated. 

hersheykiss

I was just wondering. I thought it was weird that someone asked me that. It never occurred to me.

PSU-NCBride

We will probably just celebrate his birthday and finalization day. We were in the delivery room with him, took placement 24 hours later and then he was discharged at 48 hours. I guess we felt like it was all part of his being born process and didn't really distinguish between the events of the first 48 hours even though legally it was very important. Not sure if that made sense or came out right....

jacksjerseygirl

Well birth day is what it implies .. the day the child was born. Therefore, like any other child, Grant's birthday will be celebrated on the day he was born even though we met him a couple of days later. Obviously the first date that we met him will always be special. The day he came home with us will always be special too (but in all honesty I can't even remember what date that was lol sentimental things like that kind of get put on the back shelf of the mind when you're busy being a parent). 

I imagine this is akin to a preemie baby whose parents could not hold them or bring them home right away - the will always "remember" the special moment when they did get to hold them and bring them home.

His finalization date will be a separate and special day. I think it works out great because he gets two celebrations each year ... his birthday and his finalization date which will be about 6  months later.

FinallyMrs.G

We will celebrate birthday and finalization day! 

jadenimp1

::Lurker input::

I'm adopted and my parents celebrated my birthday and my "anniversary", the day the adoption was finalized.  I always loved that I had 2 special celebrations each year!

MsBlake

My birthday was celebrated on my birthday. We don't celebrate the finalization.

Dr.Loretta

A birthday would always be the day the child was born, at least to me

noonecarewhoiam

We celebrate birthdays only.

Otherwise, it would get to be too much--2 Gotcha days (and which day would we count? When we came home, or possession in Korea) and 2 finalization days (and I don't even know what those are, as we didn't have to appear in court and just had the paperwork mailed to us).

But then again, I don't even know my own wedding anniversary, so I'm probably a bad example.

LadyRed7

FinallyMrs.G:

We will celebrate birthday and finalization day! 

This is what we are planning.