howleyshel

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First of all...I just want to thank you for all your positive posts and comments.  You seem like such a good and patient mommy that just takes things as they come.  I noticed that you have two boys that are close in age.  DS #1 is 13 months old and DS #2 will be here in next Friday so my two lil men will be a little over 13 months apart.  I just wanted to ask you, as a mother or 2 small boys, if you have any advice to give me.  Do your boys fight much?  Do they play well with eachother?  How did DS #1 adjust when the baby came home?  Anything you would like to share, I would appreciate it.

Thanks in advance and by the way...do you think u will try for that baby girl?  I love having "my boys" but I am wondering if three years down the road if I will want to try again!!  Just praying to make it through this first year at the moment though!

howleyshell

You're so sweet!

Thanks.

Honestly... I'm not such a patient mommy.  I don't always take things as they come.  I was a blubbering mess right before Jace was born.  I guess that's why I feel so compelled to post here.  It really wasn't as bad as I expected it to be but I felt so scared and alone before we were actually in the thick of it.

I don't really have any advice.  My boys really don't fight much and they do play pretty well together.  Honestly I think it's just luck of the draw personality wise.  Had mine been reversed I think we would have had more struggles.  My second was/is super laid back and that makes all the difference.  If my second had been just like my first we would have been in for a rough ride.  I guess we weren't given more than we could handle.

I guess just the standard stuff.  I've taught them no hitting, hug and kiss and say you're sorry, etc.  

I think you're lucky that they're so close in age.  Helping #1 adjust won't take much.  #1 will likely not notice the baby much at all.  He's more likely to notice a bit more of your absence than the actual baby himself.  By the time he realized the baby is a person hopefully they'll have some positive interactions.  When the baby started to smile at the toddler the toddler kinda thought he was cool and then it was a game to try to get the baby to smile at him again.  

Honestly I did grieve the loss of never being a girl Mom when we saw Jace's package on u/s.  It was mixed emotions.  I really thought the same gender would be best with them being so close in age and I do believe it's helping matters that they are.  

But.... one day walking home from the park we had a 10 minute banter of "you farted"....  "no.... YOU farted"... "no YOU farted"

In that moment I turned to DH and said:  "We're having a girl."

The trick is that I'd wager 98% that it would be another boy.

GL to you.

Come here for support.

The first 3-4 months will be survival but you'll be amazed at how fast you get into a routine and figure out how to juggle both of them.

Once the baby starts STTN things get much better.

For us now life's pretty easy.  It's much easier going places, etc now that they're both older.

And the BEST part is seeing them interact.  I'm thrilled that they have each other to play and grow with.

I'm sure you'll love it too!