Okay, I just have to ask....

kaylamarcus

This is personal, but something we'll all deal with, so here it goes!

How do you maintain a sex life while bedsharing?  Especially with toddlers???  I just don't get the logistics of it, and neither does my husband.  We've talked about it when discussing different sleeping options for our little one (when baby gets here!), and just can't wrap our heads around it!

Thanks for anyone brave enough to answer, and I really hope this isn't offensive!   I'm truly just really curious!!!

ling79

For us definitely not easily, lol!  But you have to be creative and make it happen in other rooms/areas than the bed.

Brideofranken

guest room, naptime, babies don't have to ONLY sleep in your bed ALL of the time..

cobaltblue

Well, we don't often do it at bedtime and didn't even before baby (too tired then), so that isn't much of an issue for us. ?We take advantage of the time we have when baby's napping in the evening or on the weekends. ?You just have to be creative and seize the opportunities when they arise. ?

Dobie_Mama

Naptime & rooms other than the bedroom.  We were never big "sex is ONLY for the bedroom!" people before DD so it wasn't really a huge adjustment.

Mrs.Provost

Spare room, couch, shower, hallway floor, armchair - naptimes, daytime, morning, nighttime.

Honestly - full time cosleeping has spiced up our sex life in terms of spontenaity and creativity.

My Mom had both kids for the night not long ago so we could have a date night and we thought it was a crazy night because we actually got to have sex IN our bed at NIGHT...lol 

We've managed to have a second child, so it can't be too  hard. ;-)

kaylamarcus

Haha!  Great responses, thanks ladies!!

jen_and_tom

Mrs.Provost:

Spare room, couch, shower, hallway floor, armchair - naptimes, daytime, morning, nighttime.

Honestly - full time cosleeping has spiced up our sex life in terms of spontenaity and creativity.

ditto this!

kittycarr

Honey, the bed is not the only place there is to f*ck...

EmmieB

jen_and_tom:

Mrs.Provost:

Spare room, couch, shower, hallway floor, armchair - naptimes, daytime, morning, nighttime.

Honestly - full time cosleeping has spiced up our sex life in terms of spontenaity and creativity.

ditto this!

I'm actually looking forward to this!

mominatrix

we have a toddler who loves her Elmo, and loves to play with toys in the living room...

...we set her up with a video and some toys and she's usually good for 30-45 minutes.

I know, I know, we shouldn't be using the TV as a babysitter... but it works so well!

...and it's only a few times a week, and if we didn't do it, I'm sure we'd be far worse parents...

everything in moderation, right?

Celyn

Spare bedrooms, showers, sofas, kitchen counter, laundry room, back seat of the car... It's a bit like courtship

IselaCid

I didn't know the only place to have sex was the bed!

Mike_Hunt

I'll be honest.  STBX and I stopped having sex after the baby was born, so cosleeping was not an issue because we weren't having sex anyway.

I think it can be a bad thing for a sex life.  But I also think a sex life can go on hold for a while and be revived again with time and attention.

But we're divorcing, so grain of salt and whatnot.

ncbelle

We use the guest room ;-)  We actually started doing that well before kiddo was born to escape the dogs (lame I know!).  Now it's sort of a running joke and we have to go there. 

We could just as easily put him down in his crib to start the night and use our bedroom though.

JulyFiveBride

Date night, nap time, other rooms, etc. I've never been a night sex person (can't say the same about DH, he's an anytime, anywhere person, LOL) so I don't think co-sleeping has had any more impact than just having a child in general, kwim? Once DD is asleep, we can usually sneak out of bed for awhile, though, if we want to.

suzymarie

We have a twin mattress pushed up against our queen, that W. starts the night on.  So we are good to go   Sometimes the LR works too.  Honestly though we don't have sex like we did pre-kids, but I doubt that is related to bedsharing!

kaylamarcus

I know our bed isn't the only place to have sex, but for me it's the comfiest and most convenient place for it (most of the time, at least!)  Maybe I just like it there cause we just bought a brand new cal king a few months ago and I'm reveling in the luxury of space??  haha:) 

I like all your suggestions, guys!!  Thanks for bein honest--Fun thread to read:)

monksmama

Bed sharing brought to our attention the glory of shower sex. Can't believe how long we had gone without that gem!

We also have a twin sidecar'ed to our queen, but having him that close -even sleeping - kills the mood for me.

So if we are in the mood during a rare naptime - J is either on the couch or in his toddler bed so no problems there. If we are in the mood at night after he is in bed we are exploring one of the fabulous options that never occured to us before we had a bed mate. Morning quickies are easy with a high chair some OJ and spongebob.

(LOL - I just cracked myself up thinking how the definition of 'sponge' in terms of my sex life has changed so drastically since having kids!)