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pbhennessy

Hi, I'm new to this board.  We found out two days ago at our first u/s (at 10w4d) that the pregnancy never developed past 5w.  I never miscarried on my own, so I had a D&C yesterday.

I can't stop crying.  I know we were only 10+ weeks, but they were some of the happiest weeks of my life.  We were waiting until 12 weeks to tell people "in case something happened."  Well now "something happened" and I feel so alone.

When will I stop feeling so sad and lost? 

TaraBrooks

I'm so sorry for you loss.

I'm sure other posters would agree that a miscarriage is hard at any stage, and you never really get over it.

Cry as much as you can, and talk to your DH about how you feel, and certainly vent here.  We are here to support and encorage mothers who have lost children.

The sadnees will get better, it doesn't seem like it now, but it will and someday your functionality will be almost normal.  It's a apart of you that can't be changed, and you carry it everywhere.

These next few wees/months/next year are going to be difficult, you just get by.

Use us for support, or even me.  PM if you like, I'm a good listener!

(((HUGS)))

BriAZ

Oh hun I'm so sorry for your loss!!! ((((HUGS))))) What you're feeling is COMPLETELY normal. I felt the same way just a few weeks ago. Cry whenever you need to, dont let anyone tell you otherwise. The girls on this board are always here for eachother. No one here expects you to get over this overnight. We all know it takes a lot of time, tears, anger and frustration to get through this.

samm1983

I am so sorry for your loss.  This is a great place to vent and get support.

smileychic10986

I am so very sorry for your loss.  I know what you are going through, as I went through the same thing a few weeks ago.  It feels like the pain is going to be never-ending at times.  I'll tell you, it does get easier.  I will never forget my little one that I lost, but I have to remind myself Junior is in a better place now, playing with all of the other angel babies (yours included:)   I am just so sorry others have to go through this.  Cry as much as you need to.  For a few days it was all I did.  I still cry almost daily at some point or another, but it does get better.  I am sorry you have to join us here, but this is a wonderful group of ladies who have all been very supportive to me.

pbhennessy

Thank you all for your kind words.  It sucks that any of us have to be on this board, but all the same, it does help to know we're not alone.  

priya&peter

I am so sorry for your loss.  Like the PP said, no matter when it happens, it is incredibly hard.  I hope you find some comfort here with all of these great ladies who have all shared the same pain you are experiencing right now. (((HUGS)))

vkbaby09

I'm very sorry for your loss.  If you feel like talking to people about it IRL you'll probably start hearing stories left and right from other ppl who've been through m/c and pg loss.  It's really amazing how common it is - and that's not to say that everyone isn't special - especially your loss - I guess I'm just trying to say that a lot of people can relate and that might help.  Even telling one trusted friend might help you feel better and less alone.  But know we're always here for you.  The ladies here are great and have helped me so much. 

amandaooooo

I am so sorry. Sadly, I can relate all too well. I just had a D&C two days ago. It was our first pregnancy and I was 11wks too. I had an u/s at 7wks with a strong Hb. At NT scan we were told our baby's heart had stopped and only measured 9wk 2d.

I wish we had waited to tell everyone about our pregnancy, but, we were so overjoyed we could not help but tell the world. Now all of my friends want to see me and I can't even answer the phone. I don't think there is any easy way to deal with this kind of sorrow. You are not alone, I am grieving right here with you.