If it took a while for you to get pregnant...

massdreams

When do you plan on trying for the next one? We would like to have baby #2 when DS is about 3 years old, but it took us 8 months of TTC to conceive DS the first time around. I sometimes wonder when we should start trying for #2 because of this. For those that took a while, do you plan on starting a little earlier than you ideally would in case it takes a long time again?

Miss.Modular

just a gentle fyi: 8 months is  not a 'long' time to ttc, it's quite the average.  justtt a warning in case any IF'ers come in here lol

 

it took us awhile, and we might need IF treatments this next time around so it's definitely a factor.  I think we still might wait until he is 2 though.

 

 

massdreams

Miss.Modular:

just a gentle fyi: 8 months is  not a 'long' time to ttc, it's quite the average.  justtt a warning in case any IF'ers come in here lol

I know DH and I were in a much better boat than others and luckier than others. IRL though, all of my friends (not kiddding either) got pregnant the first 2 months of TTC!

victoria1977

It took us 9 months to get pregnant with DS. It scares me to think that it may not be easy with #2. Ideally, I'd like them 2.5-3 years apart. I am no where near wanting another baby now, but the idea that it may not be that easy/fast the second time around does pop into my mind. A lot.

lollipop320

It took us 1.5 years until we finally conceived DS.  We went through fertility meds and were going to start more agressive treatments when I got 2 surprise BFPs.

We are starting TTC now given it took awhile last time.  Ideally, I would like our children close in age.

TKx2

I have a hormone imbalance that causes me to only ovulate 3-4 times a year.  I would like to get pregnant again next summer.  I'm going to talk with my OB at my annual next month to see what she thinks.  I may have to take meds to help me ovulate more regularly.  I'm probably going to get off the pill this fall and start charting again.  Depending on how everything looks, we may start actively TTC in late winter/early spring.

thumbkin

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

DG1

I charted for 9 full months TTC the first time - got PG on month 10 when we were actually TTA.  I figured it would be like that the second time, too, but I got pregnant on my third postpartum cycle (we were NOT trying, but no BC or anything, either).

So, my only advice is to keep preventing as long as it would be a *bad* thing if you got pregnant again.  Otherwise, go ahead and get off of the BC, because you never know if it's going to be a month or a year, you know?

Miss.Modular

thumbkin:

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

 

2.5 years? did you see a RE?

thumbkin

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

 

2.5 years? did you see a RE?

 

The problem is on my DH's side so it has been a sensitive issue.  We got all of the fertility tests done and they determined it would be less than a 1% chance of us conceiving naturally.  However he didn't want to do any IVF and so it took me a long time to get him to do any follow up testing.  It was the most difficult time we have had in our marriage.  I pretty much had given up the hope of having children and then I got a BFP.  One of the happiest days of my life.  We would love to have another but I don't know if that will be in the cards or not.

Miss.Modular

thumbkin:

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

 

2.5 years? did you see a RE?

 

The problem is on my DH's side so it has been a sensitive issue.  We got all of the fertility tests done and they determined it would be less than a 1% chance of us conceiving naturally.  However he didn't want to do any IVF and so it took me a long time to get him to do any follow up testing.  It was the most difficult time we have had in our marriage.  I pretty much had given up the hope of having children and then I got a BFP.  One of the happiest days of my life.  We would love to have another but I don't know if that will be in the cards or not.

 

ugh how frustrating, i hope he shapes up for your sake. what is wrong with IVF (is it religious reasons??)  i hope to god it's not some macho thing!

 

 

Erika6504

It took us 2 years (and a m/c) to conceive DD.  My cycles were totally screwed up and I had a bunch of testing and was on Clomid. 

ANYWAY, since having DD, my cycles are actually pretty normal.  I've been off of BC since January and, although I've had regular (28-34 day) cycles, I'm not pregnant.  We really aren't avoiding, but we also aren't trying.  Ideally I would like I get pregnant sometime this fall. 

I left plenty of time between going off of BC and when I wanted to get pregnant so that I would know what was going on with my body.

Miss.Modular

Erika6504:

It took us 2 years (and a m/c) to conceive DD.  My cycles were totally screwed up and I had a bunch of testing and was on Clomid. 

ANYWAY, since having DD, my cycles are actually pretty normal.  I've been off of BC since January and, although I've had regular (28-34 day) cycles, I'm not pregnant.  We really aren't avoiding, but we also aren't trying.  Ideally I would like I get pregnant sometime this fall. 

I left plenty of time between going off of BC and when I wanted to get pregnant so that I would know what was going on with my body.

 

FWIW: I had 35ish day cycles and was not ovulating. you should chart to make sure you are back on track if you want to ttc in the fall.  

Erika6504

Miss.Modular:

Erika6504:

It took us 2 years (and a m/c) to conceive DD.  My cycles were totally screwed up and I had a bunch of testing and was on Clomid. 

ANYWAY, since having DD, my cycles are actually pretty normal.  I've been off of BC since January and, although I've had regular (28-34 day) cycles, I'm not pregnant.  We really aren't avoiding, but we also aren't trying.  Ideally I would like I get pregnant sometime this fall. 

I left plenty of time between going off of BC and when I wanted to get pregnant so that I would know what was going on with my body.

 

FWIW: I had 35ish day cycles and was not ovulating. you should chart to make sure you are back on track if you want to ttc in the fall.  

I've charted a few cycles and I am ovulating.  Thanks for the FWIW though.  My problem is that you actually have to have sex to get pregnant

Miss.Modular

heheeh

thumbkin

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

 

2.5 years? did you see a RE?

 

The problem is on my DH's side so it has been a sensitive issue.  We got all of the fertility tests done and they determined it would be less than a 1% chance of us conceiving naturally.  However he didn't want to do any IVF and so it took me a long time to get him to do any follow up testing.  It was the most difficult time we have had in our marriage.  I pretty much had given up the hope of having children and then I got a BFP.  One of the happiest days of my life.  We would love to have another but I don't know if that will be in the cards or not.

 

ugh how frustrating, i hope he shapes up for your sake. what is wrong with IVF (is it religious reasons??)  i hope to god it's not some macho thing!

 

 

 Not religious at all.  More macho.  It totally surprised me.  I thought we were on the same page and when I found out that we weren't, it killed me. He wanted kids but apparently only if it didn't require invasive work to conceive.  The funny thing is he is thrilled to death to have DS and he wants another one.  He is an excellent father.  I kind of wish the issues were on my end and then he would support me in whatever I wanted to do.  But I can't make him go get his balls fondled by the doctors, the next step was a ultrasound on his scrotum and he wouldn't go and get it done.  I am glad it worked out though.

Miss.Modular

thumbkin:

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

Miss.Modular:

thumbkin:

It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive DS.  8 months would be a dream come true for me, but I know that it is hard no matter how long it takes.  So we started TTC when he was 3 months old.  We are on cycle 6 and nothing so far.

 

2.5 years? did you see a RE?

 

The problem is on my DH's side so it has been a sensitive issue.  We got all of the fertility tests done and they determined it would be less than a 1% chance of us conceiving naturally.  However he didn't want to do any IVF and so it took me a long time to get him to do any follow up testing.  It was the most difficult time we have had in our marriage.  I pretty much had given up the hope of having children and then I got a BFP.  One of the happiest days of my life.  We would love to have another but I don't know if that will be in the cards or not.

 

ugh how frustrating, i hope he shapes up for your sake. what is wrong with IVF (is it religious reasons??)  i hope to god it's not some macho thing!

 

 

 Not religious at all.  More macho.  It totally surprised me.  I thought we were on the same page and when I found out that we weren't, it killed me. He wanted kids but apparently only if it didn't require invasive work to conceive.  The funny thing is he is thrilled to death to have DS and he wants another one.  He is an excellent father.  I kind of wish the issues were on my end and then he would support me in whatever I wanted to do.  But I can't make him go get his balls fondled by the doctors, the next step was a ultrasound on his scrotum and he wouldn't go and get it done.  I am glad it worked out though.

 

 

you are a better person than I am. this would have been a *complete* dealbreaker for me.  Macho! my god!!

 

 

skoorbnibor

Miss.Modular:

just a gentle fyi: 8 months is  not a 'long' time to ttc, it's quite the average.  justtt a warning in case any IF'ers come in here lol

 

yes, this.

I feel for you for 8 months, but after nearly 3 years, it seems wonderful to me! that said.... I would not TTC until you are ready... 8 months falls within the average (after all there is only a 25% chance every month for a healthy couple to concieve) so I would not assume you have issues! 

Best of luck when you TTC!

Monkeybuttwhat

It took us over a year. I got pregnant the first cycle after my HSG. The though has crossed our mind it might take that long again but we also know it could take no time at all. I just didn't start any BCafter her and we have been using FAM. We are going to start TTC next month. That was the plan anyways. I might chicken out. I really love how easy it is to get around and go on playdates with just 1. I am still able to enjoy myself instead of feeling rushed and stressed. I have two older step sons so I know it does get easier if you space them. We will see, as of right now the plan is next month.