Anyone else feel that you are a better mom to each of your kids individually, but kind of not so much to the both of them together? Does that make sense?
When I am with each child alone, I just have so much more patience and just feel like a better mother. But when they are together and being a toddler and babe at their worst, my patience wears very thin.....VERY fast. And I just feel like a completely shittastic mother.
You would think I would be doing better with this since DS is getting older....and I am, but I just don't feel like I will ever feel like a GOOD mom to both of them.
Anyone else feel this way? Or am I the only wierd one?
Re: Moms of 2: anyone else feel this way?
i like when i put them to bed individually and we read our books. it's a time i make sure to do every night because it makes me feel like i am making up for any shittastic parenting from the day. my 2 year old loves to pick her 5 bedtime books and my 16 mon is finally starting to like the reading thing (which is uber important to me).
when they are together - my patience is thin too!
Kaden William 11/4/06 and Dawson Michael 6/30/10
Dawson's first birthday - at the zoo
I just posted about this a week or 2 ago lol
I'm a great mom of one. A horrid mom of 2. We get through the day and survive, but that's about it.
It will get better as DS gets older and less needy, but right now he's so active and curious (as in, people call him a holy terror).... I'm just a referee lately.
I'm sure that every mother feels this way, at least at some point. It's also why I believe they say going from 1 to 2 is the hardest. Once we finally figure things out then it all changes again! Your first is also used to having Mommy/Daddy all to their selves & having to share is no fun. Eventually we will get used to it & it will get easier, especially once they are both older. My mom had 5 kids, I now understand why she had little patience at times!
Michelle
This is exactly how I feel!
Want to feel like a good mom to 2? ?Have a 3rd. ?:) ?I felt exactly the same way with 2, and it's even worse with 3 of them. ?But these days when I just have 2 of them, it's like a vacation.
Seriously, though, it gets better. ?Once my older two were on the same schedule, I felt like I had things under control a little better. ?I feel bad for saying this, but I can't wait until my newborn gets older and we can all 4 do activities without me having to stop and nurse him, change a diaper every 5 seconds, etc.
Survival mode is a great way to put it. I'm so tired of being biitchy with them and not being able to enjoy them together. My house is a mess, it never feels like I get anything done & by the time DH gets home from work I pretty much want to run screaming from the house.
At least it's not just me, I was really starting to beat myself up about this!