Testing results: do you ever feel like you want them to find something?

MDBeachbride

So far none of our results have come back with any huge red flags.  Yeah my FSH level is around 10.7-11.2 but nothing else.  DH says "so does this mean we are just missing ovulation?"  I don't know.  There are so many people with unexplained infertility. 

 I'm sorry, I hope I haven't ticked off those of you with diagnosed issues.  I'm happy we don't have any real medical problems...just frustrated that the Dr's can't say "aha...we know what to fix."

BirdieBrd

I understand what you are saying.  On one hand if you have an answer for what's happening (or not happening, as the case maybe) you would think it might be easier to deal with.  Sort of like 'okay now I have an answer and am not in limbo as to why it's not happening'. 

I have a friend who has unexplained infertility.  Her and her husband has gone through all the tests one could go through which all came back negative and yet they never were able to get pregnant.  Frustrating, I'm sure.

I got pregnant over a year ago, had a m/c, and have yet to get pregnant again. Frustrating. 

I sometimes think that I would have rather not gotten pregnant and wonder 'will I ever be able to get pregnant' instead of 'will I ever get pregnant again'.  I feel like that pregnant was a big tease 'ha!  look at what your body can do...but will it do it again?' 

In the end, any situation is frustrating and disappointing (unless you don't have any issues getting pregnant...but even then, depending on how long it takes, that can still be frustrating). One woman's situation is not the same as another woman's situation and if given the opportunity to change situations the frustrations would still be there just for different reasons.

 Does that make sense?

 So yes, on one hand I do wish my Dr would say 'ah here's the problem....' but in the end I know I would be just as frustrated/disappointed/sad/etc as I am now...just for different reasons. 

 

shyntrue

not sure what would be harder to handle, but feelings are feelings & you are allowed to feel whatever you want....  We seem to be a very understanding group!  Sometimes it just helps to write out your feelings, so vent away!

MDBeachbride

Thanks for trying to understand my rant, ladies.  I've been pregnant 3 times very easily --despite only carrying one child to term.  So, this not getting KU aspect is very weird.  However, I will take it any day over the loss of another pregnancy.  So I am thankful in that sense. 

itsmexine

I know what you mean, but when I found out that there was something wrong that could be fixed, I just kept thinking what if it doesn't get fixed? It is hard no matter what position you're in...well in IMHO anyway.

hollymichael

That is an interesting question.  Since DH's SA was the last test to be done,  I thought we were going to be unexplained.  Turns out his morph and motility are low.  I think it depends on the "reason".  It looks like MFI is "fixable".  Worst case scenario we will have to do IVF.  So, I guess I am glad we found something because I know that there is most likely a solution to the problem (so long as we don't find out something else is wrong).  I'm not sure if I am making sense here because it is early.

I bet 20 years from now there won't be "unexplained infertility".  By then, they will probably be able to identify issues that they can't identify yet.

Good luck! I think they have a lot of success with IUI for unexplained IF.