NBR: What would you think?

JinglesChic

My MIL told us to keep an eye out for an invitation to DH's cousin's wedding reception taking place next month. The problem is, they have already been married for a year. They went to a judge last year, but are not renewing their vows or doing it in a church as they are atheists. So what's the point now except for gifts? His parents are paying for it so whatever the couple gets is pure profit. Just seems kinda odd in my book.

beckypooh03@yahoo.com

My cousin had a reception a few months after they got married! I think it's just a way to celebrate with family and friends! Lots of people have parents pay for there whole weddings so I guess most of them are pure profit as well!

pmarie33

it's just a party.  take a gift if you want, or not.

DiscusCoach

Weird but, in my book, any excuse for a party is a good one!

skinnursemandee

I don't see anything wrong with it. My husband and I got married by the jp a few days before he went to kuwait (pre-9/11). When he got back 9 months later we had a reception back home to celebrate with family and friends. It's not about gifts since they already live together and I'm sure have what they need. It's about sharing your joy and celebrate. Don't go if you don't like it.

skinnursemandee

Also, didn't you get gifts and profit from your wedding? Same shiit different day.

myonetruelove

I never get the point of this and would never do it myself. However; I have attended several and never felt as if it were money grabbing. Most of the ones that I have been to were quicky judge weddings and parties afterwards.

JinglesChic

skinnursemandee:

Also, didn't you get gifts and profit from your wedding? Same shiit different day.

I completely understand why you would do that in your situation. I'm sure I would go to DH's cousin's and give a gift I just found it odd because they will be married for 14 months at that point and have done everything as a married couple already. Like I said they're not renewing their vows so it's not like we're sharing in their commitment for each other. And my wedding celebration was just that, a celebration. We had a church ceremony and put on a huge carnival at a local park for our guests and those that happen to be there that day. We were no way gift grabby and paid every dime of the $30k bill with maybe $5k (I'm probably being very generous) back in gifts. Most of my family lives in Harlem so no one had money and being that DH and I are pretty well off, we wouldn't expect anything. Again, it just seemed odd that they would do it now.

Anna&Matt

I think it's odd and tacky IMO. Well tacky if they registered expecting gifts, if they didn't register and said "no gifts please" then that's different. In some cases I can see the point (such as PP whose husband deployed) but if they just waited a year, it's weird.