Frustrated

armywife4ever

My LO was born on July 29th at 10:25 am at 36 weeks. I was induced because of his size and he was sitting on my kidney blocking it and causing me a ton of pain.

Labor was fast and easy. He was born 3 hours after they started my IV drip.

 A few hours after DS was born they took him away from me to test his blood sugar. DS was never brought back to me. I asked a nurse and she said he was having trouble breathing. A day after he was born he was transfered from the hospital I had him at to the NCIU at the other hospital in town.

He has been getting better. No more oxygen, no more IV, steady tempeture, eating okay. But everytime we ask when he can come home we get the same answer in a week.

 My husband is in the Army and his unit it currently deployed. He was only left back because I was high-risk. Now even though my son is still in the NICU they are sending my husband away to training next week and deploying him before the  end of the month. I know that this is his job but it would be nice for him to be here when his son is able to come home.

 I feel like my world is tumbling down around me right now. I feel like it's my fault that he is in the hospital becuase I chose to have the induction. It wasn't completely medically necessary. 

RRHsMom

I'm so sorry things turned out this way for you and that you are having to deal with this right now.  My DS was misdated and so they induced me at what we thought was 37 weeks bc I was swelling and my bp spiked (pre-e symptoms).  When he was born his pedi said he was 36 weeks at the most and he had RDS.  He was on an oscillating vent for 14 days and all of it was a total shock since we thought we were having a perfectly healthy 8lb, full term baby.  In the long run, we were only there 17 days but at the time, it felt like he was never coming home and we were so terrified until his breathing improved.   I know it stinks now but he will be home with you soon and I hope it is before DH has to leave.  Once DS turned the corner he improved quickly and was home 3 days after he came off his vent.  Don't blame yourself.  I did that and even my ob beat herself up about it.  We had no way of knowing w/o doing an amnio that his lungs were not ready.  We can't look back and only forward so there are definitely things I am doing differently this pg but I do not dwell on what I could have done with DS bc I would drive myself nuts!  Congrats on your sweet baby!

KellyMichelle

I'm sorry that you are going through this.  It is not your fault though.  Have you asked what he needs to accomplish to be able to go home.  Most NICUs have specific requirements and maybe knowing what he still needs to do will help.

armywife4ever

We are in Germany so it is often hard to get answers. This afternoon when we went up there we found out that his billirubin levels are to high and he has to have phototherapy. Which means now we can't hold him again.

They told us earlier this week that as long as he didn't have another episode of apnea he could come in 7 days. Well now they don't know if that is going to be long enough because they say he isn't eating enough. They want him eating almost 400-500 ml of food a day.  So if he isn't eating that much they won't release him even though he is not to small.

 Born at 6lbs 2 oz and 19 1/2 inches long. 

I am at the point i don't know what to do anymore. I just want my son home.  And my husband to get to spend some time with him.