Did anyone else see?

loloindiego

The Attachment Parenting board is up & running! One of the topics is regarding sharing the bed with your children.

::runs to lurk::

ToBeMrsT

yep and I've been posting on it.  We bed share.

christykell

Dude there are SO many co sleeping fans around the bump.

I personally would never do that, I think it's creepy. 

I'm sure someone is gonna come in and flame the shizz out of me for that little statemtent, but man- co sleeping gives me the heebie geebies. 

nova & paul

christykell:

Dude there are SO many co sleeping fans around the bump.

I personally would never do that, I think it's creepy. 

I'm sure someone is gonna come in and flame the shizz out of me for that little statemtent, but man- co sleeping gives me the heebie geebies. 

I did this....BUT I was a single parent!! Theres NO way in hell I'd co-sleep now that I'm married. I think its way creepy

edit: I also feel like I have to add that we only had a one bedroom apartment for the 1st 3 yrs.

Blasianlove

softskate31:

i guess that is one form of birth control...

co-sleeping sounds good at first (in an off-the bed co-sleeper thing), but there were some with 1 year olds still in their bed. 

not my thing i guess.

eta: we're big people too - I'd be afraid of smothering my baby. 

This, I am bigger and M is average. We are in a full. I just bought a Queen but need to get a mattress still. I would do the co-sleeper for the first month or two then it is off to their crib.

ccbanana

Sounds like it is a nice way to raise some co-dependent kids.   I know nothing about it though.

JennyAnne022776

loloindiego:

The Attachment Parenting board is up & running! One of the topics is regarding sharing the bed with your children.

::runs to lurk::

Yes lolo, I did see that.  And I also saw within the same post the comment, "and my husband and I want our bed back."

And that's why you won't find me co-sleeping.

No flames from me ckell!

loloindiego

christykell:

Dude there are SO many co sleeping fans around the bump.

I personally would never do that, I think it's creepy. 

I'm sure someone is gonna come in and flame the shizz out of me for that little statemtent, but man- co sleeping gives me the heebie geebies. 

I couldn't agree more.. I guess I don't understand the point of it. Shouldn't your kids learn to be comfortable in their own room, in their own bed?

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

nova & paul

When ever I hear about co-sleeping I always think of people on Nanny 911 or Super Nanny and how the parents never have sex because they can't get thier spoiled 8 yr old out of thier bed

Joeypnut

Oh geez, they have a name for that?  My baby will be safely tucked into their crib, and I'm with you CK on the creepiness factor. 

I will say that I do plan to cloth diaper and baby wear sometimes.

ETA Baby will prob be in bassinet for the first month or so.  I do know what co-sleeping is, I was referring to the Attachment Parenting title.  I have never heard of that before.

sare_bear

You do all realize that using a bassinett in your bedroom is considered "co-sleeping" right?  And if you are breastfeeding every 2 hours for up to an hour at a time, you'll probably put the baby in your bed, right?  That's also considered "bed-sharing." 

This is totally normal for the first several weeks/months.

Joeypnut

loloindiego:

christykell:

Dude there are SO many co sleeping fans around the bump.

I personally would never do that, I think it's creepy. 

I'm sure someone is gonna come in and flame the shizz out of me for that little statemtent, but man- co sleeping gives me the heebie geebies. 

I couldn't agree more.. I guess I don't understand the point of it. Shouldn't your kids learn to be comfortable in their own room, in their own bed?

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

Like a baby carrier.  Ergo, or moby... to that effect.

rebelina1

I don't agree with having your kids share your bed either.  DD slept in a bassinet next to our bed for the first month then she started sleeping in he own room.  DD is now a fantastic sleeper and not dependent on us for bedtime.  I think a husband and wife need private moments.  I couldn't imagine not having that alone time with DH.

Flame away if you must.

ToBeMrsT

loloindiego:

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

 

using a sling, wrap, ect to carry [wear] your baby.  It keeps them close and comforts them.  

 

I get that co-sleeping/ bed sharing isn't for everyone, but why bash it?  Everyone does what works best for them and their kids.  

JennyAnne022776

sare_bear:

You do all realize that using a bassinett in your bedroom is considered "co-sleeping" right?  And if you are breastfeeding every 2 hours for up to an hour at a time, you'll probably put the baby in your bed, right?  That's also considered "bed-sharing." 

This is totally normal for the first several weeks/months.

This is true, but the baby in question is almost a year old.

JennyAnne022776

ToBeMrsT:

loloindiego:

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

 

using a sling, wrap, ect to carry [wear] your baby.  It keeps them close and comforts them.  

 

I get that co-sleeping/ bed sharing isn't for everyone, but why bash it?  Everyone does what works best for them and their kids.  

Didn't see too many people bashing it, just stating that it's not something I'm interested in doing.

christykell

Ok, Ok...I will relent just a tad...

A baby in a bassinet in the bedroom in the beginning. 

An older infant / toddler in the bed = not gonna ever happen in my house. 

But hey, if that's how you roll- have at it hoss!

loloindiego

ToBeMrsT:

loloindiego:

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

 

using a sling, wrap, ect to carry [wear] your baby.  It keeps them close and comforts them.  

 

I get that co-sleeping/ bed sharing isn't for everyone, but why bash it?  Everyone does what works best for them and their kids.  

I can see the bassinet in the bedroom when they're newborns, and putting the baby in bed with you to breastfeed.. but it seems some people take it to the extreme and have their toddlers (& older) in the bed with them. To me, that's not what "works best for them and their kids".. because to me that kid would grow up a weirdo. Just my opinion, no bashing here.

cndmexbaby

christykell:

Dude there are SO many co sleeping fans around the bump.

I personally would never do that, I think it's creepy. 

I'm sure someone is gonna come in and flame the shizz out of me for that little statemtent, but man- co sleeping gives me the heebie geebies. 

I am really surprised to hear this is popular to do. I remember reading an article a few months ago about the dangers of smothering. Here it is, I found it because I emailed it to my then pregnant friend.

https://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28857953/

 (Edit: I guess the article is no longer available)

A former coworker of mine cosleeps, still. The kids are 7 and 9 now. Her DH sleeps in a different room. No thanks.

Anasara

Co-sleeping is actually quite common in other cultures.  Most of the women in the villages I lived in in Niger did it, but they also slept on a mat on the floor (sometimes dirt, sometimes cement); only the very rich (who I did not work with) had cribs.  Co-sleeping was done so their babies could feed from the breast at will.  I don't judge people who do it but DH & I are both way too fat to co-sleep with a baby!

ToBeMrsT

loloindiego:

ToBeMrsT:

loloindiego:

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

 

using a sling, wrap, ect to carry [wear] your baby.  It keeps them close and comforts them.  

 

I get that co-sleeping/ bed sharing isn't for everyone, but why bash it?  Everyone does what works best for them and their kids.  

I can see the bassinet in the bedroom when they're newborns, and putting the baby in bed with you to breastfeed.. but it seems some people take it to the extreme and have their toddlers (& older) in the bed with them. To me, that's not what "works best for them and their kids".. because to me that kid would grow up a weirdo. Just my opinion, no bashing here.

 

LOL I guess you think my 19 month old is going to be a weirdo b/c we let him sleep with us.  

cndmexbaby

Here is a different article:

Rise in Infant Suffocations Renews Debate on Bed-Sharing:

 https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/01/25/AR2009012502641.html

 

ZeeDesertStar

I'm sorry but having a baby in your bed is not safe!! I don't care if they are one month or 12 months!  I know of more than one instance personally where a baby died from suffocation because they were sleeping in a bed with an adult.

loloindiego

kdodge423:

loloindiego:

ToBeMrsT:

loloindiego:

And does anyone know what "wearing" your baby mean?

 

using a sling, wrap, ect to carry [wear] your baby.  It keeps them close and comforts them.  

 

I get that co-sleeping/ bed sharing isn't for everyone, but why bash it?  Everyone does what works best for them and their kids.  

I can see the bassinet in the bedroom when they're newborns, and putting the baby in bed with you to breastfeed.. but it seems some people take it to the extreme and have their toddlers (& older) in the bed with them. To me, that's not what "works best for them and their kids".. because to me that kid would grow up a weirdo. Just my opinion, no bashing here.

When your child is inconsolable except when you are right there and you are dead tired, you will likely change your mind. Every child is different, and some will have no issues going from bassinet to crib to bed. But others are not so easy- and there's no way to know how your child will be.

Are you really saying if your 3 year old wakes up terrified and wants to sleep with you after having a nightmare, you would tell them to suck it up and go back to their own bed? I doubt it.

Of course those are situations where it makes sense to pull your baby/toddler in to bed with you. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. All I'm saying is there's people who take it to the extreme and keep their kids in bed with them for MUCH longer than "needed", every single night, and in my opinion that can not be healthy for them.