What a love story

4Speedy

I've been watching my mom mourn the loss of my dad for several days now.  My dad is in the ICU and is wasting away.  It's such a freaky story how things happened for him but we went from being extremely hopeful to resigned that he is losing his fight, both physically and mentally.  Even if he does not pass, he will never be the same.  My mom is mourning the loss of her husband, as she knew him.

But I am amazed, as I sit with her each day, how much strength, dignity and grace she has.  I don't know that I have ever witnessed as much love as she has when she is soothing my dad.  There was a period (about 15 years ago--it lasted a good 5 years) when we all thought they would be better off divorced.  But they found their way out of their problems and have been in love ever since.  My mom has always credited a huge store of happy memories to see them through that aweful period.  She has been drawing on those same memories again this week to give her strength and do what she needs to do.  It is also amazing to see her in action.  She is as tough as nails and as gentle as can be.  She absolutely rattles some cages and gets my dad the best care and she does it in a way that is so courteous and gracious that the nurses and doctors are actually begging to do more for my dad and her.  What a role model.

katie277s

I'm so sorry to hear your dad is so ill.  But what a lovely display of love and affection from you mom for you to see. 

Brideofranken

I am so sorry for what you're all going through, but I am grateful that you shared this...I think it is a great representation of the reality of marriage- from the part where they weren't getting along, to the love she is showing now...Im all teary...

so sweet. and so sad..

BubblyToes

Oh wow.

(((HUGS))) girl, to you and your mom.

michaeltrish

This made me tear up.  It sounds like your mother is a wonderful person and an amazing role model.  Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. 

npeacock

Brideofranken:

I am so sorry for what you're all going through, but I am grateful that you shared this...I think it is a great representation of the reality of marriage- from the part where they weren't getting along, to the love she is showing now...Im all teary...

so sweet. and so sad..

Well said, BOF. 

Way to go for seeing the beauty while you are experiencing the pain.  Thoughts and prayers to you and your family 4speedy.

Grantand

While it is awful that you have to witness this, we should all be so lucky to have such a role model. It is a great testament to their love, and I hope you print this and show it to your mom at some point.  She will be proud she raised such a loving daughter.