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JenniferTCU
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A shower post.
JenniferTCU
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This is a different kind of shower post. I've seen so many posts on the third tri board about people mad that people didn't buy off their registry, complaining that they had to write a dozen thank you notes, etc. I never comment but the sense of entitlement grates on my nerves.
Soooooo, yesterday they threw a shower for me and another coworker (due 2 weeks after us) at work. Wow- all I can say is Wow! I was so amazed and blessed by everyone's generosity. No, I didn't get much from my registry but I didn't make that registry for other people. I made it as a checklist of the things DH and I need to buy. If people want to buy off it, that's great. But I am totally prepared to buy it all ourselves. I am so very grateful for the things people gave us. We received tons of onesies, cute outfits, blankets, etc. The generosity was overwhelming. I cried with the first box I opened (a lil pair of Nikes- awww).
Last night, I came home and put everything away. I wrote16 of the thank you notes- 8 more to go, which I will do today. Honestly, I felt honored to write each one. I felt like I wanted to do more than just a note for all of the people who had blessed us with amazing gifts.
All of you are so sweet and wonderful. Thanks for helping me focus on what I *do* have (love you, Dianna!). We are all so fortunate to be in the place we are in life.
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Re: A shower post.
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How wonderful! There are blessings all around us if we just take the time to open our eyes and our hearts.
I saw a post yesterday - can't remember if it was 2nd or 3rd tri - but a poster had received a TEXT message about casual friend that was pregnant as well and was having a shower. The text message didn't say anything about the time/place or how to RSVP - but it did say if you want to send a gift, here is my address and please nothing second hand. I read that and just shook my head....sense of entitlement is right. I felt the same way about my wedding - I didn't want a shower since so many people were coming to the wedding and would likely be bringing gifts to that. And for that I was most thankful.
Jen.. I'm in your camp, I'm working on a couple of registries right now in anticipation of what's to come. But I'm being pretty frugal about it.
I agreed to have a shower next month, mostly because so many people were bugging me to have one and this is my first kid, so we have nothing.
To me, a registry is a way for me to keep track of some items I might forget to buy. And frankly, I'm having a hard time putting stuff on it, since I'm perfectly fine with my neighbors' hand-me-downs. Heck, one already gave me her bassinet and has promised a bouncy seat/swing.
I figure most people will probably just buy baby clothes anyway, so that's fine with me. And since we don't know the gender, I'm sure there will be lots of generic onesies, blankets, etc.
We were at BRU last weekend looking at things and there were SO many really young mothers-to-be there registering for all sorts of ridiculous stuff. Very sad, really.
Jen - you made my morning! So glad you had a wonderful shower - you needed and deserved a little pick-me up!!
Such a wonderful attitude about feeling grateful - the shower posts baffle me sometimes too - especially complaining about writing thank you notes!!
xoxo
That's awesome! I think you have a good attitude and positive outlook which makes people want to be around you and do nice things for you.
I always amused by the posts with people complaining about not getting what they wanted, or that so-and-so was being cheap, etc. The sense of entiltlement from these girls is unbelievable but yet I am drawn to it in much of the same way that I am to watching Bridezillas.
You're a better person than me - I feel like the shower etiquette police on the 2nd tri boards. Its shocking!
I haven't even though about registering yet, but keep in mind that you get a discount at BRU for things you didn't get as long as they are on your registry so if you have any big ticket items you plan to buy for yourself, make sure you put it on to get the discount - I plan to do it after the shower so people don't think I'm looking for $300 gifts - ala breast pump.
That's the right attitude, friend! It is an *honor* to write thank you notes. Regardless of the specific gift, it is a thought - a warm, meaningful, well-intentioned thought. People are excited for you and your growing family. So awesome!!
p.s.
I cringe at some posts I read on the other boards. I hate it when people refer to showers as "sprinkles" as if the quantity of gifts don't qualify for a "shower"
I am glad to see that most of us on this board feel the same. My manager at our business was going to give me & another girl who works for us a shower & I am glad she asked me about it. I told her to just do it for the other girl. I did not want anyone to feel obligated to get me anything, especially since I am technically the boss. (I work for my husband & his business partner)
I did have a shower with mostly family. I didn't mind anyone buying anything that wasn't on my registry. It's still the thought that counts & it's actually nice to get a few items that are a "surprise". I even got a few items that I didn't care for & didn't want to offend the person who purchased them for me so I donated them to charity. (don't know where it was purchased)
We are all lucky enough if we get a shower & should be grateful, as reading these posts we see not everyone does get a shower & has to buy everything on their own. It amazes me when I walk into Babies R Us & spend $200 & wlak out with like 4 items!