Okay I am stressed, too.

JenniferTCU

Ugh.

I thought things were improving but I spoke too soon. We just have more money going out than coming in and we will be that way for the foreseeable future due to the economy. I am so tired of crying.

On the way to work, I got stressed about my sweet lil boy. I am so stressed that I am stressing HIM out now. Please assure me that everything is going to be okay with my LO. I cry when I think of this financial mess and cry even harder when I think about how I am subjecting him to all the stress I am going through.

Oh ladies- your thoughts and prayers would be more appreciative than you know.

 Jen

Diannadiva

Sweet Jen,

 Everything will be ok.....I know things can seem overwhelming, but think of all the women over time that have had babies with so much less than we do - you have a roof over your head, you can feed baby and have so much love to give - that's all he needs for now - the rest will come.

 Try not to stress, remember all that you do have - your little boy is going to be so in love with his Mama!!!!

 xoxo

robynlesley

Jen,

You know I understand how you're feeling with more money going out than coming in. Even with my brother's help, I'm not going to be able to pay off my Visa card this month and we have a LOT of credit card debt (yes, my DH's from before we met, but we're a team now). It's so hard to NOT stress.

Your little boy will be fine and you'll be fine. It's hard trying to figure out money issues but it will work out.  My parents keep telling me how they'd moved into a new home with a 6-month-old (me) and my dad lost his job. Things turned around.

I just know things will turn around for you, too.

(((HUGS)))

psvenson

Not a day goes by where I don't stress about money. I have my own business and work from home, but due to pg discomfort and extreme fatigue these last few weeks, I've been unable to try to go out and aggressively get new business. It makes me feel horrible that I'm not bringing in the income I was and I know our bills are increasing with the baby on the way.

Try not to let it stress you out too much. I know it is easier said than done, and I've done my share of crying over money lately, but it is important to stay strong for your little one and know that things will find a way to work themselves out. It is just hard to have perspective with the hormones and all..

I'll be sending good thoughts your way. I hope you feel better soon.

 

 

mommy_bear

Jen,

It is perfectly understandable to be going through these emotions. Financial worries can be extremely stressful. Not to mention, you are rapidly approaching your due date. That, in itself, can be overwhelming!  

You are a strong woman. Trust that things ALWAYS work out in the end. You may look back at this time and think of it as challenging but, it's also such a blessing too. You are healthy. Jace is healthy. You WILL get through this, Jen!

Jace has wonderful parents. Together you can get through anything! Just think about his upcoming birthday. You get to meet this treasure you've been carrying for so long. How awesome is that!?!

Be kind to yourself. Cradle Jace's body in your belly and talk to him. As great as it is to finally hold him, you will miss him being inside of you.

And, trust you are in good hands. Things will work out!

(((HUGS)))

Kari

 

shelby9201

Jen - you are so very strong and as PP have noted - you have so many good things in your life.  Trust that you will get through this and be even stronger as a result!  Times like these make you wonder if there is an end in sight, but keep your eye on the prize - that beautiful little boy you will be meeting very shortly!  You are in my prayers - I hope you find the inner strength to rise above this!

fauxshelley

Jen,

I am so sorry you are stressed.  Lord knows, if we all waited for our finances to be perfect, very few of us would have children.  You have a great husband and a loving family - that's what's important.  The rest will work itself out.  Stay strong and know that we are all rooting for you!!

fauxshelley

Bump burp - please ignore.

Laura Cochran

Money issues are so stressful. I practically hyperventilate when I think about what we'll be paying in daycare next year. Just know that things always have a way of working out. Don't stress about being stressed at all. Think how stressful the 1st trimester was and our babies made it through that stress just fine.

livvielo

Oh Jen, I wish I had some really insightful words for you, but all I will say is hang in there and know that eventually, even if it doesn't seem like it right this second, everything is going to work out for your (and your baby boy's!) good. I think pregnancy in the modern-day world *is* stressful (esp. in this economy) and you're talking about it here, you're dealing with it...you and baby are going to be fine. Hugs and many, many good thoughts coming your way!!

Peppernut

Awww, Jen!  It will be okay.  It's a scary time, but things will look up again soon!  I don't think you are hurting your baby at all.  Women have been worrying like crazy about various things through their pregnancies ever since there have been pregnancies to worry over! 

You have loads of love to offer, you have enough to eat and a roof over your head, and you have had good medical care through the whole thing.  Everything will be fine!  Really!

stever

I'm so sorry Jen. Just think of that sweet little boy you're carrying and look to the future.

I'm sending happy thoughts your way.

busybea

Oh Jen, you know very well that if we were all waiting for money none of us would be on this board quickly becoming the friends that we are and the world would have a population of 3. 

All kidding aside, things DO have a way of working out in the end, just remember that God does not give us more than we can handle.  Your LO will be ok, I stressed out A LOT too during my 5th to 7th month (all work related, of course, silly stupid me) but what does it accomplish? only us being more stressed, right?  not worth it.

Be happy, life is wonderful for all of us right now.  You have a wonderful DH (and cute too!) **looking around making sure my DH is not behind me-LOL** and a happy and healthy LO growing. It's all good !!!   

JenniferTCU

Thank you all so much for your wonderful words and thoughts. I stopped by the bank today to discuss options. Basically, there aren't any. I asked about home equity (your home must be 20% paid for in TX- ours isn't yet. DH just bought it 2.5 years ago). I asked about a consolidation loan. Unsecured loans are at 17% interest rate and they don't go as high as what we need. We both have great jobs (albiet MUCH less income this year) and good credit yet there's no one that can help. Mind boggling.

I guess the fact that the bank had no options should stress me out even more. And in a way it does. But I keep reminding myself all of the things you sweet friends mentioned in your post and I remind myself that God won't give us more than we can handle (thanks for the reminder, Bea!) and I start to calm down a bit.

Thank you again for your friendship and kindness!

KD288

Awww sweetie I am so, so sorry you are so stressed out. I think everyone has said everything I could possibly say with the exception of Jace will love his mommy and daddy no matter how much money they got in the bank. I am sending you lots of hugs and prayers and wishes. Just think our babies will be here soon!

Kristina

leffe1

Hi Jen, I am sorry you feel this way. Someone (very wise) once told me that if the only stress you have is money then you have no stress. I guess this means as long as you are healthy, happy and have people who love you everything will work out.

jennandjt

I hear ya girl....we WILL make it through this!! My DH's insurance runs out 9/1.....and we all know when I'm due He's been out of work for just about 1 yr and due to my complications I had to give up my job that isn't there to return to once Sprout arrives =( I often panic about funds but need to remind myself that it will all work itself out, one way or another.....as long as we have have our health, a roof over our heads and food to eat the rest will come.....hang in there lady!