Name Vent ~ Copycat name

The Lungos

My DD is 2.5 years old and goes to daycare. The mother of one of the little boys in her class recently had a baby girl and used my daughters name. Not just her first name, but her first and middle. Now, I am sure that happens quite a bit, but my DD name is very unique and very special to me. It is my grandmothers name and it is not in any name book or online database. It is not a name she would have heard anywhere else, especially in combination with her middle name.

I know I shouldn't be as upset as I am, but it just rubs me the wrong way that she couldn't be creative enough to come up with something even slightly different!

a4smith

Ya thats shady..but now I am dying to know what her name is!

Johnna&Ralph

a4smith:

Ya thats shady..but now I am dying to know what her name is!

This.

Liss_37

I don't think it's shady, imo i think you're over reacting. every name came from somewhere, nothing is entirely unique. whoever named your grandmother heard the name from someone somewhere down the line. I can see you being a tad jealous but remember that imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. Obviously she absolutely loved your daughters name, and it must be something she wants to be special to her as well if she used it to name her daughter.

kp28

You should feel flattered, it's not like she's family.

mariahcohen

I can see why you are upset.  I mean anyone has the right to name their baby what they want...but IMO if you KNOW someone with the name you want to use you should say something to them.  We are using a friend's son's name as the middle name for our boy and I asked her if that was OK.  No, I did not have to ...but as a friend I wanted to be repectful. 

First and middle name usage = bad manners! 

juicy225156

a4smith:

Ya thats shady..but now I am dying to know what her name is!

This

jessloveschase08

The Lungos:

My DD is 2.5 years old and goes to daycare. The mother of one of the little boys in her class recently had a baby girl and used my daughters name. Not just her first name, but her first and middle. Now, I am sure that happens quite a bit, but my DD name is very unique and very special to me. It is my grandmothers name and it is not in any name book or online database. It is not a name she would have heard anywhere else, especially in combination with her middle name.

I know I shouldn't be as upset as I am, but it just rubs me the wrong way that she couldn't be creative enough to come up with something even slightly different!

MewMew

I really don't think this is a big deal since she isn't a close friend or anything like that. It's not like you have to deal with this little girl.

I want to know what the name is too!

stephanielynn33

My name vent...if you're going to post something like this, you have to post the name as well. It's like saying "I know a secret, but I'm not telling you". Names aren't secrets, they're meant to be used

OhioBobcat

I can see both sides. It's understandable you would be a bit miffed at knowing both names were used...but at the same time, like others here have said, how flattering that she would hold your taste in names so highly that she would want to use the same for her daughter. I would think that is more of a compliment to you.

Also...I'm gonna hop on the bandwagon here...what's the name??

IlovemyGeek

I'd be annoyed too, I don't even like it when someone copies my hairstyle LOL.

krissyh21

Sorry, but I would take it as a compliment that someone thought it nice enough to use. 

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

I would understand your being upset if she were family or a very close friend, however they don't have the same last name, and you only see them during daycare.  Also, I'm not sure what the age difference is between your daughter and hers, but it's not like they'll end up in the same kindergarten class or anything. 

Names aren't copywritten, unfortunately, just be glad the last name's different!

qtpa2t

If you want to be assured someone won't copy your name, name the girl Gertrude.  I think you're overreacting.

iowagirl73

Maybe instead of looking at it as someone "stealing" your DD's name you should flip it around and be flattered that they liked your DD's name so much they wanted it for their own kid.  And 1 other thing: Just because it isn't in a name book it doesn't mean they didn't actually think of it on their own (you just never know). 

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this and choosing to look at the negative vs positive side of it.

lbg832

I can see how you'd be annoyed but I'd also take it as flatering.  I agree with the PPs you must divulge your daughter's name. 

englishviola

I'm on the other side of this as I found out after we had my son that his first and middle name are identical to an acquaintance's son. 

I knew the first name was the same, but it was a family name for us and one of the only ones DH and I agreed on. Besides, it's not like we even socialize regularly with their family. Once or twice a year. After I sent out the birth announcements, I got a short email from her stating her son's MN was the same too -- which I didn't know, and besides, we used FILs name for DS's MN. I felt kind of bad. But I truly didn't know we "copied" the full name, and secondly, we used family names for both.

 Just my $.02 

ocho2002

Take it as a compliment and get over it.

LittleMamaB

ocho2002:

Take it as a compliment and get over it.

This. It's a name. It's not like she stole your actual child. 

The Lungos

Thanks everyone for sharing both sides of this in your opinions! I didn't mean to imply that no one ever in history has ever had this first name, it is just that we live in a relatively small city and the likelyhood of anyone else having exactly the same first and middle name is very small. And I am always flattered when someone compliments her on her name, I just never expected someone I know to use the exact same name, first and middle.

Sorry I didn't share her name, that was very rude of me !

Her name is Marleah Josephine (Mar-lee-ah) and we call her Marly Jo.

LittleMamaB

The Lungos:

Thanks everyone for sharing both sides of this in your opinions! I didn't mean to imply that no one ever in history has ever had this first name, it is just that we live in a relatively small city and the likelyhood of anyone else having exactly the same first and middle name is very small. And I am always flattered when someone compliments her on her name, I just never expected someone I know to use the exact same name, first and middle.

Sorry I didn't share her name, that was very rude of me !

Her name is Marleah Josephine (Mar-lee-ah) and we call her Marly Jo.

fwiw, it's a cute name : )

kimberleigh30

Take it as a compliment.

kelsytropico

Okay, your name is totally unique and awesome.... it would tick me off too. If it was a common name like hannah or grace, I would say your over reacting, but the name is very original and she did completely 'steal' it (not that you own the copyright or anything, lol.). I think you are justified in feeling a little upset.

lbg832

Love the name.  I agree very unique.  I'd be a little frustrated with that too.  I also we be very flatered that she named her girl after yours. 

kreeper611

You can also look at it in that she is a good kid.

You know - when someone suggests a name and you cringe because you know a kid with the same name and said kid happens to be the Devil's child?

The Lungos

kreeper611:

You can also look at it in that she is a good kid.

You know - when someone suggests a name and you cringe because you know a kid with the same name and said kid happens to be the Devil's child?

LOVE THIS because I do know the cringe factor when a name is mentioned! Thanks.

And she told DD's teacher that she liked so much that they were going to name their DD the same. That is actually how I found out about it. So I am a little flattered.

This is not something that I am going to get in some silly cat fight over with this other mom, it just rubbed me that she couldn't come up with something even slightly different.

BTW - I lover reading all the responses, so of you really spent some time time on the name search