Men and their pregnancy hormones!

ambrvan

I swear my FI is having worse mood swings than I am. So I have become quite bitchy here lately, but his temper is already quite short, and lately he's just been flaring up at everyone (especially me and his DD) for the littlest thing, if even anything at all.

He's so depressed all the time. The only time he even looks remotely peaceful is when he's looking at my belly. So I know he's not acting this way because he resents us having a baby.

I think it's more about him feeling ashamed that he can't provide for us the way he wants to. He knows I want to stay home for a few months once the baby is born (I've still got college full time), and he hates that I won't be able to. It's me bringing home the most money right now, making sure we make ends meet, managing our money. He's depressed about his job and our lack of opportunities. Like the job interview he had yesterday but lost out to one of our friends. 

And no matter how much I try to encourage him and support him, he just gets more and more irritable. I have never once talked about him making less money, having a dead end stepping-stone job, or being upset with him because I can't stay home as long as I want after baby Riley arrives. He knows I'm really scared about how things are going to turn out being a full time student, full time worker, and full time new mom, but he knows how much I admire him working as hard as he does to bring in what little money he does. He knows I'm proud of him for sticking with a job that sucks. He knows that all I ask is that he does what he can and keeps trying. I tell him that all the time. I'm always telling him how proud I am of him, and all he ever does is get more depressed and say things like, "I don't know how you could be proud to have such a dead beat fiancee who can't even suupport his own daughter without your help."

Why can't he just understand that money doesn't matter to me so much? I don't mind struggling everyday for the rest of our lives as long as our kids have full bellies and a warm home and we keep working towards something better. As long as we don't settle and we keep trying, I'm happy! Why can't he understand that?

It's not fair that I always have to be upbeat and smiley for him. It;s not fair that I always have to be the one to make everything ok and reassure everyone. I have my fears too! I'm terrified! I'm nervous, scared, worried, overjoyed... everything all at once! But who's there to make me feel better? What about me?

wyohockeygirl

i'm sorry you're going through this right now. your fiance sounds like a really hardworking, great guy. i hope he can shake off his depression and be there to support you emotionally as well. hopefully soon something good will come his way jobwise. don't give up!