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If you don't like your ILs
Why? What is the reason?
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Re: If you don't like your ILs
my MIL is very pushy, talks down to me and tries to take over things, and half the time it's all about DD and DH, I don't even exist. She tells people things that are not true or plans that are not set in stone. She says things that are hurtful or dumb and don't even realize it, she does not consider my family or other peoples schedules, wants to do things on her time. Has done plenty of things that has ticked me off when planning my wedding and things since DD has been born. She just don't listen to anything I say. Her and SIL are 2 peas in a pod. It seems like they try to start things with me and DH, it's like he gets stuck in the middle all the time. I could continue but .... enough said.
Oh this is a long list...
1. They treat DH and I like we're 12.
2. They constantly nag on DH that he isn't doing something good enough. (MIL had him tested when he was younger so she knew he was 'smart enough') DH has always had good grades and is a very well rounded person so I'm not sure what they're worrying about.
3. Their way is the only way. We do not see eye to eye on politics yet they always bring it up with me. I'm the right wing conservative who have brain washed their son.
4. FIL is DISGUSTING
5. They always say "oh well you and your family have everything handed to you". Yeah my dad working 12 hour days 7 days a week for 10 years to get his business going is having everything handed to you.
6. They talk about me to DH when I'm in the next room loudly.
7. MIL cries about how we're mean to her because we don't live next door to them.
8. FIL is DISGUSTING
9. They don't know how to hold a conversation with someone without attacking them
10. FIL will change the subject to himself frequently when he doesn't know about the topic. Which is all the time unless it's about fishing.
11. FIL is disgusting.
12. Either one of them has table manners.
This is our situation exactly. ?In fact MIL would tell FIL about what a "bad boy" DH had been knowing exactly what would happen. ?It makes me sick. She makes all kind of excuses about how she was abused and didn't have the power to leave. ?I'm sorry, but if anyone ever puts a hand on my child, I will be out that door so fast. ?Hit me all you want, but don't touch my chid.?
"You're gonna miss this You're gonna want this back You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast..."
Same here. And I live with mine.
Plus she does my laundry and doesnt ask. I HATE THAT.
Ugh, where to begin:
MIL is selfish, greedy, rude, inconsiderate, cheap, jealous, and a liar. She has no emotion or consideration. She is simply bitter.
FIL is a pervert, selfish, a child, guilts everyone to pitty him, a theif, jealous and I think he's psycho. He threatens his own children with suicide in order to get his way.
Your MIL & my MIL must be sisters!
THIS THIS THIS!!!!! Oh, and SIL isnt really like this... she's just a b!tch. She's always better than me at something.
its funny tho... cuz we were both pitchers in high school for softball, and she says she was better than me and DH will say well at least Heather can still pitch as good. And she is always saying how should could probably still to. Yet she is 300+ and im exactly the same as pre-baby!
1. they blame me for their son never coming to visit! he can go by himself, why do I need to go (this was pre-wedding).
2. unthoughtful and inconsiderate
3. constantly used to talk about me, and dh told me
4. rude
5. i forgot to add...i dont think they like me because I am from NY!
thankfully they dont live by us anymore, i havent seen them since March
MIL is a narcissistic, self-obsessed drama queen who loooves to play the victim card. FIL is an alcoholic and can't be trusted, but I actually prefer his company to MIL's. They are bitterly divorced, and MIL swore out a warrant for FIL's arrest three weeks before our wedding for nonpayment of child support (for my then 23-year old husband and his 18-year old brother), knowing he would be there and that the wedding would be crawling with cops (my dad is a police officer), and her plan was just to walk up to one and say "I have a warrant out for that man's arrest." My mom found out about this little plot and had an absolute fit, and threatened her with bodily harm if she did not drop the warrant. She did, only to swear out another one after the wedding and throw FIL in jail for 9 months. Which, yes, he should have paid the child support, but she should have gone after it when she needed it and not when both kids were out of the house.
MIL will not EVER SHUT UP. She talks constantly about herself, and if ever the conversation veers another direction she will find a way, come hell or high water, to get it back to her. She complains constantly about never having any money, yet she smokes a carton of cigarettes a week (expensive ones), gets manicures and pedicures every other week, and gets her hair done once a month. She has been in the same low-paying legal assistant job for 15 years with no health benefits, even though she could get a job doing the exact same thing and make three times as much with benefits, but won't because the two lawyers she works for let her smoke in the office. Seriously. MIL guilted us into paying for BIL's rehearsal dinner when she had $5,000 in savings. Not that we minded, but she didn't even offer to help pay for anything. She asked the minister who married us to pay for our rehearsal dinner and then tried to tell me that spouses and significant others of the wedding party couldn't come. They came.
MIL is also an attention wh0re. She absolutely cannot stand it if she is not the center of attention, and will go to great lengths to make people focus on her. Two weeks before our wedding she mysteriously hurt her foot and had to hobble down the ailse in a huge ghastly boot during the wedding. When I got pregnant she started complaining about her tennis elbow (she doesn't play tennis), and scheduled a surgery for the day after my baby shower. She wore a hideous black arm brace at the shower. Fast forward to the end of the pregnancy. We informed her of our scheduled induction date. She calls her doctor later that week and has him put a cast on her arm. To this day nobody knows why she needed a cast on an elbow that was operated on over two months prior. She then complained the whole time at the hospital that she didn't know if she would get to hold the baby because of her cast. She made her sister drive her to the hospital, pay for the hotel room (we live in a different state), and buy her several tube top maxi-dresses because she supposedly couldn't dress herself or hook her bra. So not only was she traipsing around the hospital in strapless dresses she bought in the juniors department, she was doing it BRALESS. MIL is 56 years old. She also thought she was in charge of everyone at the hospital (my parents, brother, and her own sister), and told my mother that she could not come back to the birthing suite to check on me. I had been in labor for over 8 hours at that point and was on oxygen. My mother told her to eff off. After the baby was born, MIL pitched a crying fit because she couldn't take pictures properly with her left hand because her right hand was in the friggin' cast. My father had enough of her, so whenever she was in our hospital room, he quietly excused himself to roam the halls of the hospital until she left. I wish I could have joined him.
We went to visit BIL and his wife (who just found out they are expecting in March) last weekend and she was there (we won't bring the baby to her house because she smokes inside). I noticed a large patch on her shoulder. Me: "MIL, what happened to your shoulder?" MIL: "Oh, I hurt it in therapy, probably going to have to have surgery on it too." Me: "Hm. Interesting." SIL: "
" I guarantee you her shoulder will start hurting so badly right around the time of SIL's baby shower that she will feel the need to schedule surgery immediately before or after. Poor SIL lives less than 10 minutes from MIL. I don't envy her.
All the tension between MIL and myself stems from her attempted stunt at the wedding. I knew then that she could not be trusted, and since then my family and I have kept her at arms' length.
Oh, and I'm much more forgiving than my DH is about his mother. I've only known her for six years. He has a lifetime of drama with her.
winner winner chicken dinner!
Exactly this. My husband has forgiven them, but I can't wrap my mind around it enough to.
That right there would have resulted in a mean left hook and complete and total shunning. I would have never spoken to that man again.