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Poll: About BF'ing
Do you plan on bf'ing?
Do you plan on bf'ing in public, or in front of people in general?
Am I the only person who is uncomfortable with someone bf'ing right in front of me?
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Re: Poll: About BF'ing
Yes, I do plan on trying to bf this time around
NO!! Dh will be THE only person allowed anywhere near the room while I am bf'ing (except for the lactation nurses of course). Not even my mom or anyone will be allowed to be around for that!
Seriously I went to sil's house the other day and she just sits down and starts bfin'g right in front of dh and I! I was horrified, and totally embarassed. I know it is natrual and all, but it is not something I want someone to do when I am visiting/holding a conversation with them.
1st pregnancy: m/c began 1/12/09 d&c 1/13/09 8wks. Baby stopped growing at about 6wks.
Delaney: Born 10/15/09
Gavin: Born 4/8/11
Baby #3: due July 10, 2014
Do you plan on bf'ing? Yes I do - but I plan on pumping and BF'ing so that DH can experience some bonding time.
Do you plan on bf'ing in public, or in front of people in general? I will NOT do it in public...I will let DH be in the room and my mom but thats it.
Am I the only person who is uncomfortable with someone bf'ing right in front of me? NO...it freaks me out - I just thought of this in the hall of the ER when I saw a mom with her boob whipped out in front of everyone!
Yes I plan on bf'ing,
Yes I plan on bf'ing in public as long as I am fully covered and no one can see anything.
I get uncomfortable with women who just pop out a breast and start feeding with no idea that they should cover up. Yes it nature at its best but so is running around nude and you don't do that do you!
Yes.
No, I'll be pumping then bottle feeding.
As long as they're modest, I'm fine.
pretty much this!
Yes
Never blatantly in front of people if that can be helped. If there is no other option, then I'll be using an Udder Cover or something along those lines.
I'm uncomfortable with it too. DH's cousin just had a baby and she does it front of people all the time. She doesn't wear a bra or nursing pads so we've heard stories of milk just going everywhere when the baby is done. It's kind of sick to do that in front of people in my opinion.
Do you plan on bf'ing? Most definitely! I bf'd dd for 27 months and plan on doing the same this time around.
Do you plan on bf'ing in public, or in front of people in general? Yep, the more you do it the more comfortable you become. As long as you are attempting to cover up, there is nothing wrong with it, the baby has got to to eat!
Am I the only person who is uncomfortable with someone bf'ing right in front of me?
I'm actually surprised by all of the responses on this question. I think it is a beautiful, wonderful thing and actually feel so happy whenever I see another woman bf'ing. It has never made me uncomfortable whatsoever.
I do BF.
It would be really interesting to save this post and read it a year from now for you guys, because I would have said the same thing a year ago that some of you have said.
I never ever thought I would nurse in public, but when you have a hungry baby sometimes there is no way around it. My kid will not tolerate anything on his head, at all, and hasn't since he was 3 months old, so all my nursing covers are worthless. I always wear a nursing tank (so my gut won't show) and try to get loose-fitting tops so I can be discreet, but I have giant boobs. I have learned not to care. I pumped and tried to keep a bottle with me so I wouldn't have to do this when he was littler, but when I am out for a long time with no pump, I need to BF...and sometimes it isn't as easy as "just bring a bottle of pumped milk". And in my own house, whoever sees my boobs that is their own problem.
I am BFing.
Every single Dr. & nurse in the NICU has seen my breasts. I just...don't care. Trust me, you won't either. What's more important--your baby eating or covering up your boobs.
I think you will soon learn that some babies do not like to be covered up while they're BF-ing. Locking yourself in a room to feed your baby (by the way, sometimes you will be feeding him/her every hour in the beginning) kind of infers that you are ashamed of it, which isn't a good thing.
Good luck!
I felt the same way until I had my baby. By the time I left the hospital so many people had seen me, lifted me, squeezed me, groped me and BF'ing was so difficult that the last thing I thought about was being modest. I was just trying with everything I had to get that LO to latch on! It didn't help that DD had to go back into the hospital and the whole time I was using a supplemental device, which made exposure pretty much inevitable.
I think you probably get used to it-- maybe not ever totally comfortable with it, but more than before.
You bf'd for 27 mos?
You will probably be very suprised once you have the baby. I am THE MOST MODEST person in the world. Once I had the baby that changed. In the hospital people, nurses, and doctors are walking in and out at all hours. You really can't hide it there. Then once I came home I didn't want to have to go in my bedroom everytime I wanted to breastfeed if we had friends/family over. If it's my friends or my side of the family I stay in the living room and just cover up. I won't bf in my living room if DH's family is over though- I will go in my bedroom. As for being in public, honestly you may change your mind. If there are times when DD really needs to eat and there is no other option I will cover up and nurse her in public. Before I had a child, I was always like there is NO WAY I would bf in public. I don't just pull my boob out but have it covered so noone even really knows what I am doing.
Yes, I plan to BF. I'm freaked out by all the baby shows where moms say it's too hard a quit.
No, not in public or in front of people. I am very private and I don't want people lurking about when I try to feed LO.
Ditto this....early on I was very discreet, hiding in corners and dark rooms, but as time passed I became less concerned. Don't get me wrong, I don't just whip out a boob in front of just anyone, strangers, etc. But with family (DH's or my own) I don't have a problem BFing in front of them. I wear a nursing tank too to cover my body while I do it.
At events with my mom's group its not a big deal. In other company I usually ask and I don't typically do it in front of men other than DH or family, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Pumping and bottle-feeding just isn't always an option.
Like Patty said, I'd be curious to hear your answers to this 3-6 months after you have your baby
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I wish everyone the best of luck.
Not all babies will allow themselves to be covered with a blanket or cover (hell, I wouldn't want to be covered either).
Covers and blankets totally advertise what you are doing, whereas many times experienced mothers are so discreet people don't know they are feeding at all. And the problem with covers and blankets early on is that you often need to see what you are doing to make sure you are getting a good latch.
I would not necessarily be comfortable 'whipping it out' and being exposed - so I expect in the beginning, I'll be more likely to excuse myself to a private area, but my bottom line is that if baby needs to eat, baby needs to eat. I refuse to be ashamed of feeding my baby - I have every legal right to do so when and where I please. If someone is uncomfortable, they are under no obligation to watch.
I will try to be respectful and not put on a performance or strip tease, but someone may see my boob at some point. They'll deal with it.
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Sure did, and wouldn't change it for the world!
No offense to the pp, but this is kind of a hard poll to answer before baby is born. I know my answers before Laney came would be totally different than they are now.
As far as BF in front of people goes, nursing (actually any type of feeding) takes 30-40+ minutes to complete. Newborns nurse every three hours or so, so you have maybe a little more than 2 hours between feeding and getting ready to feed. It would be pretty hard to ever leave the house or have visitors if you never fed in front of others. They make great "hooter hiders" and clothes that let you be super discreet. So, there is no reason to equate nursing with exposing yourself.
I plan on breastfeeding - and my goal is to do it until he is 1 year. I myself, don't think I will feel confomfortable BFing in public - but I've never been in that situation before - maybe I'll feel differently and more open to it once I've been breastfeeding for a while.
I don't feel uncomfortable with people BFing in front of me, unless they are completely exposing themselves. If they are discreet it doesn't bother me at all.
Yes, I will BF.
Yes, I will (and have!) BF'd in public. It's really, really not that huge of a deal! There are ways to be discreet about it, and honestly, once you've given birth, you'll feel like the whole world has seen your privates anyway, so what's the difference between them seeing your boobs too! And in front of other people, like family and friends- hell yes. I BF'd in front of my father, my FIL, my sister's boyfriends... if they're in my house, and my kid is hungry, I am going to feed him/her! If I could go to a quiet place and bf alone, I'd do that first, but sometimes, that's just not an option.