Adoption..

paigenicole07

Today out of the blue I started thinking about adoption, about having this be our only baby and then adopting in a year or so, maybe doing foster care... I'm not sure if its just my hormones, or what. .But I was just wondering if anyone else has had this run through their mind.. or has adopted a child, along with having your "own" child?

whitdog23

My older brother was adopted. ?He is the same as a biological sibling in my mind. ?I'm a huge proponent of adoption.?

courtney_lynne

My DH and I have a definite plan to adopt at some point, when we are more finacially settled and settled in one place. we talked about before we got married. I am PG with our 2nd and we plan to have at least 2 more of our own if everything works out, and we would like to eventually adopt at least two if not more older children (not babies, children who may otherwise be looked over for a permanent family) 

 

Courtney

Liss_37

my dh is adopted and is a huge advocate of adoption from foster care. It's something that we have talked about in length and will be considering for our 2nd child.

JaysonandKristin

There are 2 couples on my street who have adopted after having a biological child. ?I love seeing the families interact as though there is no difference. ?I think it is beautiful to see a true family. ?My husband and I only wanted one child, so we have no plans to adopt, but I am absolutely open to the idea should we ever feel that it is absolutely the right time for us to do so. ?

Assembly_Reqd

We started researching adoption because we thought it might be the only way to build our family. We went to an adoption seminar at an agency and I lurked a bit on the Adoption board here. Some of the stuff the ladies over there have to go through is crazy and I admire their dedication. I don't know if I would be able to deal with all of the uncertainty (and BS to be frank) of the adoption process.

Now that I know I can get pregnant (and stay that way hopefully) I wouldn't consider adoption because I would feel like I was taking a baby from someone who couldn't have one naturally.

paigenicole07

courtney_lynne:

My DH and I have a definite plan to adopt at some point, when we are more finacially settled and settled in one place. we talked about before we got married. I am PG with our 2nd and we plan to have at least 2 more of our own if everything works out, and we would like to eventually adopt at least two if not more older children (not babies, children who may otherwise be looked over for a permanent family) 

 

Courtney

thats what I was thinking... older children, mainly because they get overlooked so much more

DiscusCoach

We had talked about this before we were pg. We did a lot of research and were looking at adoption 2 little boys from Russia. There are so many places out there that will assist (for a fee...) and there were SO many politics involved. Then you get in to the regions cultures. Jeesh. For example - it is difficult to adopt girls from Russia. Russians adopt little girls but there is a cultural issue with handing down what you have worked for to a boy that is not of the same blood.
It is so interesting.
Good luck!

Sheeks88

My older sisters are adopted, and I am a fan of it. DH and I talked about it a long time ago. I also think I would want a older child.

Max'smom

If financially able I would love to adopt in a few years.

pharmernicole

yep.. same thought... all the time... we would love to adopt our second..

TXSweetheart

Assembly_Reqd:

We started researching adoption because we thought it might be the only way to build our family. We went to an adoption seminar at an agency and I lurked a bit on the Adoption board here. Some of the stuff the ladies over there have to go through is crazy and I admire their dedication. I don't know if I would be able to deal with all of the uncertainty (and BS to be frank) of the adoption process.

Now that I know I can get pregnant (and stay that way hopefully) I wouldn't consider adoption because I would feel like I was taking a baby from someone who couldn't have one naturally.

This, although I think that last line should not apply to anyone willing to open their home to an international or an older child.  While many couples wait years and years to adopt an infant from an American birthmother, the world actually has more children in need of a home than parents willing/capable of providing one.  Internationally, thousands of orphans need homes, but many couples are unaware or unwilling to jump through all of the unknowns and red tape that go along with international adoptions, especially from some of the more impoverished countries.  And here in the states, our systems are completely overrun with older children in desperate need of a loving home.  I admire anyone willing to open their home to an adopted child, especially an older child...so many of those kids need extra time and love and attention, I worry I wouldn't be able to give everything it took, emotionally, to an older child, especially if it was at the expense of my other children.  I think it takes an incredibly selfless, patient and loving person to be an adoptive parent.  They are my heroes. 

getnmarried910

We have plans to adopt someday.  Not exactly sure when though.

justrachet

TXSweetheart:

the world actually has more children in need of a home than parents willing/capable of providing one.  Internationally, thousands of orphans need homes, but many couples are unaware or unwilling to jump through all of the unknowns and red tape that go along with international adoptions, especially from some of the more impoverished countries.  And here in the states, our systems are completely overrun with older children in desperate need of a loving home. 

I had always wanted to adopt children (not infants) in my earlier years. Giving birth has never been appealing to me, and I thought: why put myself through that when there are countless children who need a loving home, which I could provide? Now that I'm having my own child, I'm thrilled, but my heart still goes out to the abused, neglected, parentless, and/or homeless children of the world.

DH and I have a dream to open a home for street kids in Kenya. We won't be able to adopt all of them, and for that reason, I think we won't adopt any of them. I just can't see us choosing a few to adopt legally (thus giving them more opportunities for their future, by having a mother who is a US citizen), but leaving the others in the orphanage. I don't think anyone knows how many children are living in the streets in that city. I know that we won't possibly be able to provide for them all, but we'll take in as many as we can.