Finding out the gender confession...

jmac22

This may sound strange to some of you, especially those who don't already have kids but I am seriously worried about finding out the gender of our baby.  We go on Monday for our big u/s and I'm so afraid that if it's a boy, DD will be so sad because even though she just turned 3, she has her heart set on a little sister.  I know that she'll be fine either way but her feelings and emotions are what I worry about when it comes to having another baby.  Also, DH LOVES his little girl (DD) but I know he'd really like to have a boy too.  I just feel like either way, one of them is going to be a tad disappointed and it makes me nervous.  I guess better to find out now and "prepare" than to wait until the birth and have to deal with even more emotions. 

mh2t

Actually - I would say this is one reason to wait to find out.  I think they'd be more likely to stay disappointed for longer if there is no baby to play with.  Once the baby is born, I'm sure they'll both fall in love right away, no matter what. 

For example - when I was 13, my mom got pregnant with my little brother (the fifth child).  I was so mad at my parents throughout the whole pregnancy - we didn't have much money and all I could think of was that we were going to be homeless because they couldn't afford us.  It took me about two minutes to fall in love with him once he was born, though.

SaraBobby

I went through these same emotions... I have a Stepdaughter... and DH wanted a Son SO bad!!!! And of course his dad wanted a boy to carry on the name and my mom and dad were hoping for a boy... THEN my stepdaughter sided with them and was telling everyone she wanted a brother!! At our big ultrasound I was SO worried, and I am not going to lie... it took DH a bit to come around. He seemed disappointed, but now it's all about "The Girls" And once she is here she will be his other little princess... It stink about the emotions you go through with it, but no matter what you have everyone will be crazy excited!

jmac22

SaraBobby:

I went through these same emotions... I have a Stepdaughter... and DH wanted a Son SO bad!!!! And of course his dad wanted a boy to carry on the name and my mom and dad were hoping for a boy... THEN my stepdaughter sided with them and was telling everyone she wanted a brother!! At our big ultrasound I was SO worried, and I am not going to lie... it took DH a bit to come around. He seemed disappointed, but now it's all about "The Girls" And once she is here she will be his other little princess... It stink about the emotions you go through with it, but no matter what you have everyone will be crazy excited!

 Thank you for understanding and sharing your experience with me.  I've seriously been losing sleep over this the past four nights.  I also think it's because of the excitement that goes along with it.  "The Girls" - I love it!

get_over_yourself

I will say I am a touch nervous about dd too. All her friends have sisters and all she talks about is having a sister. We were not sure if we were going to find out with this baby but I think we will just because if it is a boy I want her to get used to that. I am not sure if she is old enough to be upset but I just don't want her calling my belly her sister only to get a brother in the end, I want to give her some time to get used to a brother

jmac22

get_over_yourself:

I will say I am a touch nervous about dd too. All her friends have sisters and all she talks about is having a sister. We were not sure if we were going to find out with this baby but I think we will just because if it is a boy I want her to get used to that. I am not sure if she is old enough to be upset but I just don't want her calling my belly her sister only to get a brother in the end, I want to give her some time to get used to a brother

Yes!  That is the best way to put it - Give them time to get used to a brother!  That is exactly what I'm thinking and it's so good to hear others are thinking the same way.

pollykinz

I can relate, I was nervous about ours too for that reason. I wanted a girl, DH wanted a boy and although we both really just wanted a healthy baby, I knew that one of us would be a little let down once we found out. But in the end, DH was so excited about it being a boy that I couldn't not feel excited too - he was so cute. I'm sure your DD will be okay either way, it just might take a few days for her to adjust if it's not a girl. GL!!