Did you wait longer to tell people this time?

FALLENWINGZ11

My last m/c was a CP and it sucked. We found out we were PG the 22 of december & told everyone xmas morning cause we were so excited. I started spotting xmas and by the time new years rolled around I had m/c. It was awful, everyone had been so happy for us.

We are being a lot more cautious this time and will wait to tell most people at 12/13 weeks. We would like to tell our parents but are afraid to do so b/c we both felt so bad calling them with the news last time. I could hear their hearts breaks just like mine did. We were thinking once we see the HB which is supposed to be next week to tell them but I am still having doubts. I just want to share  the excitement with them but I dont know!

Any thoughts?

Lucky428

This was pregnancy #4 for us, and immediately followed a m/c.  We told our parents and my sister immediately.  I was a complete wreck and I needed a lot of support.

I waited a while to tell anyone else though.

It's a tough thing, and only you know what's right.  

WearingRed

I told my MIL the day we got the BFP. I was so afraid last time to tell anyone I waited till 10+ weeks to tell everyone and then found out the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks at our 11 week appointment. My MIL was so supportive and even came down to help me out with house work and cooking  after the D&C. I know its a bit selfish to say this but If something were to happen I would want her here again. We told my FIL becuase DH felt guilty telling mom but not dad. I am going to tell my Mom this weekend after I get my second beta's in. And then my dad too. I will tell my BFF, if she promises to keep it secret from her mom, this weekend too. Everyone else will find out either around 12 week (my DH birthday is around that time) or when we see them and I can't hide how I am feeling. I not really keep it secret but I not calling people up to share (out side of family).

I have taken "I love this baby and I want him/her to have all the Love he/she can have no matter how short or long a life God is going to give him/her!" way of thinking.

julia&jared

We waited longer this time to tell. We told at 21w after our big u/s. I just felt that I could not deal with anything more if something did go wrong so that was the day in my head when I was able to relax a bit. And since then I have really felt more confident about the pregnancy. We did tell my dad and mom and sister at 14-16w. It was just because they decided on having a surprise visit then and I still had a lot of morning sickness and they were wondering why I was so moody with DH so we decided to tell. Otherwise everyone would have been in the dark till after the u/s. I say tell who you want to tell when you want to tell. I would keep it a small pool (so like parents if they can keep a secret) so that you can talk to them if you need to about any fears/concerns. It was hard to keep it a secret but  DH was really good about it and we would talk a lot to each other about it so that helped. It was neat to know that we could keep it a secrct for so long , I never thought that I could. GL

MsZoeB

We had our BFP and told the same dates as you did, only I m/c on the 27th. We were so excited and crushed by the m/c and retelling everyone. But they were the best support.

This time, we told my family soon after our BFP. I do too much with them not to know. 

We waited till our first u/s at about 9 weeks to tell his family. They were so excited.

We won't tell anyone else until the end of the first-tri but it is killing us.

I come back to the statement of who would you like support from if you were to have a loss. They should be the people that you tell. You should celebrate this pregnancy with joy. Certainly, be cautious but I wouldn't be so cautious that you don't celebrate.

myafoo

My sister was the first to know because I was in MN visiting her and I tested the day I left.  She's that important to me, though.

We aren't telling our parents til about 10 weeks and then we'll tell other people at 13 wks.

ENev

Definitely waited longer this time.

Told everyone last time (family and friends) and had to share the bad news over and over again, it sucked. 

I told my mom and best friend right away this time and that was it. We waited to even tell our parents and siblings until 12 weeks this time.

emma9

told my sister right away will tell my parents after my 2nd u/s...we'll see DH's family this weekend  but are going to wait to tell them until this October when we head out for one of his nieces' b day party in New Jersey -

I love the idea of surprising them with my belly bump

I'll tell my close friends after next week's u/s too My principal when school starts ( i'll be 11 weeks) and other co workers after the NT scan

lovesinthehouse

We only told family last time about the pregnancy, but ended up telling all of our friends about the m/c because I was so devastated. I decided then that I would want the prayer/support and people to share my joy the next time around.

So far, so good. People are really excited for us. Nervous too, but lifting us up in prayer. I want to enjoy this pregnancy as if I never miscarried.

mistral

We told my sister right away and a close friend about two weeks ago.  Everyone else will have to wait until after 1st tri.  I guess I'm afraid that the more people we tell, the more real it will seem and the more excited I'll get, which will make me even more devastated if something goes wrong :-(

mybobble

W/ my 1st pg we told everyone at 6.5 wks only to tell them 1 wk later that it was an ectopic pg.

W/ this pg I told my mom at 7 wks after it was confirmed that the baby was in the right place. We told everyone else at 13 wks.