Quitting job bc of IF, IVF, misc testing, etc...

svp1537

I think there are a couple of women on this board that have done this...  i tried to find pp about it, but couldn't.

Could you give me some advice if you have quit your job bc of IF. How you broke the news to your boss, did you give them the 2 week notice?

I am feeling very overwhelmed since my 2nd IVF failed, and my husband & I have decided that it is probably best if I quit my current job and maybe find something part time or less stressful when needed.

Please share your advice! Thanks!!!!

MerryMarisa

Oh, I'm so sorry for everything you've been through.  I definitely agree with working part time/doing less stressful work.  I left my last job because my boss was completely insane (she verbally and emotionally abused all the staff, leaving us so traumatized).  I felt much better once I left and I'm a lot less stressed out at my new job.

I just told my old boss I needed a change, wanted to do something different and gave her two weeks notice.  I didn't say anything about IF to her.  Hope this helps and good luck!

caityr

You def do not need to mention IF. I wish you luck in finding something more calm with better hours for your needs. You have to def put yourself first at this time.

Dr.Loretta

I have not done this, but I would say you don't need to tell your boss why you are quitting just put in your notice.

Dragonfly1226

I just wanted to wish you the best of luck! I hope you find a situation that is less stressful for you. IF is stressful enough!

Mainer-in-Texas

I have not done this, but I have decided to talk to HR about FMLA to see if I can start taking unpaid leave (if I run out of sick time) for doctor's appointments, so, I would basically be going down to semi-part time if they allow me to do it. Based on talking to my coworkers, this shouldn't be a problem because my employer is very liberal with it's interpretation of FMLA laws.

ChiTown Bridget

First off...I am so sorry about all that you have been through! IF is so stressful. I start part time at my job next week. I work in a medical office and I was lucky that a part-time position opened in my office and I was able to take it. My job is soo stressful and since I have enough stress with IF, I felt like part-time was the way to go. I didn't need anymore stress. I was also very upfront with my boss from the start of IVF. She hates when people take time off and I was really nervous to tell her. She wasn't overly supportive but oh well. In my opinion taking care of myself comes before my job!

LCB34

Like PP mentioned, you are not obligated to tell your employer about IF being your reason for resigning. 

I have not been in your shoes as far as quitting my job goes.  However, DH and I have talked and are contemplating me taking a 2-4 weeks unpaid leave of absence during our next IVF attempt.  It will be our last shot at a fresh cycle as we are 100% OOP and have set our "boundaries" with how far we will go with IF treatment. 

I completely understand your need to decrease stress and focus on your family right now.  I hope and pray that the perfect part time job comes up!

 

terraflora

I can totally understand the  motivation.  It has crossed my mind many times to do this, but I'm hanging on for now.  If I was to quit or go down to part time I wouldn't say anything about the IF.  If you really wanted to say  some explanation you could always say "health issues".  That's what I told my office about my many appts and the fact that I can't travel right now. 

Good luck. It is good that you're focused on making the changes you need to reduce stress.  If you can do it, do it!  

PittTexan

I agree with most of the pp's...IF is none of your company's business.

My last resignation letter went something along the lines of "I regret to inform you that I am resigning my position effective (in two weeks).".  That's it.

The less you say the better really.

GL and ((hugs)) to you!

cheekyali

i am in the same boat- i am planning on quitting my job becuase of stress, IF, m/c, IVF, and the loss of my Mom a few months ago. I have been at my job for 14 yrs so it is going to be difficult, but we need to put our sanity first!

good luck to you!

svp1537

Thanks everyone for your posts! Your advice will help

flutterby918

I totally understand where you are coming from. I stayed home sick today because I needed a mental health day, and I am not even going through a medicated cycle right now, I just can't stand my job.

But I am scared to quit - the economy is so bad and CA is such an expensive state to live in!

And when it comes to notice - I regret to inform you I am resigning my position starting on this day. Thanks for the opportunities that you have given me. Bye. That's all you have to say.

GL!!!