I'm curious about how you all feel on this topic. After a couple of weekends with my folks staying in my home with us (they recently moved out of town to their retirement home), it's become clear to me that my plan of having my Mom stay with us often to assist with baby care might not be the best plan. I love her to death, but I like my privacy. A LOT. And I'm worried that the stress of having them in our house a few times a month will negate the benefit of the respite they provide us.
So, that means I'll have to rethink the use of daycare. Mind you, as a pharmacist, my schedule is super-flexible and I think my boss is willing to work with me on a plan to work mostly evenings/weekends for the first year - meaning I'l only need an afternoon or two of daycare a week.
There are those who feel that as an adoptive parent, it's not "right" of me to put a child in daycare. As in, "Why did you want a child if you were just going to put it in daycare?"
I'm guessing there's strong feelings on the topic even in our own group. Let's hear 'em!