This is not my first pregnancy!

Johanneswomann

I can understand people that don't know anything about my history talking about me being a first time mom, or telling me how long a first pregnancy takes, blah blah blah.....but I am really getting tired of people that do know making comments.  LIke my doctors for instance.  They keep saying, "SInce this is your first...." --I lost my child at seven months - actually it was almost eight.  She died.  I was induced.  I have been through labor and everyone is acting like I don't know what it's like.  "Oh you'll know what pain feels like when you actually go into labor..."  Try going through labor when your child is dead with no pain killers.  Believe me, if anyone knows pain, it's me.  Trust me on that one.  I know I am hormonal and all, but this is really starting to irk me. 

At first, I figured they were just considering this my first because I was induced, but I know people that had babies at 28 weeks that lived and did just fine.  Was that not their first child?  I have been a mom for quite a while now, I just don't have a child yet. 

Ok, vent over.  sorry.  I just had to get that one out.

mikkimikey

I can't imagine the pain that you must feel when someone says that to you.  I am so sorry that some people can be so insensitive!!

GardeningLady

Oh god, that is horrible - I'd completely snap at anyone who said anything like that to me.  Especially the doctors, they should know!  Unfortunately some just have too much on their plates to remember important aspects of our histories.

Sorry you are dealing with this - and sorry for what you went through.  Truly horrendous. 

BeachBride72106

Amen!!!  So sorry you are not getting the support you need, especially from your doctors.

Rossi17

It is annoying! Sorry you have to go through that. You should remind your doctors, and ask them if women whose babies survive at 28 weeks don't know what labor is like.

Johanneswomann

btw, i just wanted to point out that that post was not in response to the comments on my previous post...I just thought about it after reading your comments.  I know you didn't know or mean anything by it.   I just got to thinkin...

 

sgrl

That is so rough - I'm sorry

AB&TB

Hugs!

I am sorry that so many have been so insensitive.  Especially the doctors...they should know just as well as you what you have been through.

jinnymb

You are completely right!!  I'm so sorry you've been through that and that people are insensitive to it.  Maybe gently reminding them would keep those comments at bay. You are not only a mom already but an amazing and brave one!!!