~*~Mad Mondays!~*~

sarahkatherine8

It's Mad Monday ladies! Feel free to post vents, silly comments people have made recently, or ridiculous stories that we can all relate to! Even post little things that might bother you to get them off your chest! Any responses should be flame free of course.

s.s.girl

We took the babies to get their pics taken recently and a woman asked if they were born early. When I told her they were 8 weeks early, her response, "You must have been so happy you were probably really uncomfortable."

People are so clueless. Who in their right mind would be happy about premature babies, NICU stays etc? I did everything I could to keep them in for as long as possible. I wish I had a snappy comeback but I was to shocked to even respond. ?

mcdev

My vent is completely not baby related, but WHY IS MY HOUSE ALWAYS A FREAKING MESS? ?I am a stay at home mom and I swear I just walk around in circles all day long....picking up toys, wiping up spills, sweeping up dog hair...it is a never ending (losing) battle. ?How do people do it?! ?Where do people put their "stuff"? ?I feel like I have piles everywhere and nothing has a true home. ?And the mail?! ?Don't get me started!! ?3/4 of it is junk I end up throwing out, but it is taking over my house. ?AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! ?

FutureMrsDenman

mcdev - do you live at my house?  Minus the dog hair I feel the same way.  I have a Homemade Gourmet party at my house on Wednesday and I am looking around wondering what kind of miracle it will take to have the house clean and guest ready by then.  The toys and toddler chaos consume most rooms of the house, and the piles ... oh the piles!  To make matters worse we had an ant invasion in the house and everything from one whole bank of my kitchen countertop is sitting on the breakfast table because the nts had over run the counter! 

sarahkatherine8

s.s.girl:

We took the babies to get their pics taken recently and a woman asked if they were born early. When I told her they were 8 weeks early, her response, "You must have been so happy you were probably really uncomfortable."

People are so clueless. Who in their right mind would be happy about premature babies, NICU stays etc? I did everything I could to keep them in for as long as possible. I wish I had a snappy comeback but I was to shocked to even respond.  

Are you serious??? Someone actually said this? I would have been too shocked to respond too!!

sarahkatherine8

mcdev-i totally agree except mine is cat hair & it's usually DH making the messes...especially leaving mail & papers everywhere!

lstaylor73

I'm such a mean mean mean girl, but honestly I'm so super amazingly thrilled that my little SIL is 40wks 3days today and that she has had no change in a week.  I'm hoping and praying she goes to 42 weeks.  Yes, she's miserable and uncomfortable, but I feel like she absolutely deserves it for every single time (and there were quite a few) that she complained to me about wanting her DS to come early and how I don't understand what it's like.  But she really has NO ability to appreciate how increadably lucky she's been to have a completely easy, normal, healthy, problem free pregnancy. 

*KatieH*

lstaylor73:

I'm such a mean mean mean girl, but honestly I'm so super amazingly thrilled that my little SIL is 40wks 3days today and that she has had no change in a week.? I'm hoping and praying she goes to 42 weeks.? Yes, she's miserable and uncomfortable, but I feel like she absolutely deserves it for every single time (and there were quite a few) that she complained to me about wanting her DS to come early and how I don't understand what it's like.? But she really has NO ability to appreciate how increadably lucky she's been to have a completely easy, normal, healthy, problem free pregnancy.?

Your SIL is in for a tough life lol ?

SBMBride406

lstaylor73:

I'm such a mean mean mean girl, but honestly I'm so super amazingly thrilled that my little SIL is 40wks 3days today and that she has had no change in a week.  I'm hoping and praying she goes to 42 weeks.  Yes, she's miserable and uncomfortable, but I feel like she absolutely deserves it for every single time (and there were quite a few) that she complained to me about wanting her DS to come early and how I don't understand what it's like.  But she really has NO ability to appreciate how increadably lucky she's been to have a completely easy, normal, healthy, problem free pregnancy. 

Poetic justice. Karma is probably punishing her for all the terrible things she said about your poor BIL!

lemen99

s.s.girl:

We took the babies to get their pics taken recently and a woman asked if they were born early. When I told her they were 8 weeks early, her response, "You must have been so happy you were probably really uncomfortable."

People are so clueless. Who in their right mind would be happy about premature babies, NICU stays etc? I did everything I could to keep them in for as long as possible. I wish I had a snappy comeback but I was to shocked to even respond.  

aw that's just horrible!

lemen99

We went to visit our friends from the NICU yesterday - they have triplets - I was amazing at how easy they made it look.  I could never do it!!!

I think we found a great nanny for our son!

 

TriciaJoy

Mine probably sounds dumb, but I keep replaying it in my head and it's bugging me.

Robbie is starting daycare August 18th. He's going to an in-home daycare owned by my dad's girlfriend'(let's call her my step-mother)'s sister.
I LOVE her and while I wish we could afford for me to stay home permanently, we can't, and this is the best place in the world for him other than with me.

She's completely willing to deal with the G tube and never made a fuss about it at all. I was just there today showing them how to use the pump and she was just great.

BUT.. over the weekend, my step-mother asked about when he's starting etc. I told her and she looked really concerned and said "I was REALLY surprised she was willing to take that on." (Meaning the G-tube.)

Now, I realize you don't see kids with G tubes every day, but seriously, you plug a tube in, you plug a bag into the tube, you hit start. It's actually EASIER than feeding a baby by mouth because there's no mess, they don't fight. Sure, it takes an hour for it to run in, but some kids need you to hold their bottles for an hour.. with Robbie, you just turn it on and let him be.

But she acted like it was some HUGE deal.. I don't know. It just rubbed me really the wrong way. I know she has NO clue.. but it still just pissed me off. Like she was calling my kid a big burden or something.

sarahkatherine8

triciajoy-I have to agree with the ease of it myself, as a nurse. It's not hard to do esp. if the person is willing to learn about it like your daycare provider. Sorry your stepmom doesn't see it this way. I think you're entitled to be a little irritated with that statement.

sarahkatherine8

lstaylor73:

I'm such a mean mean mean girl, but honestly I'm so super amazingly thrilled that my little SIL is 40wks 3days today and that she has had no change in a week.  I'm hoping and praying she goes to 42 weeks.  Yes, she's miserable and uncomfortable, but I feel like she absolutely deserves it for every single time (and there were quite a few) that she complained to me about wanting her DS to come early and how I don't understand what it's like.  But she really has NO ability to appreciate how increadably lucky she's been to have a completely easy, normal, healthy, problem free pregnancy. 

I secretly felt this way about one of DH's friends that kept asking me how I talked the doctors into delivering me so early. She went past her due date too & "just hated" being pregnant. She also asked for a c/s & got it (baby's head was too big to be fair). Then biitched about the super long incision. Not the brightest bulb...

sarahkatherine8

Though we've had lots of positives over the last week with Jackson, his reflux seems to have gotten worse with the start of zantac. I called the pedi's office today and they promised to call me back with answers or a new prescription and here it is 4:40pm and no call back yet. I feel so bad for him and am tired of watching him in pain every time he tries to eat. He screams between swallows, screams when we go to burp him, arches his back, acts like he has a bad taste in his mouth all the time, and still wakes up crying during naps with gas pains (despite our massages, mylicon before every bottle, tummy time, bicycling legs etc). We do gripe water at night and that seems to help a little initially, but doesn't last long. I called the office today because since Thursday, his eating habits have gone to crap. He usually takes about 4oz per feeding, sometimes three. The past couple of days this is a rarity. He is struggling just to take 2oz and that worries me. All of this weight gain is going to go out the window if he can't eat!

Ugh, that is what is really upsetting me. I wanted to switch his formula and they told us "not yet" but DH and I are seriously contemplating switching from the neosure anyway to see if it helps. Not sure what we should switch to though, so we were really hoping the pedi would give us suggestions. It just breaks my heart to see him like this. When he is feeling good he has been more playful and I think we've even seen a few real smiles in there, but he hardly ever feels good anymore. It sucks His sleeping was getting better too but the last couple nights we are back to the every 3 hours routine because he isn't eating enough during the day.

I really hope this is resolved before I head back to work in 3 weeks...

TriciaJoy

SK- I'd get off that neosure for sure. If it's just a matter of extra calories, you can mix regular formula a little bit stronger to make up the difference. Neosure is hard on a LOT of babies.

I think the most common formula here is Good Start (it's what we use, though we add it to my breastmilk)

As the mom of a baby with horrible reflux who gave up eating because he was just in too much pain too often, too long, please, take my advice (and your own) and do anything you can to get the pain to stop. If he's not eating well, it's only going to get worse.

 

kamcfarlane

today i'm generally just peeved. i'm mad about the RSV changes. i'm concerned that i have belly pain again that resembles my gallbladder pain (i had it out on june 5th), but glad the dr thinks it's just reflux, so i'm taking nexium.

and most of all, i'm sad for mckmamma and stellan. seriously, i've been super bummed all day. it does, however, remind me of how lucky i am in the end run, RSV shots or not.

lstaylor73

TriciaJoy:

SK- I'd get off that neosure for sure. If it's just a matter of extra calories, you can mix regular formula a little bit stronger to make up the difference. Neosure is hard on a LOT of babies.

I think the most common formula here is Good Start (it's what we use, though we add it to my breastmilk)

As the mom of a baby with horrible reflux who gave up eating because he was just in too much pain too often, too long, please, take my advice (and your own) and do anything you can to get the pain to stop. If he's not eating well, it's only going to get worse.

 

Ditto this exactly for me too!  

lstaylor73

TriciaJoy, I hear you on how easy it is to do the G tubes.  I went from taking over two hours to feed each baby (yeah, the math on that means that I spent 24hours a day trying to get them to eat a bottle) to having hours and hours and hours free to play, snuggle, rock, do therapy, dishes, whatever normal people do.  It was amazing how much life changed when we got the tubes.  In both good and bad ways.

sarahkatherine8

lstaylor73:

TriciaJoy:

SK- I'd get off that neosure for sure. If it's just a matter of extra calories, you can mix regular formula a little bit stronger to make up the difference. Neosure is hard on a LOT of babies.

I think the most common formula here is Good Start (it's what we use, though we add it to my breastmilk)

As the mom of a baby with horrible reflux who gave up eating because he was just in too much pain too often, too long, please, take my advice (and your own) and do anything you can to get the pain to stop. If he's not eating well, it's only going to get worse.

 

Ditto this exactly for me too!  

The doc's office called back with a prescription for prevacid but we really are going to have to change formula...if he is eating half as much he isn't getting the calories anyway! DH wants to try Target brand for sensitive stomachs...any thoughts on this?

sarahkatherine8

lstaylor73:

TriciaJoy:

SK- I'd get off that neosure for sure. If it's just a matter of extra calories, you can mix regular formula a little bit stronger to make up the difference. Neosure is hard on a LOT of babies.

I think the most common formula here is Good Start (it's what we use, though we add it to my breastmilk)

As the mom of a baby with horrible reflux who gave up eating because he was just in too much pain too often, too long, please, take my advice (and your own) and do anything you can to get the pain to stop. If he's not eating well, it's only going to get worse.

 

Ditto this exactly for me too!  

The doc's office called back with a prescription for prevacid but we really are going to have to change formula...if he is eating half as much he isn't getting the calories anyway! DH wants to try Target brand for sensitive stomachs...any thoughts on this?

FutureMrsDenman

Relative vent - she called to beat a very long dead horse today right as I was working on dinner and trying to feed Madeline.  The phone call went on and on and on and on and I was about to really raise my voice and loose it or say something I should regret later (but might not really regret ... just because).  She doesn't believe ANY of the research about smoking or 2nd hand smoke or 3rd hand smoke.  We're unfairly keeping DD from her (which we're not, we just don't want her in the smoke filled apartment) because everyone she knows who grew up in a smoke filled house turned out fine.  AND ... she doesn't believe in EI and thinks that it is completely wrong for me to allow them to be in my house with DD and for me to listen to any of their advice.  She said that I am the mother and that I should be the one parenting my child.  As if EI reps are parenting my child.  Give me a break.  ACK!  45 min of this and I was DONE.

sarahkatherine8

FutureMrsDenman:

Relative vent - she called to beat a very long dead horse today right as I was working on dinner and trying to feed Madeline.  The phone call went on and on and on and on and I was about to really raise my voice and loose it or say something I should regret later (but might not really regret ... just because).  She doesn't believe ANY of the research about smoking or 2nd hand smoke or 3rd hand smoke.  We're unfairly keeping DD from her (which we're not, we just don't want her in the smoke filled apartment) because everyone she knows who grew up in a smoke filled house turned out fine.  AND ... she doesn't believe in EI and thinks that it is completely wrong for me to allow them to be in my house with DD and for me to listen to any of their advice.  She said that I am the mother and that I should be the one parenting my child.  As if EI reps are parenting my child.  Give me a break.  ACK!  45 min of this and I was DONE.

Kudos to you for putting up with 45 minutes of it, you have more control than I do that is for sure I hate when people refuse to believe research, especially when it provides solid evidence to support your case. So much ignorance all around today it sounds like... 

TriciaJoy

FutureMrsDenman:

Relative vent - she called to beat a very long dead horse today right as I was working on dinner and trying to feed Madeline.  The phone call went on and on and on and on and I was about to really raise my voice and loose it or say something I should regret later (but might not really regret ... just because).  She doesn't believe ANY of the research about smoking or 2nd hand smoke or 3rd hand smoke.  We're unfairly keeping DD from her (which we're not, we just don't want her in the smoke filled apartment) because everyone she knows who grew up in a smoke filled house turned out fine.  AND ... she doesn't believe in EI and thinks that it is completely wrong for me to allow them to be in my house with DD and for me to listen to any of their advice.  She said that I am the mother and that I should be the one parenting my child.  As if EI reps are parenting my child.  Give me a break.  ACK!  45 min of this and I was DONE.

 Oh. hell. no.
The best reaction I would have had would have been to hang up. The worst would have involved foul language.

FutureMrsDenman

sarahkatherine8:

Kudos to you for putting up with 45 minutes of it, you have more control than I do that is for sure I hate when people refuse to believe research, especially when it provides solid evidence to support your case. So much ignorance all around today it sounds like... 

After 45 min I handed the phone to my DH who had literally just walked in the door coming home from work.  It was totaly wrong of me to ambush him like that but I seriously couldn't handle it any longer!  Sad thing is, we'll have the exact same conversation in a few weeks.

FutureMrsDenman

TriciaJoy:

 Oh. hell. no.
The best reaction I would have had would have been to hang up. The worst would have involved foul language.

I may very well turn to one of those reactions when this all starts up again in a few weeks!