BF concerns

kellmo

Hey all!

So to start off I always said when I have a baby I was going to bf because of how good it is for the baby. My SIL bf both her lo so she is big on talking people into it. So she of course keeps telling me I better do it.

 My friend just had a baby and I visit her alot and her baby. She bf her. After being around her it seems scary to me the idea of bf. Her baby was on her boob like every 30min.

How do you go somewhere? grocery shopping? I don't want to sound selfish but I honestly don't get it. Like I'm going to a wedding 1 month after the baby is born. Will I have to lug around my pump?? She just made it seem sooo scary and hard?? Is it not that bad??? I feel like if I fail at doing this my SIL will give me a hard time.

charmgal

It is hard at first. They need to nurse frequently. But it gets much easier over time. You have to make a decision for yourself that it's worth it. But it shouldn't seem scary to you. I suggest taking a class on breastfeeding.  That might help ease your fears.

And you shouldn't have to take your pump with you to a wedding.  if you are uncomfortable nursing in public, then just pump a bottle beforehand to take with you.

theta

Breastfeeding is a very personal decision.  Just try to keep that in mind when people are giving their strong opinions.  I was hell bent on breastfeeding.  However, when my son was born, I was faced with many challenges.  I persisted and between being really committed, having a good pump and good support (family, dr's and lactation consultants) I was able to get to where I am today. 

Do what is best for you and your baby. 

mrsrobinsontobe

i wrote this post myself just before i had my daughter 3 yrs ago...the idea of nursing is overwhelming and foreign...but when you do it, i  can't explain, but it's awesome, rewarding and so easy!!! yes, you will have to pump at the wedding, but seriously, it will become the least of your concerns...you'll likely just want to leave early! i remember being so scared...then i met my daughter, and all that changed! good luck!

part of what's annoying is someone telling you that "you better do it" that's the wrong approach...it makes people want to go in the other direction...sil should zip it!!!

kellmo

Thanks so much for all the advice!!!

MeghanF13

In the very beginning I nursed quite often - their stomachs are little and can't hold much for very long. However, within a week or so she was going longer stretches between feedings - especially when out (she falls asleep in the wrap and the stroller so whenever I go out she usually sleeps). You will be surprised at how much will change over the course of a month. You should be fine for the wedding. Hopefully there will be a place you can nurse in private, or you will feel comfortable enough to nurse under a canopy. You could aslo pump and bring a bottle as someone else suggested (I don't pump myself - I only breastfeed straight from the breast). You will find what works for you pretty quickly....and you'll be surprised at how quickly you'll get comfortable with feeding in public when you have a crying hungry baby! And breastfeeding is awesome - it is such a bond with your baby...the feeling is indescribable....

ficklefiona

i knew i always wanted to bf but i was still a little scared about it before dd was born. all i can say is that for me it just kind of fell into place when she born. not to say it did not hurt or i wasn't uncomfortable because i was. but there was something about nursing her that made it completly worthwhile. if you do decide to nurse you will figure it all out.?

that being said you need to do what's best for you and your lo. don't worry about sil or anyone else.

also,?

the book the womanly art of breastfeeding was also a huge help for me.

goodluck!

mrs.baum

It is hard at first and for the first 3 months of DS life he BF almost every hour. I worked really hard on practicing NIP so I could get out of the house. Will your LO be w/you at the wedding?

kellmo

No my LO will not be at the wedding. Adults only. I wouldn't go but it's my cousins wedding and we are very close.